Competative Mom Syndrome. Aaaaarrrrgghhhh (Bang....my head just exploded!)

[Panyanpickle77]

Hi, yesterday I visited a friend who has a DS who is 2.5 months older than my ds(my ds was 8mnths yesterday). Its the first time I have seen her for a couple of weeks, because to be quite honest she is starting to get on my nerves a little bit, And I shall explain why ..........
Last time we bumped into her I made the usual fuss of her ds. I like babies, they are ALL beautiful. He is a lovely big boy, with loads of hair, and I enjoyed making him smile. This was not returned to my ds however. I didn't expect her to fall over herself, throwing compliments willy nilly, but I did not expect her to tell me my health visitor would say he was fat when he had his 8month check (yesterday). I took it on the chin and ignored her pettiness, and just avoided her until my anger had subsided. So DS had his 8month check yesterday and I told the health visitor about my friends comment. She said that because he is fully breastfed aside from food, that he is doing really well, and has gained weight at the same rate since birth, and is not FAT. This spurred me to go and visit said friend with my good news. She was pleased to see us and we had a pleasant time. I told her about the 8month check and innocently added that the health visitor said his weight was not a problem (he was 25lb!!!!). She then looked at me shocked and basically said she was surprised. Apparently her sons HV had said he shouldnt be having 4 bottles of formula a night at 10months, and that he was getting fat.........NOW FOR THE NASTINESS......She then said she couldnt understand why my HV was not concerned, as my ds was so fat he had cellulite (Not in a jokey manner either). I did take delight in explaining the whys and wherefores, but it does get a little depressing. I'm sure it is jelousy, because she is having probs with ds sleeping, and he seems to pick up all sorts of bugs/virus........to which I have supported her with. Does anyone else have "Friends" like this. Why can't they just be normal, non competative moms who like you and your kids for who, not what you are.........any thoughts?

Mrsaek, see next time you feel like visiting this "friend", go pull out your fingernails instead, it will be less painful than having to listen to that nonsense.

She is probably jealous of your lovely, healthy ds being breastfed. I am always jealous, although never a b*tch, over friends who could manage b/feeding, I could only do dts for just under a month!

PMSL at altar-licker.

Mrsaek, glad you've decided to avoid this person. Have had 'friends' who are draining in the past... would never go near anyone like that ever again.

Hate to say it, but 'one up mumship' only gets worse. A good friend of mine who has always been on the competitive side is much worse since our dds have started school. Her dd can, of course, read write and do maths far better than anyone else.......... She constantly goes on and on. I would just like to talk about something else!!!

What a horrible friend indeed.

My DD was a big girl and she did indeed have cellulite but that is normal when a baby is carrying weight.

I have stopped tolerating people like this and ask them why they are being so rude or whether their parents never told them if you haven't anything nice to say don't say anything at all.

i tink the word friend must be banded around far more lightly with some peole than others - becuase anyone i call a friend wold never say such a horrid thing

My friend's ds is just over three months older than mine and is lovely but his Mum is getting on my nerves by saying that my DS is copying hers!! I just want to scream 'Do you honestly think my ds would never have crawled if he hadn't seen yours do it?!'

I bite my tongue over this as I put it down to her insecurity but it does grate!!!