How long would you leave a 9 week old baby to cry before picking them up?

[Pinkflipflop]

Just that really. We don't leave him to cry at all at the minute but dh and I wonder if a few moments to have a little whimper would do him any harm.

I'm not talking distressed howling as obviously I would be strait over. However I have noticed that baby has different sorts of cries.

Do I sound like a dreadful mum? It's my first and I don't have anyone I could feel comfortable to ask this q! I'm older, 33, so I think people just assume I know these things!

Tom I had to leave mine with my mother at about 10 weeks, because I needed RCT at the dentist. She met us there and took him round the block with ds2 and met me after 3/4 of an hour.

It wasn't terrible but it wasn't easy!

As soon as possible. Wee babies cry to let you know they need you or need something. If you have to wipe a toddler's bum or something fair enough, but no, I wouldn't deliberately leave a baby crying

Not long at all.
I do think there is a difference between leaving a baby to cry and them crying while you can't get to them IYSWIM.
DS used to be left crying for a couple of minutes while I got his milk ready etc, I wasn't leaving him to cry though.

I never left DD to cry. Still don't and she's 2. She's now a sturdy, secure wee thing and always has been. Never went through the separation anxiety wibble, though that might be a coincidence!

You won't spoil a baby so go with instinct. 9 weeks... So sweet (nostalgia!).

Straight away, except where circumstances or mental health required otherwise. Sometimes just finishing your sandwich for 60 seconds makes you a better mother overall that day I found.

Mandragora

I wasn't judging anyone who does. I just couldn't. I was a very odd mix of paranoid and laid back. Laid back naturally and the paranoid coming from having a brother who died at six weeks.

Oh I am so sorry to hear that Tom. That's really very sad indeed. Babies should never be lost

When ds3 was very little, up to about 4 weeks or so, he cried so so much. I still don't know why, he is 3 months now and pretty chilled and happy. But I stopped driving anywhere because he would just cry in the car, even on really short journeys to school, and I couldn't bear it.

So I started walking everywhere and even then he would cry in the pram sometimes so I'd have to pick him up, and carry him, while pushing the pram...it was January and freezing and kept raining as well. Happy days! It was very tiring.