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I’m going to let Mumsnet jury decide whether DS1 can come home for Easter

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RedTartanLass · 30/03/2006 12:48

DS1 is in his first year at Uni, he was my only child for 18 years and is therefore a spoilt wee brat Grin I am paying all his fees and accommodation, as I don’t wont him to leave Uni with a massive student loan. I’ve worked full-time all his life, so why should he not reap some of the benefits!!

Anyway, despite my nagging, or more probably because of my nagging, he has not got a job!! Although he does work when he comes home on holidays, such as Christmas etc. So he is skinter than a skint thing!! I’m quite proud that in the time he’s been away he hasn’t asked anyone for a penny, and is not using his car anymore but has borrowed a bike!!

However he is coming home tomorrow and has asked for some money to help get back home, he probably only needs about 20 quid, but I have said “No way”.

However lying in bed last night, I thought maybe I was a bit harsh, so over to you MSNet jury – Should I give him the £20!!

p.s. got a beautiful Mothers Day card posted to me (on time) and a touching text. However suspect it was to butter me up for petrol!! Grin

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melissasmummy · 30/03/2006 13:02

More reason to help, surely? You know how hard it was to cope (all be it he doesn't have a baby).

You would be cutting off your nose to spite your face if he didn't come!

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RedTartanLass · 30/03/2006 13:02

Custardo he knows if he gets the money he will be paying his whole holiday!!! Grin

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lanismum · 30/03/2006 13:03

havent read all the posts but id def give him some cash if i could spare it, i want to see him too.

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LooneyLaura · 30/03/2006 13:03

Yes, give him the money. He did remember Mothers Day after all!

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RedTartanLass · 30/03/2006 13:03

Och you bunch of softies, I'm away to tranfer some money into his account now. Thanks Wink

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oliveoil · 30/03/2006 13:04

Well speaking as someone who doesn't get a bean off her parents and has never asked for any, I say don't give him the money and tell him to get a job. In the nicest possible way of course.

When he gets in the real world he is in for a shock.

You are paying for his fees and accom after all.

WideWebWitch · 30/03/2006 13:05

lol custy!

lazycow · 30/03/2006 13:10

Give him the money. He sounds like he is trying and £20 is not that much. He needs to get a job though.

CountessDracula · 30/03/2006 13:13

Yes but when i was at uni you got a grant
AND you could sign on in the holidays
AND you could claim housing benny

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RedTartanLass · 30/03/2006 13:16

True CountessDracula, and as a "mature" single parent with ds1, I got a tiny wee bit extra as well. Mind you, just finshed paying off my student loan Shock As we were on the "pilot" scheme in Scotland.

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jmum6 · 30/03/2006 13:20

Oh give him the money - but charge interest (he could pay it back in kind - i.e, you'd have a washer upper all holiday!)

oliveoil · 30/03/2006 13:21

Am I the lone hard faced witch in a sea of softies? Please let it not be so!

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RedTartanLass · 30/03/2006 13:27

Just you and me OliveGrin

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RedTartanLass · 30/03/2006 13:27

But I've buckled under peer pressure!!

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WideWebWitch · 30/03/2006 13:28

Yes olive, you hard faced bitch, you

mumeeee · 30/03/2006 16:29

DD1 is at Uni and we are paying for her accomadation and fes and she does have a student loan. The loan would have only covered the fes and accomadation and she would have had nothing left over to live on. Yes she does have a job and although she spent all her loan in the first term she has saved quite a bit this term. She has to buy books and some equipment for her course and will late jhave to go on some field trips.
Sorry this isn't really answering your question but I would give him the money to get home and sugest he gets a job.I would always want to se my daughter and if she really nede money then we would give it to her but she hasn't asked for any most of her friends have spent all thier student loan and are now well into thir overdrafts.Does your son have any student loan at all if not what does he live on?

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RedTartanLass · 30/03/2006 21:09

mumeeee, he's living off his overdraft at the moment and the money he's made while working on holidays!!

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starlover · 30/03/2006 21:10

£20? no... he can pay it himself!

jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 30/03/2006 21:14

RTL - sorry i missed you earlier..... think of the babysitting opportunities!!!

philippat · 30/03/2006 21:18

tee hee I remember loads of parents coming to pick their kids up at holidays when I was a student...

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RedTartanLass · 30/03/2006 21:19

Starlover afraid it was only Olive Oil that was against me giving him the money.

So ended up feeling like a bad, evil mum and transferred the money over!!!

I honestly thought everyone would be on my side Shock, they're all a bunch of softies! Wink

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Bozza · 30/03/2006 21:20

I think I am with olive. I think he is cheeky to ask really - would not have dreamed of asking my parents when I was at University. And I was in the phase where grants were being phased out so got some but less each year. And it was the train for me - I used to get up at 5am on Saturday because the Saturday train was cheaper than the Friday one. Remember sitting on a train in a snow-filled field between Durham and Darlington between 6 and 9 am one Saturday..... Violins at the ready please. Grin

Gem13 · 30/03/2006 21:32

RTL - I bet that's because most of us have got dear little ones (mine are obviously asleep and therefore lovely!) and we can't imagine not giving them £20 to have the joy of their company in 15 years time!

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RedTartanLass · 30/03/2006 21:40

Gem13 - Grin

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starlover · 30/03/2006 21:43

too late againe eh! lol

he should dfinitely get a job, especially as you're paying all his fees and everything for him! he's luckier than most students!

I only have a little one too though! would give anyone £20 to take him away for a while! lol

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