Don't know what to do tomorrow

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I took the kids to the park this morning and we also walked around the massive lake so we were out a while. Since lunch they have been vile. Cheeky, rude, disobedient and total PITA.

Do I keep them in tomorrow, boring day, or do I take them out and hope for a better day?

They had me up before 6 so I am knackered but they have been pretty vile for ages tbh.

How old are they? If they're little then I'd draw a l

Take them out again. As much exercise as you can give them (without collapsing yourself!).

11, 9 and seven. It is the older two that have been difficult.

Should add that obviously it's not going to stop them being rude and vile but at least they'll be knackered at the end of it so you might get an early night. At least that's my reasoning when mine do it to me (frequently).

...line under today and start afresh tomorrow. If they're acting up because they're tired then a quiet day might be good, or if it's general silliness then more energy burning is required!

If they're over 8 then a chat tomorrow at breakfast about how today wasn't fun for you and setting ground rules on things like waking you up might be the way forward, then you can plan what to do together.

Sorry, posting on a phone and still getting the hang of it :)

It sounds like they're bored of the holidays already. Impromptu hike?

I want to start again but wasn't sure if there should be consequences.

When I was getting them in the car this morning DD asked me if we were going to walk around X park again. I made them walk around a massive park when they were being really difficult in the hope it would tire them out a few weeks ago, so maybe she thought it was going to happen agan. Actually, I could take them to that park to play but maybe they will think it is a walk [evil].

I think they're old enough to have a frank discussion about what went wrong today. Are they tired/bored/just being irritating? Is there something they particularly wanted to do these holidays? After that discussion would be a good time to draw a line (everyone) and move on with positive ideas.

We went to the park today. Not the park that DS1 wanted to go to but it was DS2's turn. There was moaning from DS1 and DD but I think we all had a nice time. They are getting their choice for lunch and they are all happy now.

Still had a bit of answering back and DD threatening to run away/wishes she was dead (over ds2 retaliating to her for being mean to him) but on the whole the day is going okay.

FFS

He has had dvd, pop corn, played out. Is now been a complete shit bag and annoying his sister and disrespecting me. I am now having breathing issues and just feel ike crying as I am never going to be any good at this fucking parenting lark and I wish I hadn't had kids.

Sorry to read that, if it makes you feel any better my 4 have been horrible little XXXXs for past week or so. I am very cheesed off with them, too, and belatedly coming to the conclusion that I am trying to do too much with them. Sometimes staying home is much easier. I am waiting for them to say "Hey, how come we never go out any more?" At which point I can reel off a long list of jobs they can do before I will contemplate going out with THEM.

Is there any way you could write up a schedule on the wall of days out, listing whose turn it is to choose where & what? Would they except it was """FAIR""" if they saw a picture like that?

I will do the choice chart - great idea, thank you.

Do I need to take them out morning and afternoon? Because this is the second day we have been to a park in the morning and then they have been awful in the afternoon.

Maybe just plan one week ahead, one day for each to decide what they're doing in the week, 2 week days you stay in, and on the weekend make sure you get loads of some child free time!!

oh, and one outing per day, sheesh, what kind of masochist are you?, just sort of schedule being out 11-3 with a picnic?

We have had neasrly 4 weeks off school. One week on holiday. One week DH here. Two weeks on my own with the kids. Most of those days we have gone out at least once. We haven't had fancy days out as I can't afford them but they are still young enough to be happy with trips to the park.

DH is having Friday off as I have to go for some tests.

I did think about a picnic today and I told DH we would be at the park at 8 if they had me up before 7 again but ds2 asked to go to the other park so we did that.

Picnic tomorrow though, thanks for the idea.

Oh yes, picnics. Mine used to love them. Definitely splits the day up.

No swimming pools around you could go to for a change?

Can you split them into separate rooms if they misbehave?

Bike ride?
Swimming (our leisure centre has certain sessions that are a pound each)
Baking
Friends over (and hope they reciprocate )
Museums - lots have special activities on over the summer that are cheap or free

My kids are younger than yours, so I may be completely off the mark, but I actually wrote out a list of things to do over the summer. On the list are a lot of forestry commission parks, national trust properties, open air museums, cheap/free activities around town.

But yes, my kids are getting on my tits too :o

Take them out!

Zippy - I have taken them out .

I haven't been brave enough to take them all swimming on my own and up until very recently I don't think I have been able too because of their ages.

DD now threatening to run away again.

They get sent to their rooms but don't stay there. I have to keep putting them back. And back again.

Can't bike ride as DD deliberately threw her helmet on the ground.

No mates here.

I have lots iof ideas. Just seems they are never satisfied.

Do I really have to have them out of the house literally all day so that they behave better?

TBH I am really scared for the future.

Is the helmet broken? Do you have a bike? Can you not plan a big bike run and sandwiches somewhere? Or do you have any forests or woods nearby? Big wilderness walk.

Swimming? The ages seem fine to take all together.

I think kids this age need to be run like dogs until they're exhausted.

I am not keen to use the helmet as I don't know for sure it isn't damaged and tbh I have never taken all 3 out on bikes so am nervouse . DH keeps talking about getting a bike rack and then I could drive to a lovely big park to ride but he hans't bought it yet.

The youngest 2 can't swim yet though DD has just learnt, still okay to take them?

Well either get another helmet or have it checked. (How hard could she throw it?) Check your local council for cycle paths nearby so you don't have to drive there. We just head off out our front door and the dc ride on the footpath until we hit the cycle path.

Swimming - you need to check the depth of your local pool. Ours is about 1metre (they raise it up and down) so the kids can walk anyway.

I find planning it fairly solidly so you have one good bit of exercise every day is the key. Too much idle time and the moaning starts.

We have had several hours at the park, which I thought would be enough.

Tomorrow is a new day!