I have lots of children but want more...where will this end?

[blatentlyincognito]

I have changed my name but not sure why.
I have lots of children and although its hard and i get stressed its great amnd i love it and of course 'Them'

I just dont feel finished - I am 38 and have done this for a long time now but still would like more. Its what I do?

Anyone feel the same and had these feelings go away? Or will i go on having them until it stops?

Advice welcome!

[wannaBe1974]

there's a woman who lives in Swindon where I'm from (you might have seen her on tv) who has 15 kids. And the reason she keeps having them is because she "loves the baby stage". The reality is though that while she's looking after a baby, her older kids are bringing up her younger ones, and imo this robs them of a proper childhood. I do think that if you're able to then go for it, I think being able to have lots of kids is a blessing in a way. I'm currently ttc for my second and struggling to get pg, also took me over a year to conceive DS - even if I wanted a big family it just wouldn't be possible.

[notasheep]

My sister has 8,I would definately try for more if i was your age!

[moondog]

Agree with you Wanna.
Strikes me as incredibly odd and self indulgent to be wanting a child for that baby stage.
And,as you say,the other kids don't get a look in.
Who is paying for her 15 kids I wonder??

[swedishmum]

Even during ds's c section 9 years ago ( he was no 3) I was mourning the fact he was my last child. I didn't feel quite finished. DD3 (now 2) was unexpected and arrived 3 weeks before I was 40. Despite her hassle free 30 min labour, I feel finished. I'm too old now. Dh was expressing the desire for another son last weekend, but only because we were away alone for the first time ever and he forgot the condoms.... though Ptolemy is a good name.

[wabbitintheheadlamps]

I'm not so sure as some on the thread that your desire to have another baby will fade as you come out of the blissful post birth haze... my ds is 6months and I desperately want another and have felt this from the moment he was born.

I think if it's what you want and you feel capable of loving each one as individuals then go for it - wish I had a dp who loved me and did want a brother or sister for ds.

Totally agree with the mommy who said we're all lucky to be able to experience motherhood

[christie1]

hey cadmom, glad to see you back. sorry labour didn't go well, hope it wasn't as bad as my number 5. no, this wasn't my thread, but when I saw it, had to respond because I could have written it.

[sunnydelight]

I think you know when you are "finished". I have three, although no. 3 was unplanned, and that's great but now that DD is 3 I would hate to have another baby. Other friends with 3 or 4 say the same, they knew when they had enough. Sounds like you aren't finished yet so go for it