Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies Part 2

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Our 2nd thread is full but it won't prevent us from laughing, moaning, keeping on supporting each other, sharing and chatting over our new life with 1 or 2, even 5 children !
Here you go, fantastic 40+ Mums, a brand new thread for all of us, old friends from the pregnancy thread or new joiners

Eagle, I m so sorry to hear that DH is ill. Hope he gets better soon. Thinking of you.
Cycle, great to hear from you !
MrsW, really really hope drugs will help DD settle a bit, how are you feeling ?
Scarecrow, Chairman, Somewhere, LRM, well done on the buggy fit enrollment, diet/fast and weight loss.
Goat, are you now breathing with marking behind you ? How s baby G ?

I can't keep up, busy as ever but have this feeling that nothing gets done though. But I m here, reading if not posting.
Wave to all, Knicky, Midget, Seaside and every one else

Mrs w. Sorry to hear you are having it rough but you are so positive about it and yes it shall pass. Baby has woken so many times last couple of weeks. So shattered. I know you had this baby goat so how is he mummy g now?
Bhb. How's a doing with her sleeping? I fed twice last night and dp cuddled twice. I am hoping by. 11 months he is better or I will be knackered. Decided to go back part time. Dp has been great about it all. So little fella in nursery all day Monday and 2 other half days. I have had to step down as a manager but my choice and be glad of less stress to be honest. I will be a team coordinator so still got responsibility. But can walk away less stressy.

DS is off to Kew today with his nursery's friends. Hope it won't rain.

bbd I'm off to Kew today with T and DD. I also hope won't rain!!

Well done on making up your mind LRM. Quality of life and well balanced family/work life is so important. You will enjoy. And D will too. You worked hard to get to management level, you will get back to it later if you feel like it. AFM, my first main job is looking after DCs, earning my living comes after but I realise I m very lucky to have a supporting DH.

Scarecrow, I'll PM you

mrsw glad you have a diagnosis and that treatment is helping. What a relief for you both. I hope he's napping soon and giving you some time to yourself. You deserve cake and chillage!

lrm it's good to sort a work/life balance. Job stress is doable if batteries can be recharged at home. Hopefully baby monkey will start sleeping through one he has some time at nursery. It certainly helped DS on his way towards sleeping through.

eagle it sounds like you're going through a worrying time. I hope you're getting lots of RL support as well as all of us in the snug sending hugs and emergency cake. Also sending you a virtual massage.

Well, I've been to buggy fit twice this week and decorated every spare minute. Also not touched any cake or biscuits all week. Feeling motivated to really get back into shape. I met a lovely woman at buggy fit who is a fellow shorty and has a similar amount of weight to lose and we've promised to spur each other on.

Other than that I'm feeling a bit odd this week - I ovulated and it's slightly freaked me out. I've always been able to feel it, which has really helped with ttc, but it was very painful this time and it just seemed so pointless. I feel quite strange about the fact I won't ever get pregnant again. Time to go back on the pill and get over it!

Loving the random hair comments. Mine is the only bit of me I've been consistently happy with. I felt too sick to have it cut during pregnancy (couldn't cope with it being touched), so it's long at the mo and I really like it. Greys are marching ever onward though, and very visible as hair is dark. To dye or not to dye?

We're too young to dye! Mwahaha.

DS asked : Mummy, why did you paint some of your hair in white ? Then paused and added: Grandma has a white wig on top of her black hair !
I dyed my hair 6 months ago for the first time hence MN name ! And had a very short cut. Now it has grown down to the shoulders. I look like a mess.
Will get all that sorted in a month time, my hairdresser is a gem but she is in Paris.... Hum a bit expensive to go for a haircut ! :)
Can't believe Scarecrow's DD was on the same slide as DS in KEw Gardens this morning ! The World is small.

Was amazing. So have met BBD's DS, but not her. She sent a description and pic,mtjen I saw the zillion children on school trips and sort of put it out of my mind. Then DD was coming to the end of the rope net walkway on a climbing frame type thing, going the wrong way as she'd got a bit scared...as she was about to clamber off a couple of children stood back to let her before they got on. I looked up and one perfectly matched the description and pic! I asked nursery teacher by me "is that X" and he - somewhat suspiciously - said yes! I moved away as she looked a bit spooked, muttering something about knowing his mum....I didn't try to explain we were pseudononymous friends on the Internet and I was Scarecrow22

Key learning here is BBD's DS is a beautifully brought up, kind and polite boy. As well as being totally beautiful to look at.

I am slightly famous for my grey hair - got strong grey swish at front at age 30 - then mostly stopped going more grey. Never dyed as too lazy and mean busy to stop roots growing. Also my mum keeps saying "if you want your hair done nicely I'd happily pay..." Which childishly makes me determined not to. Be grey, be proud, I say.

I used to dye mine but decided in the last couple of years that it wasn't worth the money - 2 boxes cost about £14! The last time I went to the hairdresser was over 6 years ago. It's basically waist length with quite a lot of silver in the straw.

My Husband is off sick again - as the gp pointed out, he is taking oral steroids for his asthma which are an immunosuppressant so it isn't surprising that he is catching everything.

Baby camper has been a bit off-colour, but not as bad. He is generally very good at night - feeds and goes straight back to sleep, which is nice - I hope he keeps it up.

Wow bbd ds meets scare n dd. Lovely.

Mrs w pleased its improving and dd suffering less - and you are cracking out the one liners (I love it).

Camper good that baby c sleeping well. Maybe you've got a sleeper - it does happen.

