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Don't like my baby's name

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321ashers · 01/03/2013 11:47

I really need some advice or reassurance, my baby boy is 10 months old and I still do not like the name we chose for him, I cannot bring myself to call him by it , i just call him "baby" and I don't enjoy introducing him to others and having to tell them his name. I never particularly liked the name from the beginning, long story as to why it was picked! If we have another baby and its a boy, I already have the perfect name for him, gutted I didn't think of it for my current baby. But it's too late to change his name to the one I like because I can't look at him as anything else apart from Jacob now. I keep trying out all the shortened nicknames such as J, Jake, Jakey..help, will time alter the way I feel? Anyone else been through this? Any other nicknames I can try out on him?

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OffAgain · 01/03/2013 12:19

Do you think if you forced yourself to use his name more then you might get more used to it? If you use his name infrequently then each time you do say it you are thinking about how much you don't like it but if you use it much more maybe it would be less of an issue?
IMO it is a nice name and I am sure when you introduce him to people no one is thinking "Crikey, what was she thinking?"

It is a real shame that you are not happy with your choice-does he have a middle name you could use? Although I suppose at 10 months he is used to hearing his name and might be a bit weird for him to get used to something new. My brother has always been known by his middle name...not sure why!

ChristmasJubilee · 01/03/2013 12:49

I don't much like ds1's name. I wanted to call him Alexander but dh didn't like it so chose one he liked. Ds1 is 17 now (so a bit late to change) and he really likes his name and says he would have hated Alexander. I've got used to it and really it does't matter in the long run. I think you will get used to it with time. I quite like Jacob.

Beamur · 01/03/2013 12:51

Jacob is a lovely name.
At 10 months you can keep calling him baby for a while yet.
If you really can't bring yourself to use his name, you need to find a cool nickname you like to use instead.

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Pinkflipflop · 01/03/2013 13:00

I know it's totally irrelevant what other people think but I just wanted to say I love the name Jacob, it's a gorgeous, timeless name! Please don't think you have chosen a terrible name for your beautiful son!

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Eskino · 01/03/2013 13:04

Jacob is a lovely name. I bet he's really sweet.

Although i do like their given names I rarely call any of my dcs (I have 4) by them anyway. They are all called Sausage, Sunshine, Cheekychops etc.

myflabberisgasted · 01/03/2013 13:11

I love the name Jacob!

Maybe if you use it more often you will get used to it?
Soon you won't even be thinking about it.

My DS is nearly 3 and I still call him baby!

LentilAsAnything · 01/03/2013 13:15

What about Coby for a nickname?

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MajaBiene · 01/03/2013 13:18

Jacob is a lovely name.

I do like DS's name, but still sometimes I don't like the way it sounds I felt odd saying his name for ages when he was a baby and also called him "baby"!

AnnIonicIsoTronic · 01/03/2013 13:19

Jacob is lovely - and has many foreign variants that you could plunder fOr nicknames.

For example - the jacob I know is Yakov at home . It also clearly shortens to Jack

leelteloo · 01/03/2013 13:20

Coby is great nickname

OutsideOverThere · 01/03/2013 13:22

I think you can easily change it at the register office until they are 12 months old, so if you really don't like it then do it now. He is unlikely to remember.

Ginebra · 01/03/2013 13:24

you can still change it, it's not too late.

ToffeeWhirl · 01/03/2013 13:25

You can change it on his birth certificate if you do it within a year of his birth. I did this with my second son. DH had chosen the name and nobody liked it. I flinched whenever we were visiting the GP and DS2's name was called out. So, before the year was out, we went back to the registry office and had the name changed. Annoyingly, the original name still shows up on the full birth certificate, alongside the new name, but on a short version only his new name shows.

I am so glad we changed it . I love his name now and it seems to fit him so well.

More info here.

Citizen's Advice have some information here too (scroll down for 'Changing a Child's Name').

HTH.

Queenie72 · 01/03/2013 13:31

I think Jacob is a lovely name ( but I am biased as it is ds1 name) he gets called Jako all the time. If you really hate it why not change to the name you really love before he is 1 as outsideoverhere suggested. As Eskino says children have all sorts of nicknames my ds2 gets called dyllybubs by my niece!!

bnt · 01/03/2013 13:34

Since you call him 'Baby' could you sort of combine the two and call him something like 'Babyjay'? When he's old enough that you drop the 'Baby', you might have grown to like Jacob or decided what variation of it you feel comfortable with.

thewhistler · 01/03/2013 13:45

Jacobus, Jago, Iago, Jack, JC, all possible. Even James, as they are the same really with Jacobus being the Latin version of James.

Baby Jago is nice, imv.

I think Jacob is a nice name, and timeless as others have said. I didn't particularly like Ds's name but it was a family one on DH's side and I got used to it. I would have preferred Jacob!

TiggerWearsATriteSmile · 01/03/2013 13:49

I'd go with Jago too.

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321ashers · 01/03/2013 17:31

Lostonthemoors I actually really like jj. Seriously think i may be able to call him that! Don't know why I haven't thought of that one.
Thewhistler thanks for all those variations, Jack was actually the name my dh and I really wanted but already have a baby jack in family and a very close friend's baby so felt we couldn't go with it.
Queenie72 does jako sound like jake-o or jack-o?

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robyn2 · 02/03/2013 14:24

Gosh when I started reading your post I thought it was going to be something really unusual. Jacob is fine and Its one of those names you know that your baby will be comfortable with in both childhood and adulthood which is so important. Yeah id go with whichever nickname you prefer but honestly nobody you meet is going to think much of his name, its nothing weird, chavvy, over the top. Its a really decent, normal boys name so honestly you got to get over what others might think. I agree you need to use it more, he will become that name and I bet you'll look back one day and wont be able to imagine him called anything else. Don't live with regret enjoy every minute of your gorgeous little Jacob.

Hope you feel better about it soon....xx

matana · 02/03/2013 14:32

Jake or Jakey? I like Jacob though.

FranglaisMaman · 07/03/2013 15:11

I don't really have any advice but just wanted to say I feel for you, I really do. In fact, I'm terrified that it could very well be me writing this post in a few months time. I, too, wanted Jack (desperately) for a boy but my husband's sister got pregnant before us and named her son Jack. It still eats me up now and I'm scared anything I pick just won't feel right to me when I call him by it, I'm sad about it all the time when I should just be enjoying my pregnancy instead. It sucks.

I hope you grow to love your little Jacob's name, and think JJ would be v cute as a nickname if that helps xxx

PoppyAmex · 10/03/2013 11:41

"Coby is great nickname"

I agree, seriously cook nickname.

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