Newborns, Bfing, Toddlers and Tantrums

[SayCoolNowSayWhip]

A carry on from the Pregnant and Overdue - 37/38 weeks thread in Pregnancy.

For those of us who have finally met our bundles of joy!

Come here to share birth stories, newborn issues, feeding, tips on how to deal with toddler siblings, or just general gripes and chit chat.

DS was born on Saturday and just sleeps and eats. I have a 2.5 yo DD who is being a bit of a monkey (understandably) with the new addition.

DS looks like he has a posterior tongue tie which is making latching incredibly painful. Have sent DH out for nipple shields - anyone used these?

Hi all,

Zuleika that sounds awful :( Did I give you the website to find a private TT snipper? Www.tongue-tie.org.uk (sorry can't link on my phone). Really hope you get something sorted soon.

Our feeding is getting there. Had some rough times last week and DS's tongue didn't seem to be healing. It was all yellow and gunky and he was still having major problems latching - it must have been so sore! Went to the GP 2 days running and on the second day she gave us some ABs as she thought it was looking worse. It cleared up within 2 doses of the ABs! Was really worried about giving antibiotics when he's so young, but was definitely the right thing to do.

Anyway he's on his last day of ABs today and his feeding and latching is sooo much better. He's draining a breast in about 10 minutes! (We've just hit the 2 week growth spurt so he's on the boob all the time but that's fine.... )

Ref the working thing, I felt a lot like that with DD - I missed going out and 'having a life' and didn't want to be stuck being a housewife. I was glad to get back to work! However this time round I'm much more relaxed in terms of my expectations and how my days go. I'm happier being a housewife - plus I don't much enjoy my current job. If I was doing something I really enjoy then things might be different. Also I have more friends with babies / toddlers which makes it easier.
Sorry this is really long!
Hope you are all well and ready to enjoy the hottest day of the year so far!

SayCool thank you so much - I'll check that out (I asked if we could have it done privately at the hospital but they were very sniffy!).

SO pleased your DS is doing better and feeding so well - sounds like he's making up for lost time! Really glad his latch is sorted. Huge props to you for persevering because you had a really grim few days with it.

Don't seem to get on here much!

Saycool (is this Family Guy btw?) glad to hear things are improving

Ruby I left my job after DD due to a relocation with DH's job but I found that after a year I was keen to do something outside the home - I was worried my confidence to get "out there" would go iyswim - so I got a 2 day a week job, not a "career" job but I still think (for me) it has been very valuable in terms of my confidence and mental agility! I miss it at the moment - I'm on mat leave for a year but don't think I will be able to continue as no childcare (DM was very very kindly doing it but she works in the evenings and I think it was getting too much for her - I can't dump two kids on her for 2 days a week basically!)

DS 5 weeks tomorrow - doing A LOT of cluster feeding morning and evenings - sleeping 5 hour, then 4 hour blocks at night (but co-sleeping which is not ideal). I'm feeling less tired and 3 year old DD settling down now (we had a difficult first 3 weeks!) - so all good! I still seem to shout / stress out a bit at least once a day but I think that's probably normal?!!

Most days I have a stressful moment or two, and have shouted more than I like too. Broken sleep is partly to blame I think.

Yes I have ended up snapping/shouting at ds1 a lot recently - think its mandatory with new baby + toddler + sleep deprivation + hormones

I feel awful about it when I do, my poor pfb

I have introduced the concept of "timeout" in the last few weeks for the first time which works a hell of a lot better than yelling (who knew?? ). So I just need to remember to calmly implement it when needed - she gets a few minutes to calm down, and so do I!!

Sadly most days at least once a day the time out spot is visited by one of my ds's (3+5 yrs)
Their thing atm is to wait until I leave the room and then start running round screaming and toy fighting but very roughly, I come bk and speak to them and they stop, as soon as I leave room they're at it again!

Sorry to hear about the tongue tie Zuleika. That sounds so frustrating. But I am glad things are improving for you with feeding, SayCool.

My DH is off tonight until Weds night to Italy for a work trip. Lucky, lucky fucker. (He is pretending very hard that he isn't looking forward to meals out in nice restaurants, visits to interesting historic places when not working and engaging adult company.) I am DREADING the nights without him.

My mum is staying and we will get by ok in the days. But DS1 will go nuts if it's not me or DH coming into him in the nights, so I am predicting much broken sleep and over the next few days. And DS2 just wakes up for feeds/winding all the time at the moment. Fathers of four week old babies should definitely be banned from work trips.

