Do you ever get fed up with being...

[Twiglett]

touched and patted and cuddled and talked at?

soon your 15 month clingy baby will be a 15 year old stroppy teen!!! Make the most of this precious time, snot and youghurt smeared on your jeans is worth it!! :)

Auntymandy - so not looking forward to teen years esp. as I will be about 75 by then (well, ok, by the time he is 13 I will be 49) but I just don't know how I am going to enjoy my 50's with a spotty, moody teenager !

I know I was very moody, so if he turns out to be anything Like me, it will be hell !

Rather he stays the cute toddler he is now.

My ds (3) is still very tactile, his favourite thing in the world is to snuggle up and touch my belly... sometimes he sticks his fingers in my belly button which hurts! Must be a holdover from breastfeeding. I do hold, kiss and snuggle him an awful lot still, sometimes it's so lovely, but the belly thing is annoying.

I dont think I could ever get fed up with kisses and cuddles!
My eldest is 15 and i am lucky if he says morning to me my youngest 17 months and he cuddles me at every oppatunuty I am making the most of it!

Maybe you don't really appreciate them until you realise they might not be there much longer? Auntymandy, thankfully my eldest is 8 and still very tactile and openly affectionate. But I know many of his friends (male and female) are slowing down on the spontaneous kisses and cuddles front. There are times when I snuggle the five year old and feel really quite emotional that in another 5 years' time, I'll be feeling blessed if they are still speaking to me, :) :(

Well, at 6.15 in the morning the constant hair pulling and tugging from DS2 does seem a bit much.

The talking at me drives me mad sometimes. They're both interrupting each other and I have to police it fairly and try and keep track of their stream of consciousness wittering on two separate trains of thought.......

AAAAAAGH!

DS is very affectionate in the morning and climbs into bed with me and smothers me with kisses.....at any other time I love it but when I am asleep it really bothers me. So I turn over and what does he do - kisses my back and if I don't respond they get more fierce!

This is usually around 6.00am.

I love cuddles and hugs from both my boys. But don't you find that the childrens emotions changes very quickly. It really wears me out, I feel tried at the end of the day and then my partner wants his emotionally needs !!!!!!!! where does it end. HELP!!

I never get fed up with the cuddling and patting and all that, because ds1 doesn't really like it and never has, so any physical contact is great and ds is just a big softie so it's lovely to get the chance to cuddle him. Also I work full time so I suppose I like to pack the cuddles in when I'm at home.

But I get completely fed up of all the "Mummy, Mummy, Mummy...." etc.etc.etc... I know I should be interested in everything they have to say, but sometimes they drive me bonkers and I escape to the kitchen for some peace and quiet!

No but I do get very fed up with Im Hungrys...like im a walking talking cooker with drinks machine attached....im not you know!

i love all my cuddles the nice snuggly bedtime ones and the ones that leave me half strangled! dont think the cat appreciates her cuddles tho! she is a bit enthusiastic but i dont like the thing 2 year olds do when the pulling at your hand or pushing you or whatever else they do to get your attention thats really annoying and i dont like having my hair pulled!

Is this your ds Twig? I remember you posting something like this before. I can't stand it to be honest, it makes me feel claustrophobic. It's ok when they are little, but I find it harder and harder as they get older.

I'm starting to wonder if I am backing off because I was abused when I was younger and I need to have some barriers in place. That probably sounds really crap but I can't be arsed to explain intelligently how I feel. It's been a crap week.

Twig, what is it exactly that is bothering you about the cuddles/touching/patting/talking? Is it that you don't get a second's peace or something more than that?

twig hun i know exactly what you mean and yes it does make me fed up sometimes. i constantly have one child or another tugging and pulling at me. sometimes i just want to sit down for 5 minutes and have a cup of tea but as soon as i do i have two kids all over me fighting about whos's going to sit where. I can't even go to the toilet with out a child sat on the floor next to me!!!!

And as for the talking god yes it drives me crazy sometimes!! i get to the point where one of them is talking to me and i'm looking at them but i just can't process what they are saying cos my brain has reached over load!!!

it doesn't make you a bad mummy, its normal to want 5 minutes to yourself from time to time to collect your thoughs. I reckon anybody who says they have never felt like that is telling fibs!!

Yes I do get fed up with it - especially as I work in a class of 6 & 7 year olds, so get patted like a dog all day at work too!
I am not being a good Mummy today, as they are both being very demanding & driving me mad, so have just lost the plot with them.

I have always been very physical and demonstrative with my three sons. Although I have just lost my 20 year old he never ended a telephone conversation without saying "love you mum" even with his mates in the car. My oldest who is 25 always cuddles me and my little one, who is 8, loves to wrap himself around me to watch TV. How you are with your children is how they will be with theirs, better to express their love and not be embarrassed than to be cold and distant

cazH, your dead right, was always given tonnes of affection and i love you's as a kid and never got embarressed kissing my parents and saying i love you even if my mates were there and slagged me off, i'm the same with my dd and cuddle her even when we're out and about. (she's still yound enough not to object!)

once again i'm so sorry for your loss and hope your grandkids can be a great comfort to you at this terrible time.

touched, patted, cuddled and talked at no...i could never get fed up with that.

but i do get fed up with having my clothes pulled, my arms pulled, juice cups literally shoved in my face. (if i dont get up that very second she rams it in my eyes) hearing mommeeee, momeeeeee, momeeee, chocat, samich, taw, mook, more, kikit, shoes, coat, momeee momeeee. whinging, jumping on my stomach (i know its very bouncy but still, elbows in my face, two kids fighting over who is going to sit by me (literally again, pushing each other off our very large sofa which has more than enough space for all of us). i get fed up of stepping back to find ive trodden on dd also!

oh yeah and the sitting on the head thing too. not nice at all. ds gets it too, if he dares to sit by me she will sit on his head until he has to move...or kick him...or punch him.

i am in a bad mood with her though. 8 tantrums today and that was just in the supermarket. proper kicking screaming and lying on the floor tantrums.

Get fed up up with
gruffalo...
gruffalOOOO....
gruffaloooooooooooo Daddy!!!!!!!
Every 2 minutes even when he just throws book away when i open it.

my DS latest thing is to shout mummmyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy for ages until it becomes a screech despite me asking him each time what he wants. He then lies next to me and will kick with each screech He also thinks it is lovely to walk across your shoulders or hang off you wherever you are...most of the time when I have DD in my arms.

No!

cazH, i don't think anybody is talking about being cold with their kids. I kiss and cuddle my kids all the time and must tell them i love them dozens of times a day. I think twiglett was talking about the fact that you can't have a second without being tugged at and pulled at is what gets you down. i guess thought that every child is different. some kids aren't like that all the time but mine for one are constantly clinging hold of me. I can't even wash the dishes without a child wrapped around my legs. i am very affectionate with my kids but i would love just five minutes to have a cup of tea without having toys shoved in my face and the sound of 'mummmmmmmmmmmmy' constantly ringing in my ears.

Caz, i am so very sorry for you lose hun, i can't even begin to imagine what you are going through, you will be in my prayers xxxx julir

sorry, julie not julir