Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies Part 2

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Our 2nd thread is full but it won't prevent us from laughing, moaning, keeping on supporting each other, sharing and chatting over our new life with 1 or 2, even 5 children !
Here you go, fantastic 40+ Mums, a brand new thread for all of us, old friends from the pregnancy thread or new joiners

Eagleray, I would have lost it too. Actually, I find it really difficult to have people around with a baby. I had nieces and nephews for the past 3 weeks and I have never been as mean as this, telling them to behave every second although I know they are kids, but still, on one hand a baby who doesn't sleep, I am hence exhausted, on the other hands, screaming teens, arrrrrgghhh ! Holding your hands, you have been very kind with your DSis and family. Wish you a peaceful night

BBD, hope the osteopath helps Anastasia. We took DS when he was a newborn with colic and would scream every evening for hours! After just one visit, he conked out immediately, and after a couple more, the colic was gone. The osteopath we saw said that any baby delivered vaginally should be seen as everything gets squished on the way out! Good luck with it.
Eagle, thanks for the tips re: self feeding. I will try when I have the patience, and hopefully she'll get better at it and stop poking herself in the eye . Congrats on a successful cafe lunch! And I would have totally lost it also! When you have a baby, sleeping is like the holy grail, but also all that mess on the loo, and then saying there was no point trying to do anything about it! If my DS was doing that I'd be mortified, and in someone else's house! Really hope you get some peace after they've gone.
Leaving DD with my parents today for a few hours whilst I take DS and his friend to the cinema. She loves it over there and gets plenty of cuddles .

Thank you for the support - have to confess that a bit of a rant did help!

Today has been interesting - DSis barely speaking to me this morning - rather frosty atmosphere. I said sorry but I was really on the edge with tiredness last night and got 'don't worry - we're leaving today' as a reply!

Anyway, just got Baby E off to sleep for her morning nap and DN1 was asked to get dressed - cue shouting/stomping/slamming of doors and so Baby E awake again! I do feel sorry for DSis and her husband - v family orientated, conservative people but their kids are quite challenging.

The kids are now moaning about the day's activities on offer (they complain a LOT) and it's just started raining and so I think today is going to be tricky...

Eagle my every sympathy. I think that when sisters have kids things realign quite profoundly. Sisters can skirt round the rivalry and tension endemic in sibling relationships very effectively with their co-operative female tendencies, but once you've got kids its a lot more complicated and those tensions surface. That's my experience anyway!

bbd just wanted to say nine siblings???? Wowed. No wonder your so wise about family! Also that list of food was incredible.

Xxxx

Eagle. One word for you next time. ... Hotel. . I would have swore as well. Good rant honey xxx

Baby monkey trying to crawl. Painful watching him shuffle from side to side. He has decided this week if I take things off him he protests. personality is coming on in waves. Food wise had spag bol and sweet corn. Loves fruit cocktail and custard

LRM, he sounds so adorable! DD also protests very loudly if things are removed from her. DP has started "brushing" her tooth at bathtime, and she hates it when he's finished and takes the toothbrush away. She also had spag bol tonight, with cheese, raspberry rice pudding and blueberries for pud.

Hurrah - peace at last as they've left! Spent day in a small town nearby - all activities v child-focused until last few minutes of trip where we visit a couple of shops. Kids start acting up and then fighting, resulting in their dad getting shouty and physical - I was mortified as all went on in front of a cafe with seating outside and everyone stood open-mouthed. I stormed off and went home by myself.

As for hotel LRM - they can't afford one! Also suspect they would get asked to leave even if they could...

Love the menu ideas Knotty/LRM. I'm sure Baby Monkey will soon be zooming around - slightly dreading this phase myself due to all the childproofing...

Hi all
I am 47 and have two DS. One is 9 and one is 4.
I would love to join this thread please! Is this ok even
though my youngest is already 4?

hello ozmum, and yes, of course! people on thread have kids of similar ages ( I think exactly same ) as well as their babies, and even those are growing fast!

I'm one of the newer grads: DD is 2y 7m and DS ("T") is 16 weeks (hence silly o'clock posting).