Oh Num3, my DS1 (two and a half) put both me and DS2 in time out this morning.

I told him off for climbing on his lego box, saying "please get down NOW, DS1, as you might hurt yourself" and he said "no mummy, I don't get down. You and baby go straight to time out."

I'm not sure he quite has the concept of time out and who is in charge....

Haha! Last week ds2 told me to take dd somewhere else because he was watching cbeebees and she was annoying him. Rude!

Hi rubyroo we have had pretty much exactly the same in my house! funny isn't it! DD1 sitting on the Lego box and wanting to put DD2 in the corner (aka time out!)

That's hilarious! We haven't introduced time out to DD yet but I expect she would attempt to put us in time out!

In the midst of 2 week growth spurt... Groan.... Might have got an hours sleep last night. DH had the audacity to be tired and grumpy this morning, snapping at DD etc, until I gently passive aggressively reminded him that he gets nights off and I don't. In fact he should have been on DD last night, but he didn't hear when she woke crying so I was in with her as well. Grrrr. He is lovely, I'm just having a moan.

Where's all the nice weather we were promised??!!

Hahaha...clearly the Lego box/Time out situation is a crucial child development stage and not just my DS being cheeky.

Poor SayCool. Growth spurts are a challenge!

Rubyroo this made me lol.

One thing that my DD1 has done a few times is taken herself to time out voluntarily when dd2 is crying/when I am dealing with dd2. Ie dd1 hasn't even been naughty. That's a weird one, because when we try and get her out of time out she doesn't want to come out. We just try and give her lots of cuddles. Guess it's an attention seeking thing.

But overall dd1 defo been more naughty!

How did everyone get on with school run? Ours went smoothly! Much better than I expected anyway!

No school run yet num3, DD will start pre-school in September, but we did make it to our 9am toddler music group - which I was quite impressed by - proving we CAN all be dressed before midday if we try!

How old are yours?

Lol countess! I had begun to wonder if I could even get myself dressed by midday!
My three are 5, nearly 4 and 13 days. Only 5 year old in school for now but house is much calmer without two boys bouncing off each other and winding each other (and me) up!

DH had his last paternity leave day today, so he did the school run. My turn tomorrow (and hereafter, of course). Getting myself and 3 children out of the house by 8.30 is not an attractive proposition.

I didn't manage to drag myself out of bed til 8.10 yet we got to school for 8.55! Yay!

I'm jealous. DP leaves at 7am and I have to be up, showered, dressed, made up, have house sorted and be ready to go or I will never manage it once he's gone. No school run for me but we are pretty much out before 9am most days, to toddler groups or swings or whatever. I am getting the hang of it dirtybaby is 5 weeks old! Baby is easy as pie, it's the baby/18 month old combo that is so immensely hard. Nevermind, DP finally takes his second week of paternity next week. Hooray

Yeah, DH is out at 7am so I have to be in the shower by 6.30 or it ain't happening! He IS home at 5pm though, which is awesome.

See I'm a bath girl! I'd rather unwind in a nice bath in the evening than shower in the morning! My elder two pretty much get theirselves ready in the mornings with some promptings all I need to do is get myself ready, and see to dd

SayCool thanks so much for that website - we've found someone locally who can come and do it at home. I checked her out with the health visitor who says she's awesome, so the tongue-tie's being done tomorrow yay!

How's everyone doing?

Yay! Brilliant Zuleika, I'm so glad they can do it quickly. Fingers crossed it helps with the feeding. If the lady is anything like the one I had, you'll be in very good hands.

We are all well, DS is just coming out of 2 week growth spurt. He had a stint of 2 and a half hours sleep last night! Amazing... Longest stretch I've had since he was born. He's also whacked on the weight. Had our discharge appointment with midwife yesterday and he was weighed in at 8lb 4oz! (Birth weight 6lb 14oz). Hungry chap!

Hope everyone is well

Glad things are getting sorted Zuleika. And that is amazing news about your DS' weight, SayCool, especially since he had tongue tie! He's obviously well and truly making up for it.

My DH is home today. So so so so happy he will be back for tonight. If only he could learn to breastfeed, that would be truly useful.

DS1 has been amazing, even sleeping through last night. DS2 was awake for six hours feeding between 10pm and 7am, went through seven nappies and a quick vomit. He is five weeks today and I'm hoping this is a growth spurt........if he is just a crap sleeper and frequent breastfeeder like his brother, I might as well look into shares in Botox.