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I’m going to let Mumsnet jury decide whether DS1 can come home for Easter

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RedTartanLass · 30/03/2006 12:48

DS1 is in his first year at Uni, he was my only child for 18 years and is therefore a spoilt wee brat Grin I am paying all his fees and accommodation, as I don’t wont him to leave Uni with a massive student loan. I’ve worked full-time all his life, so why should he not reap some of the benefits!!

Anyway, despite my nagging, or more probably because of my nagging, he has not got a job!! Although he does work when he comes home on holidays, such as Christmas etc. So he is skinter than a skint thing!! I’m quite proud that in the time he’s been away he hasn’t asked anyone for a penny, and is not using his car anymore but has borrowed a bike!!

However he is coming home tomorrow and has asked for some money to help get back home, he probably only needs about 20 quid, but I have said “No way”.

However lying in bed last night, I thought maybe I was a bit harsh, so over to you MSNet jury – Should I give him the £20!!

p.s. got a beautiful Mothers Day card posted to me (on time) and a touching text. However suspect it was to butter me up for petrol!! Grin

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Fimbo · 30/03/2006 12:49

I would give him the money tbh.

Hulababy · 30/03/2006 12:51

I think I'd have to give in and give him the money. After all, you don't get to see him and spend time with him over Easter otherwise.

CountessDracula · 30/03/2006 12:51

yes me too
but tell him he will have to earn the money when he gets back and get him to do some gardening and wash the car or something

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desperatehousewife · 30/03/2006 12:51

i would too.

WideWebWitch · 30/03/2006 12:51

Hmm, hard one. On the one hand, it's only £20 and it's a lot to him but prob not that much to you and you get to see him. Plus, in his favour, he hasn't asked for money. (hmm, are you sure he hasn't got a bank loan or similar?) I think I'd give it to him but reiterate that he needs to get a job, pronto and that you won't do it again. Aahh, maybe he wasn't buttering you up, maybe it was genuine. So I say give him the money, so you can see him. And he has worked some of the time so he's not a total freeloader.

MamaG · 30/03/2006 12:52

I agree with CountessDracula

WideWebWitch · 30/03/2006 12:52

Ooh yes, give it to him but say he has to earn it by doing a night of babysitting? Good idea, I hadn't thought of that.

Blu · 30/03/2006 12:53

Yes, but ask him to pay it back, maybe?

LOL at the sacrifice of not using his car - how many students have cars!!!

FrannyandZooey · 30/03/2006 12:53

Yes I agree with CD.

Mosschops30 · 30/03/2006 12:53

I'm 30 and my mum still gives me petrol money when I go and see her even when I dont ask for it Blush
Just do it, he'll have to do it for his own one day

mummygow · 30/03/2006 12:54

Can the money not be given as a gift for easter, or better still have a wee job ready for him to do around the house to "earn" the cash Grin

CountessDracula · 30/03/2006 12:54

when I was first going out with dh his dad had an account at the local petrol station in sussex that we could use, sometimes we would go down for lunch just to fill up on petrol for the week if very skint Blush

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RedTartanLass · 30/03/2006 12:55

Can't believe you all Grin I thought you'd all be saying not to give him the money!!!

WWW is has a mega-overdraft, which is another reason he wants to come home, so he can work loads of hours at the local supermarket.

OMG I sound a right cow of a mum eh? Wink

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Orlando · 30/03/2006 12:55

And remember that old saying about your kids choosing (and probably paying for) your nursing home Grin

cough up, I say.

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RedTartanLass · 30/03/2006 12:56

I know Blu, he doesn't realise he's born!! Grin

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GDG · 30/03/2006 12:56

OMG, I would deffo give him the £20! He's swapped his car for a bike and he's not asked for anything over the term and he works in the holidays - doesn't sound like a bad lad to me!!

CountessDracula · 30/03/2006 12:56

Tell him to sell car and pay off o/d then get train

GDG · 30/03/2006 12:57

Apart from anything, I'd want to see him!!

mummygow · 30/03/2006 12:58

CD - lol

foxinsocks · 30/03/2006 12:58

lol orlando

at least he is working in the holidays

melissasmummy · 30/03/2006 12:59

I would give him the money. It would be sad that he couldn't spend easter with you due to not being able to get there.

Agree with countess tho, some household chores would be a nice idea.

I will miss one of my god-daughters at easter this year, have spent it with her for the last 6 years(she is 7)Her mum & I were best friends for ages but fell out (her doing, not me) and know she won't let me see her youngest. Believe me, I would move heaven & earth to make it happen!

noddyholder · 30/03/2006 12:59

Oh send him the money and greet him with a big kiss!

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RedTartanLass · 30/03/2006 13:01

Some of your suggestions are great, but you know what it is?

I've got the "I had a 2 year old at your age, and nobody helped me" head on Blush

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Tortington · 30/03/2006 13:01

i would say "certainly my beautiful son, i would love to see you. You do realise you will be my chore bitch for 2 weeks dont you?"

CountessDracula · 30/03/2006 13:02

your choice I presume though Wink