Hi ozmum! I also have a DS aged 9, and DD is 7 months, a surprise pregnancy discovered days before my 44th birthday! Does your name give a clue to where in the world you are??

Morning all. Wow where do baby days go!!! Can't believe rose petal is 16 days old, she growing so fast and changed so much in such a short time. She's already grown out of some of her tiny baby clothes and into 0-3! !
Reading all your weaning stories with interest and storing advice. I remember it being a very messy time.
We had a house full at the weekend. We had a traditional Muslim baby party on Friday which was 'interesting' I spent months explaining to dh ( and mil) that you can't kill a sheep in the back garden in England! ! I also have no idea how to butcher a whole sheep. traditionally 1/3 is given to the poor. ... Mmm visions of walking round the city trying to give bags of meat to homeless. in the end we found out how much a whole sheep would cost and gave 1/3 of that to a charity that feeds homeless people and spent rest on halal lamb meat
Dh then cooked kofta, kabab and chops on bbq with babaganok mashie and other yummy egyptain food.

Dd was star attention of course especially with the office girls from dh work ( all 20 somethings )

Oh some advice please. . Little rose is ebf on demand. Basically if she opens her mouth the boob goes in and she seems to be feeding well but she gets hiccups every feed and had a lot of bottom wind. She does make a tut tut sound when feeding but laches on so tight no way can i pull nipple out (or is there a knack to doing this) we're going to bf group next week ( confused) but thought I'd ask. Thanks

Oh some advice please. . Little rose is ebf on demand. Basically if she opens her mouth the boob goes in and she seems to be feeding well but she gets hiccups every feed and had a lot of bottom wind. She does make a tut tut sound when feeding but laches on so tight no way can i pull nipple out (or is there a knack to doing this) we're going to bf group next week ( confused) but thought I'd ask. Thanks

Hi Rosie - lovely to hear from you and baby R sounds a delight. at MIL and sheep slaughter - would make a great AIBU story ("AIBU to stop my MIL slaughtering a sheep in my back garden?") It's great that you managed to find a meaningful alternative with the poor benefiting too.

As for feeding issues - I'm no expert, but I've found a page on the brilliant Kellymom website that may help as it does mention a clicking noise while feeding and gasiness here

And removing baby from boob is quite simple - just slide a finger into the corner of their mouth until this releases the vacuum and then you can retrieve boob...

Welcome to the thread Ozmum! I'm nearly 42 and have 6mo DD

Rosie- what a fantastic story And a lovely ending. What a lovely family you seem to have joined.

Eagle- so sorry about your house guest woes. Don't mean to be insensitive but to balance my terrible handling of PiL visit in May my sister in law and her DH, dnephew 15 (6') and DNiece (nearly 10) were staying from Sunday til this morning and though house was comically crowded and spent half my days tidying, they were fabulous guests, really helpful with kids and around house, and we had some great quality time. I feel v blessed in SiL and BiL and I'd be v proud if their kids were mine. As well as keeping up my Couch to 5k running programme (finished week 5) I also managed a swim by myself yesterday and felt ached all over but really good for it today.

Off to seaside to visit friends tomorrow, then home to spend weekend trying to salvage to so far not v successful potty training.

Have good weekends x

Btw, as well as the usual suspects, has anybody heard from Seaside? Do hope she's okay as not heard in ages....

Sorry to thread hog: Eagle your link has been a revelation: I think there is a high probability that over-supply is T's problem, rather than reflux, or at least a part of it. Symptoms amazingly alike. Plan to introduce some recommended solutions soon. A sincere and big thanks for posting the link.

Not insensitive at all Scarecrow! So glad you had a nice time with your relatives, especially after the traumatic PiL incident. And to be fair, my lot weren't truly awful - it's just that they arrived at the same time as other guest, and they did put upon me quite a bit (it was never the plan to have them all here). And DSis did help with DD when she could (when she wasn't breaking up fights between her DS x 2...)

Bloody well done on the the running and swimming! I keep meaning to get back to exercise but busy-ness, weather etc always seem to get in the way. Weight is still dropping now, even on weeks such as this one where I know I have eaten loads!

