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Don't like my baby's name

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321ashers · 01/03/2013 11:47

I really need some advice or reassurance, my baby boy is 10 months old and I still do not like the name we chose for him, I cannot bring myself to call him by it , i just call him "baby" and I don't enjoy introducing him to others and having to tell them his name. I never particularly liked the name from the beginning, long story as to why it was picked! If we have another baby and its a boy, I already have the perfect name for him, gutted I didn't think of it for my current baby. But it's too late to change his name to the one I like because I can't look at him as anything else apart from Jacob now. I keep trying out all the shortened nicknames such as J, Jake, Jakey..help, will time alter the way I feel? Anyone else been through this? Any other nicknames I can try out on him?

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VBisme · 10/03/2013 12:11

I know this probably doesn't help, but I love Jacob as well.

xMinerva · 11/03/2013 03:41

Biased as this is ds1's name an I love it now

Notice I said now. When he was born and for a while afterwards I seriously doubted whether it was the right name for him but he has sort of grown in to it I suppose and it completely suits him now as a nearly 4yr old.

His NN's are Jakey and Jago.

Having said that, I'm still not keen on ds's name (actually, I love the name, i'm just not sure it suits him) and he's 2 1/2. He gets called by his NN of RaaRaa ALL the time. In fact I'm sure we know some people who don't actually realise what his real name is.

And after all that, I'm going to finish by repeating what others have said, you can change his name and if you do it before he's 12 months, you can change his birth certificate too.

lovechocolates · 11/03/2013 14:29

Jacob is a lovely and i actually wanted it for our little boy. I know thats not important for you tho.

I just wanted to say i was in the same position and I disliked my son's name, Oliver. however, i have learnt to love it now through just using it and associating my gorgeous little boy with it. I wouldnt call anyting else now. Maybe you could do the same with Jacob. It is not unusual and it'll grow with him. Maybe you should try using it and eventually love it.

Alternatively, you are not too late to change his name and he could even do so, if he doesnt like it. Theres some good alternatives too as mentioned above.

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TomArchersSausage · 11/03/2013 14:31

I like it too, but if you really really don't, I can't see that changing it at this stage would be too disruptive.

TomArchersSausage · 11/03/2013 14:35

Oops posted too soon.

Meant to say people/family might initially express a bit of surprise but all that would blow over pretty quickly and would make a quirky story when he's older about 'how you started off as Jacob and now you're xxx.'

It's once a child starts school and has friends it could be trickier. Also once he becomes very aware it's his name too. I think you'd easily overcome it at the age he is now.

Iseeall · 11/03/2013 14:45

Please don't change his name. Jacob is lovely and any of the nn suggested here work well ( I like Jago) JJ your favourite is lovely and modern.
What I wanted to add was that two lo in the same family/friends circle is not the end of the world and if you had wanted to use Jack you should have.
I know thats not much help to you now, but anyone reading this who may not choose their favourite name because it is already in use, I say don't worry, go right ahead and I am sure if you could turn the clock back maybe you would too.

I do really really like Jacob, and am biased towards Jack.

lagoonhaze · 11/03/2013 18:39

You have years ahead of you where people will prob call him the name on his birth certificate. If everytime you hear it you think I dont like it then change it now whilst you still can.

comeonbishbosh · 12/03/2013 09:21

This might sound a bit daft, but I wonder if Jacob is one of those names that sound better on a boy or man than a baby? I really like it, but I think it's not a classic cute baby name. So just a thought that it will seem to 'fit' home better once he is walking talking. Which, lets face it, is the vast majority of his life. A cheery nickname will do the job in the meantime.

However, I do agree if you really want to change it go ahead, a small short term embarrassment, no harm done.

MrsDonnieDarko · 12/03/2013 11:16

Jacob is LOVELY! I know what you mean about not liking to introduce him though. DS1's name was perfect to me, fit him well, I loved it all the way through my pregnancy and it was HIS name right from day one. I felt proud to introduce him and 5 years later it still suits him, it's classic and timeless yet not overused and I still love it.

Because I had what I thought was the 'perfect' name for DS1, I really struggled to think of a name for DS2. In the end we went with Rowan which I loved for the days leading up to his birth and we couldn't find anything we liked more. Now (14 months later) although I still like the name Rowan I wish I'd have gone for something a bit more traditional. It doesn't seem to fit well with DS1's name and I do feel a bit 'chavvy' introducing him. It's too late to change it though and I've got used to it but certainly don't have the same feelings about the name as I do with DS1's name. I do prefer his middle name to DS1's though and he may well chose to use that as he gets older. It's just a name at the end of the day.

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