Do you ever get fed up with being...

[Twiglett]

touched and patted and cuddled and talked at?

oh i love it with my DD (17m) as i cant get enough of it

I found this thread by accident and thought I'd add my bit.
My two are almost past the "let's want mums attention when she's doing something" bit, although they do still - at 8 and 6 - get plenty of hugs and cuddles, and are told they are loved.
However, i have a mindee who quite frankly will not leave me alone. Everything she does is centred round me for example, she wants to play with the megasketcher. I have to sit there, with it perched on my knees, while she draws. If i don't sit there, enthralled, she screeches the place down. If she wants to look at a book , i have to sit with it on my knee, so she can stand beside me and look. Her mum does this with her, but it's obviously not practical for me.
On another note, my mother is totally OTT, and always has been. She always insits on giving my brothers (age 31 and 33) and me kisses when we go to bed, when we get up, when we come back from the shops. She ends every phone call with
"I love you, i love your Dh, i love the Gs's kiss kiss ". She will sit in my house and say to the kids
"Granny loves you,xxxx, granny really loves you sooo much,xxxx, you are so special etc etcxxxx", or
"do you know how much granny loves you, she loves you and your mummy and your daddy and your uncles x and y".
I know she loves me, but i just get so uncomfortable with her ramming it down mty throat 20 times a day.
Sorry, does that make me a bad daughter.

My DS (almost two) puts his hand down my top and tries to twiddle my nipples. It drives me bats! At the moment, my "strategy" (ha!) is to say firmly, "take your hand out of my top please, I don't like it" and he does (usually) do as I ask but then the first opportunity he gets, his hand is back down there. Any ideas how to put a stop to it?

MuminBrum - that's weird, my ds does that too. I put it down to some kind of nipple deprivation cause I couldn't b/f him but it drives me barking.

Twiglett - I totally understand. I love my kids madly and spend all day, every with them - cuddles, kisses blah blah blah. But the fact that I can't have a pee without someone trying to sit on my knee totally does my head in. The sheer lack of space and privacy which comes with having young children just grinds me down. What's worse is I feel guilty about feeling that way - I'm always thinking, 'God, I'll regret this if anything ever happens to them..' but I can't help it. I need a bit of time to myself - not for anything extravagant, just for a cup of tea, a pee, to get dressed etc.

I've got two under four and the thing that really bugs me (on a roll now) is the way they compete with each other for my attention. It's not that they actively want/need to talk to me/cuddle me/grope me/cling onto my leg - it's that they're competing with each other to have a bit of me. It's nothing to do with their affection for me, but everything to do with their rivalry with each other. Real heartfelt chats, cuddles, kisses etc are lovely - but 99% of the time, that's not the deal with my two.

Oh to go to the loo alone.

When? When? When?!

nightowl, caught your thread from other day and for split second thought YOU had thrown yourself on floor and screamed!!
Wouldn't that be great!!
As childminder with grown up kids can hand them back so have a few hours of peace in the evenings.(though with three grandchildren I seem to spend most of my time with kids in some way) Some days my head reels with constant chatter, but my fault too as I am daft as a brush, we are always singing and dancing, or making jokes. Then if I'm having a bad day they think I'm horrid!!That's the hardest bit. having to maintain some continuity even when feeling a bit grotty though not ill enough to not work!!

moonlady ! i have threatened to...just like the advert! (reckon it would be great for stress)