I've heard from Seaside briefly - must drop her a line tomorrow as haven't had time to get back to her yet.

oh and glad you like the article - Kellymom is a goldmine of info!

Thanks scarecrow my egyptain family are great and mil makes her comments with all good intentions and does not get upset if I laugh. ( like i need to bind my stomach for 40 days)

Eagle ray you have revolutionised feeding in our house too with the link and how to detach baby from boob. (I knew as soon as i read it but had totally forgotten) babyrose hhowever is less impressed that she is now being removed and reminded me of a snapping turtle the first time i tool boob away. Little mouth opening and closing and confused eyes saying ' where did that go.i hadn't finished. Lol

Heading back to my home town today. 5/6 hour drive! ! With out feeding stops and traffic problems. Currently heading back in wrong direction as dh forgot to change the tax disc. It is dd 1 25 birthday next week and dgd will be 2. They haven't met baby yet either so should be a fun weekend. The only downside is my new tenants have decided now to be available for house inspection and also decided not to pay rent. I honestly don't understand how some people think
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Not available not now available! !! On phone in car so sorry for typos

Welcome Ozmum to our gang. DS is 4.8 yo and DD just turned 1. And I am 43 ! We are in Paris for the summer at my Mum's.
Rosie, When I gave birth, my Mum wanted me to stay in bed for 40 days, I guess the are reasons to these traditions but somehow we lost them because of the modern life and lack of extended family around.
Knotty, the osteo session has worked wonder, 3 days after, A woke up just once last night, she slept from 7.30 to 00.30, woke up for a feed and slept again until 6.30, woke up, fed and slept again until 9 ! I have not had that since she was 4 mo, I feel like a new person, have put 2 washes on the line, took cot mattress out, took my summer duvet out too, love the smell of sunshine on bedlinen. Except DS had fever last evening so he slept with me and woke me a bit around 3am but he is now fine. Still hot but behaving as usual, I guess the 34C we have had the past few days plays its part in the fever.
Eagle, Scarecrow, it is nice to have family around although it does add a bit of work. I m glad all my nieces and nephews have left, it is only me, DCs and my Mum this week, DH will join us tonight for the week end.
Xxxx

Hi ozmum. I am 44 ds is 10 months and my first.

Rosie, your baby party sounds amazing.
BBD, glad the osteopath has done some good! Glad the fever has gone down.
Went to town today with DS & DD and bought them both outfits for DD's naming ceremony in a couple of weeks. Really looking forward to it - we keeping it all very personal - we've hired an old village hall in the local outdoor museum, I've written the script for the ceremony and my sister has agreed to conduct it. Lovely friends as mentors for her, and afternoon tea & fizz catered by the museum.
DD loved her tea tonight - sounds awful though - chicken livers pureed with garlic, onion & apple, with mashed sweet potato, and fresh cherries for pud. She ended up looking like a serial killer though after she mushed & sucked the life out of the cherries! She's having a day with my parents tomorrow and we're taking DS to Borough Market and then on the London Cable Car (both his choices, bless him, thought he would choose Legoland!). Hope everyone is having a nice weekend x

Hello ozmum every MN thread needs someone Australian on it!

I'm 41 and have 2 dcs, ds 4 and dd 4 months.

rosie your Egyptian mil is hilarious and interesting! I think there is something in belly binding - not sure about slaughtering lambs. Good ingenious alternative. What a rich inheritance for baby rose.

knotty sounds like weaning is going a treat - she loves her food! Love the image of the serial killer/cherry eater! Bless ds for his intelligent choice of day out.

scarecrow glad you had a good time with your ils. Family can be superb.

AFM went to the paddling pool with ds and his little polish best friend on crazy hot Thursday and it was all it should be. Water pistol fights, ice cream, etc etc. they have a rigmarole of hysterical crying about whatever the other has and they don't - forgotten as soon as the other doesn't have it so it gets quite dizzying trying to sort out turns on the scooter and then suddenly it's the batman figurine that's the centre of emotional heat. Anyway this rigmarole is just part of their friendship as far as I can tell.

Wedding yesterday - I love weddings.