Help me figure out my 8 month old before I kill myself with frustration :(

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Help. My beautiful 8 month old dd2 is driving me, DH and dd1 crazy. She is non stop miserable and frustrated.

She moans CONSTANTLY and it is fucking constant. Crying whingeing fretting and shouting, all the damn time. I have at times screamed in frustration with her. Dd1 (7) cried. DH gets cross and has to go outside.

I just don't know what is wrong with her. I know it's the usual teething etc and hot weather plus weaning wearing her out but Jesus I think something else is there underneath.

I am trying so hard to be a good mum and give both the girls a stimulating and calming environment but for the last fortnight I feel I have run out of steam with dd2. I cuddle her and she writhes away moaning. All she wants is to be carried up and down the garden and through the house. DH spends all out evenings doing this. We are both exhausted and getting depressed about it. Help us please.

I hope you have a good night!

Hey, my DS was also 33 a weeker - amazing how you think they'll be all fragile and stuff. Outraged also qualifies mine hehe. If she continues like my DS she'll turn into a devious, hyperactive and very funny toddler. Fingers crossed for you.

Actually c-section babies often ARE the ones that need cranial work because they've missed the bit of the birth process when the back of their necks goes over your tailbone internally...

Hope you have a good night tongiht.

NO baby needs a quack manipulating its skull
craniopathy has no clinical efficacy
its over priced woo hoo

They don't manipulate the skull.

Clearly it was just coincidence that my babies problems were instantly better after walking in and out of the room, and nothing to do with what the practioner did...

It does not work for every baby or adult but for those it does it's wonderful.

Clearly I also imagine it when I walk in with a splitting headache caused by my neck and back problems and then it dramaticially improves and am pain free for weeks...

Clearly I also imagined my DC's colic (causing him to scream between midnight and 6am daily) stopping after cranial osteopathy. Oh, and my sinus problems clearing up, my husband's headaches stopping, my middle DC's crying for 4 hours a night after chicken pox stopping.

I am so not pro alternative health quackery but would have done anything to stop the colic - and cranial osteopathy was amazing. I don't care whether there is evidence or not, or whether it is placebo effect or not.

Meant to say ... OP, give it a go. One session won't cost the earth and in my experience, they are very good at saying if no treatment is necessary.

you've had lots of good advice re routines and maybe cranial osteopathy already. The only things I'd add to try that helped for us are 1) a razberry soother - it looks like a dummy (which my DD wouldn't take) but they are for chewing on and my DD loves hers, it's a lifesaver. 2) get a decent sling, do you have a sling library near you? 3) if you'd like her to take a bottle, the thing that helped my bottle refuser was to give her 50ml in a bottle every day to play with. Eventually she took to it. Sympathies, it sounds very tough, especially as your DH sounds less than supportive :(

Is there no way your DH can be more helpful? For example, rather than feeding at evening wake ups, could he try a week of going up and doing cuddles, pat shush etc to give yoi a break and help break the design to sleep habit? This is what we did and it made a massive difference. Appreciate this might not work for you though. Just trying to think of ideas.

Er I meant feed to sleep. You know what I mean, stupid phone.

How are you doing op? You so have my empathy a miserable baby is soul destroying

My friend had one like that and it was very difficult to like her because she was continually miserable, no matter what. I think that she just hated being a baby because once she could walk she was fine. Good luck - I should give all the suggestions a go.

My baby is really gorgeous and loveable when she is happy. Everyone comments on how bonny she is. It seems to be just when we are at home doing hum drum things she feels hemmed in and unstimulated. It's definitely frustration at not being able to get herself involved or around.

Well I have been working the last two days and she has gone to nannys. She has been left to self settle with miracle blanky and gone to sleep by herself. She has even had a small bottle. In the evenings I have cuddled, fed and placed her in the cot awake and she has settled herself. Tonight she had a nap around five as she had worn herself out so she has proved a little harder to settle, but she has got herself off and is currently on our bed, I will move her later.

She has even started to fight me away after a short breastfeed, it's a dream come true! She is so independent when she wants to be.

Back to maternity leave now for another two months, so let's see if I can keep the momentum up. DH is behind me a bit more as well hopefully. We have been able to have our bed back and cuddles which I think has helped! Feeling like we are on the up a bit .... Until the next tooth/cold/milestone comes along.

Well I'm glad things are better for now, yeah to the miracle blanket, having a bottle and self settling

Yeah, good going. It's feels like a long uphill struggle when you're in it doesn't it? but really, it does pass so quickly (with hindsight!)

I think all of mine used to go a bit stir crazy indoors. Hopefully the nice weather means you can at least get out more. Hope still all going well.

Hi all, just an update from me about bouncing baby dd2. She is really a different child to a couple of weeks ago. We can't quite believe its her!

She now has a happy and smiley day that goes like this....

Wake around seven bf in bed and lots of "talking" to me and daddy.

Come down and have telly time with big sister while I make breakfast. Have breakfast and play.

Short nap around half ten or eleven.

Lunch (she is eating solids like there is no tomorrow).

Longer nap.

Play and usually a walk around two thirty or three o clock.

Back for tea around half four. She will eat her own meal and then whatever dd1 leaves!

Play and breastfeed after tea (this is usually when teething begins but she has kept quite cheerful through it just lately).

Bath around half six after daddy playtime.

Bed at half seven.

Still feeding twice in the night but that's no biggie as still breastfeeding.

I think that's quite a good step up from the noisy whingey moany baby we had a few weeks ago. Just posted this for the other mums who posted with similar problems, hopefully it brings some comfort. I'm sure we will have another set back soon as she is so desperate to crawl, the next thing will surely be a growth spurt for walking. And the never ending teeth. But I'm feeling much more positive this week x

Really pleased for you! Sometimes you can just put things down as 'a phase'-it doesn't mean that you are stuck with it.

Hello, appreciate this was over 10 years ago...

But I am having the same issue with my 8-month-old DS.

Any chance the OP sees this and is able to let me know how it all panned out?