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Please tell me your 2.5 year old is horrible like mine...

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wangle99 · 12/03/2006 11:12

I must admit I don't like DS at the moment, he's nearly 2.5 years old - whinges and whines continually, wants of course everything he can't have and even if I gave it to him he wouldn't want it anymore. He won't eat. He won't be nice lol.

Please tell me I'm not alone and for gods sake don't tell me it gets worse before it gets better!

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eve2005 · 12/03/2006 11:19

sounds like most men i know

sorry no more help than that i'm afraid, dd is 13 months and i don't even want to contemplate what she'll be like at 2.5 considering recent behaviour or i'll cry!

sansouci · 12/03/2006 11:42

Sounds like my ds. He'll be 3 in August. He drives me insane, what with screaming (especially in public arggghhh!), whinging, fighting with his sister, putting everything he finds into his mouth (still!) and touching everything he shouldn't. He needs constant watching. But he has his adorable moments & I realise I love him to bits. This is called the "terrible twos" & I think it's worse with boys. Courage, my dear fellow frazzled mummy!

kid · 12/03/2006 11:51

Sounds like my DS who will be 4 in a few weeks. He is very miserable when he is tired or can't get his own way. He also has a big voice which he uses to let everyone know how cross he is.

I was told it was the terrible 2's but I'm not sure when they end!

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sansouci · 12/03/2006 11:56

Don't scare wangle99!

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wangle99 · 12/03/2006 13:20

oh no, I was hoping they'd be over by the time he was 3, how disillusioned I am!!

I don't remember going through this with DD but I suppose I must have done.

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cece · 12/03/2006 13:21

oh yes, ds is the same age. He has recently learnt to shout! Also still does a nice line in rug impressions whenever he doesn't get his own way!

snafu · 12/03/2006 13:42

Ohhh, wangle, do I know where you're coming from

Ds is 3 in June and currently on approx. 27 tantrums a day. He whines and whinges from the second he gets up until the moment his head hits the pillow. He has a nice line in foot-stamping and folding his arms across his chest whilst yelling 'No, mummy!'

And his newest trick is to kick off on a decibel-crunching yellfest (always in public, of course), and then as soon as my voice rises even ever-so-slightly - he puts his finger to his lips and tells me 'Too loud, mummy, too loud.'

Oh, and he doesn't eat, either. Don't you just love 'em?

suzywong · 12/03/2006 13:54

mine's lovely
he's asleep

yeah yeah yeahm I get the whinging and the wanting and the fussy appetite and tyranny about food

but he is my darling as he gets more articulate the better it becomes

fimbo · 12/03/2006 13:56

I've got one too! Doesn't eat, but yet will pick mud out of his shoes and quite happily eat it. He also has the most horrific temper. My dd is 7 and I honestly don't remember her ever being like this. Most of ds's friends are girls and they don't behave like him either.

Blackduck · 12/03/2006 13:58

I am deaf in one ear where ds screams at me . His favourite word is NO...followed by WANT and MINE....I too am not keen at certain points.....but I think its all part of toddlerhood...

snafu · 12/03/2006 14:01

The articulateness bit (she says, articulately) is a big factor at this age. Ds gets cross with me quite often because I can't always work out exactly what he's trying to tell me. But (after a slightly worrying slow start), his speech is coming on in leaps and bounds and it does make things so much easier when you can actually have a conversation.

suzywong · 12/03/2006 14:01

when mine is spouting hot, angry tears because he can't have cream crackers for every meal and I have shut the cupboard door after he has lead me by the hand to point out what he wants, I feel a sense of bewilderment that he cna be so stubborn and fixated and then it instantly melts in to gushing all consuming love and the want to scoop him up and hold him and protect and comfort him and I feel sad for him that such a cataclysmic disappointment and frustration has reduced him to such tearful despondent rage that he cannot have his way.....or can he? No one ever OD'ed on cream crackers did they?

Blackduck · 12/03/2006 14:04

Oh SW exactly how I feel when ds demands pasta for EVERY meal and I INSIST he eats fish......why shouldn't he eat pasta for every meal?

