It is difficult. The problem is that education is a work in progress- none of us know how out children are going to turn out. We can all quote anecdotes- I could talk about my own experience, or that of one of my nieces, who has been made miserable in adult life by choices she was allowed to make for herself at 13. Or my nephew......but I won't go on , because I know that extrapolating from the particular to the general is a bad idea.
But I can't stop myself commenting when I see what to me are obvious red flags- "my 8 year old isn't sporty" "there are loads of people who've done really well in life without qualifications" " the dcs learn how deal with all sorts of people, they go to loads of HE groups" to name but 3.
HE is fantastic. But there are downsides. And it helps no one, least of all the children, to ignore, paper over or minimise them. And it does not, somehow, damage your role as a home educator to acknowledge them.