Chairman well done on the discipline and exercise and decorating. I see you as a very energetic person and this reinforces that. I did buggy fit today - it's really sociable and you can decide how hard you want it to be. I'm going to sign up for some more.

Lrm I'm with you on allowing baby to affect work choices. I found it opened up new things - any change does - so work still developed. Good that its all settled.

AFM I'm fasting. I'm not hungry but I'm a bit impaired!. I don't like the way I'm always thinking about food and slenderness. There are more important things. It's making me all self involved (more so than usual!). It will need to get easier if I'm to do it long term.

Having said that I have lost some weight

Re the cancer gene I'm not brave I don't think - if hereditary cancer is not going to kill me it's a different beast iyswim. I am partly fasting cause of this, however.

Xxx

Oh yes hair. I've got about ten or twenty grey hairs and growing. My hair s not frizzy purely thanks to Tigi ego boost. I recommend it strongly.

LRM - when ibwas 15 I set my heart on a very specific job. last year I got it...and now I'm giving it up to go part time. I don't have a flicker of doubt it's the right choice, though I would bw lying I'd I didn't admit that it would have been nice to do both. This last week looking after both alone has possibly been the hardest task of my life but definitely rewarding beyond belief.

there is a great swap thread running in Chat.

Thanks scarecrow. I know I am sacrificing a job I have done for 17 years but what better reason then for baby Dylan

LRM - my sister always says nobody died wishing they'd spent more time at work. The pedant in me thinks it's a bit simplistic, but I think it's a good maxim for most of us. We are the lucky ones :)

Thanks for all the kind messages and support - DP doing ok and should make a recovery after lengthy treatment, but he was misdiagnosed and the delay in treatment will cause long-term problems. Funnily enough, I thought it would be easier having him around full time for a while, but in some ways it's harder as my weekday routine is out of the window. Also not getting much respite from DD as she keeps her beady eye on me and DP is getting periods of fatigue where he can't do anything.

Scarecrow/LRM - that saying about nobody dying wishing they had worked more is one of my favourites (the other being 'shrouds don't have pockets'). It's such a hard choice, especially when you've worked so hard to get to where you are. I'm trying to be optimistic about the chances of someone wanting to employ me, and my being able to get childcare sorted out too (will need to have money coming in by the end of the year). On the other hand, it feels like an impossible leap as Baby E is always by my side and cannot imagine her being cared for by anyone else.

LRM I think you should do fitness training as a sideline

That's an incredible story about Kew Scarecrow - and what a credit DS is to BBD!

Somewhere well done on the weight loss. Totally understand how health concerns can give you different outlook on what/how you eat. You make me feel even more guilty now about not bothering to go to buggy fit classes. Hmm maybe next week I'll give it a go...

Hope you are all having a lovely weekend despite the shite weather!

Morning ladies.
Sat in front room after manic 2 hours dusting vac washing and other domestic goodness! !! All sparkling. Baby with dp and the house is so quiet. Coffee in hand hair straightened. Clothes have no trace of baby food or dribble. Padded bra on to maintain some what normal look rather then spaniels ears which they have now turned into.
Eagle. Oh personal trainer that would be good making someone else do exercises. I have been a tad off my game this last week since losing the weight. Will refocus next week.
Loved hearing bbh story of Kew gardens. Small world. Would be lovely to meet up all one day.

Good morning! Just popping in, not been on here before..i think! I have a very poor memory these days.

Im 43 next month, have a nearly 10 year old and a 5 month old baby.

Doing ok, glad to see this thread, going to have a wee read as i dont know anyone in RL who has had a baby at my age. Will be nice to have people to relate to.

Happy fathers day all 40s dads! (thought id disapprove of all such card manufacturers nonsense, but turns out i don't :) )
as usual no time to write much, supposed to be having a shower, but big welcome nananaps do stay! Hugs to all ill/tired/fed up ones. we're going to have picnic in the rain. More soon

Ha ha Seaside re card manufacturers! We have a very cynical DP here, but he walked into the bedroom this morning to find Baby E holding an envelope for him and smiling, and I swear his heart melted. She had also managed to go out shopping and buy a bag full of foodie treats, magazines etc for him - aren't babies clever? Boo to more rain.

Hi Nana great to see you here! We had babies around the same time and went through amnio agony around the same time too. How are things with you? Please take a seat in the 40+ snug and tuck into a cake.

Blimey LRM awesome work this morning. You are indeed a domestic goddess!

Hope everyone having a lovely Father's Day with DPs

DH is still away but home tonight!! After bedtime, which somewhat defeats point of coming home tonight but still lovely. Maybe I can stop having to tell DD 36 times a day where he is.

We had a glorious morning - happy children and went for ingredients to bake daddy a cake and a coffee while T slept, then my dad came over and we four went o a newly re-opened miniature steam railway nearby. DD was just a picturebook epitome of young delight - at everything. Grandad came in our car! We saw a train! She got a ticket which she held onto tightly for half an hour! Her Bunny got a sticker! The man punched a hole in her ticket! We went for a Ride On The Train!! We saw horses! We went for "more ride train"! We saw "big blowy thing" (dandelions, or more accurately the steam)! The horses did "big stinky poo poo".... Okay, that was less idyllic, but she loved it....

Also had a wonderful moment last night. Possibly two. Was going to bed and decided T is the most perfect creature ever (I will concede you have all thought same, but give me my moment)..then after his night feed I put him in crib, on his side facing the wall: he then turned his face up to me and gave the most gorgeous happy grin

Sorry me, me. Skip post if need be, just wanted to share happy end to a shattering but deeply happy week.

scarecrow just lovely

lrm rofl re spaniels ears.

eagle so pleased the outlook is good for dp

Xx