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expectingsummerihope · 12/03/2006 15:44

They shouldn't call it the terrible twos as it comes as a huge shock when it starts early and I imagine is entirely draining if it lasts longer. 20mo ds stamps his feet and smacks me if he can't have "cocklate" (chocolate)so I time him out in his cot (which doesn't work cos he then thinks it's nap time)! My friend's ds was very funny at 2.5. He's very articulate and she was explaining to him that he had two choices (to go shopping with her or to grandparents with daddy) He wasn't best pleased as he actually wanted to go to the park, so he said "Those aren't my choices mummy, they're your choices"

sansouci · 12/03/2006 17:40

Mine's perfected a torture that would work on any spy. He repeats what he wants over & over & over until we're reduced to gibbering wrecks!

Choccy. Choccy. Choccy! Choccy? Choccy. Chawwwwwwwkeeeee!!!! Choccy. Choccy. Choccy-choccy-choccy. Choccy! Mama. Choccy. etc.

expectingsummerihope · 12/03/2006 20:11

Does he get it then?

Donbean · 12/03/2006 20:27

Are you kidding!
Tonight i have had to go out for a run.....in the snow......in my fat pants spattered with paint just to get away from mine!

alittlebitshy · 12/03/2006 20:38

oh thank goodness. We have had one of those afternoons where dd, 3 in May, has had a gazillion tanturms (or did they all blur into one?), was not allowed to watch any video before dinner cos she hit me (and she is normally a really good girl apart from tanturms... she doesn't hit. grr). nearly lost most of her bedtime stories, then almost fell asleep over tea (bless) but was so hyped up after bath that she was trying every excuse not to go to sleep (ie tidy my bed

Most of the time i adore her and think she is the most adorably cute, clever, articulate almost 3 year old ever... THEN there are those days where I just lose it.

suzywong · 13/03/2006 00:06

I'm quaking with rage accumulated since weaning.
I've never made an issue over food, if he doesn't want it I just take it away. But this morning I've had enough. He asked very sweetly for Mil cereal like his brother; nah wasted that. Then a pancake as per usual for breakfast in to which I can put protein, fibre and vitamins and all sorts of goodies and top it with nutella. Instead of eating it he hit his brother in the face and had a meltdown and rejected it. Well this morning instead of taking him to school aswell so he can play in the playground he's staying here knowing that I only take boys who eat their breakfast..

However I'm mum on roster today and if, while I 'm typing this he's polishing off his pancake I'm stuffed.

blueshoes · 13/03/2006 09:54

wangle99, you are not alone. My dd 2.5 is exactly the same - some days are worse than others. I also have sansouci's problem about death by a thousand (identical) requests. Eating, getting dressed for nursery and out of the house are the flashpoints.

My dd's speech is slow in coming in. She is still very difficult to understand and that adds to her frustration. The whining is always worse when she is tired, hungry - but she is not aware enough to tell me. Is your ds dropping his nap? That throws them out as well. Also, make sure your ds is not teething. You kinda forget about the last molars. Teething has reared its ugly head again for dd - signs are hands in the mouth, red cheeks and general grumpiness and stroppy behaviour. But not necessarily any signs on the gums - anyway, dd won't show me!

Em32 · 13/03/2006 12:07

My ds is 2 and 1 month. He is exactly the same as everyone else's 2 year olds on this thread. Recent conversation 'Mummy - cocklate.' Me 'No lunch' 'Mummy,no. Cocklate.' Me 'No, you eat your lunch and then you can have a yoghurt.' 'Noooooooo,Coooooooccccklaaaaaaaaaate! Mummmmeeeeeeeeeeee' Cue tantrum on floor, flailing legs and arms etc etc. Lunch goes in the bin after I tell him if he doesn't eat it, that's where it goes. Ds looks rather surprised. Same with dinner. This is followed by waking up at 6.30am and eating four bowls of shreddies and two pieces of toast in quick sucession. Don't care that he woke up that early, I WON!

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wangle99 · 13/03/2006 12:13

I'm relieved that other toddlers are the same but cannot visualise coping till it stops! (does it stop??)

I keep trying to give him away lol but no one will take him

Have to try a bit harder ....

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Em32 · 13/03/2006 12:14

At least your mil doesn't sit down to eat a chocolate muffin in front of your ds just after you've put his lunch in front of him [angry angry angry] !!!

Orinoco · 13/03/2006 22:06

Must be a nightmare being 2. Glad I can't remembe it!

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