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How annoying are... (fake annoyance)

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Alabama100 · 03/07/2012 16:53

...mums that disguise a brag about their baby in the firm of an annoyance...for example "(sigh...rolls eyes...) I can't believe blah blah is crawling/walking at only x months ...urgh....s/he just on't sit still (cue eye roll)!"

Why don't they just say "oh guess what blah blah just crawled/walked!" I ind this fake annoyance thing a very odd way to brag(!)

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AKMD · 03/07/2012 22:36

There are rare occasions when it's genuine. I remember one mum whose DD walked at 9mo and she was nearly crying because she was so fed up of her DD running for the exit every time she sat down at a baby group. Other than that, yes it is annoying and showy-offy and stupid.

MMcanny · 03/07/2012 22:42

Maybe some people just have the opposite 'problem' to you? I do this all the time when people are complaining their kids won't eat, mine genuinely do eat EVERYTHING and want to eat constantly and I'm seriously worried about the weight of the eldest as he has deffinately got a bit round in the face and developed a paunch since starting school and having to sit still for five hours a day! I do like the term 'stealth boasting' that's been coined on here tho. Lol.

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Alabama100 · 03/07/2012 23:30

Hmmm I don't think it's because thy have the opposite problem as me because dd is very advance and early, siting unaided 4.5 months, staning holding on at 5months, crawling at 6.5 months, pulling self up and cruising at 7 months)... I just seems like a bit of showy offness to me.

I have actually said to someone once "I don't get why yoi're rolling your eyes at your baby pulling themselves up, aren't you pleased". There was s much sighing and eye rolling.

Okay yes it is tiring running after a mobile baby but....come on that much huffing and sighing is just or show.

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scrambledlegs · 03/07/2012 23:31

Can't beat a bit of bragplaining

NoComet · 04/07/2012 00:02

Of course they are bragging a bit, but the complaints are genuine too!

DD1 learnt to climb before she could walk and, therefore, before she understood that crawling off the edge of the dinning table was a bad move.

Like wise a friends DS who walked at 10 months drove her mad because he'd quite happily run and fall over repeatedly.

It took him far longer than my much older (14 month) DDs to connect speed and pain.

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Alabama100 · 04/07/2012 05:05

Nope pretty sure these people are just bragplaning. You can't say you want your baby to be advanced then "complain" when they do something. Sorry it's fake bragplaining and don't know why people have to disagree clearly I know who I am referring to and just want a whinge.

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lola88 · 04/07/2012 07:50

not everyones happy thier baby is doing things quickly it makes me sad that the little baby bit is going to fast i've been known to complain that ds is trying to start walking with help because i feel like my baby will be gone to soon

SoupDragon · 04/07/2012 07:56

I was pissed off that DD learnt to roll along the floor before she could sit as I lost those heavenly days when your baby can sit and amuse themselves but not go anywhere.

IMO, once you've gone through the excitement of one child doing that kind of thing you realise what a PITA it is.

AngryFeet · 04/07/2012 07:58

I wasn't fake boasting when DS walked at 8.5 months. I was genuinely annoyed! DD had walked much later and I was hoping for a bit more peace before having to deal with 2 toddlers at the same time!

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Alabama100 · 04/07/2012 09:46

Why are you all taking this so personally?? Ffs these pp aren't lonely or whatever excuse you've come up with, we are all part of the same group and they have openly I repeat OPENLY admitted to being competitive and tiger mom like. I was just having a whinge ffs and uou al leap to the defense of those who brag.

Very odd odd odd behaviour.

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Alabama100 · 04/07/2012 09:48

sittingbull I refer you to my post above. You know nothing of the situation and guess what....PEOPLE DO FAKE BOAST! And shock horror.....its actually annoying to hear on a daily basis!

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Alabama100 · 04/07/2012 09:56

I would also like to add that I am fully aware that not everyone who moans about their kid doing things early is boasting....i was referring to those who DO fake moan being annoying and guess what...there are some that do this and yes...it is annoying! I repeat...I am aware that not everyone is happy their kid reaches milestones early BUT those mums who openly say they are competitive and then on the other hand try to fake complain that their kid has done something early are annoying because it is just a way to slip in their that x is doing x early. When in fact sit would be far less annoying to just say "yay x has done this am so proud"

Again. I repeat. I know not all mums are boasting when they complain, but again....SOME ARE and to those I find annoying.

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Alabama100 · 04/07/2012 10:00

Again because I feel I need to make this clear I AM AWARE THAT NOT EVERYONE IS PLEASED THEIR CHILD IS DOING THINGS EARLY but....the are SOME who very irritatingly do use it as a way to fake boast.

Felt I needed to spell this out as it seems here that people here would rather concoct a woe is me tackle of a poor lonely mother crying in the corner trying to make conversation when in fact, no that is not always the case, trust me there are irritating people are there who fake boats.

This little whinge was meant to be just that....a little whinge.

Remind me NEVER to come here for a bit of a whinge again(!)

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SoupDragon · 04/07/2012 11:41

Dear god, calm down. People have disagreed with you, not firebombed your house.

softpaw · 04/07/2012 11:48

(smile)Soupdragon

softpaw · 04/07/2012 11:48

{smile}

softpaw · 04/07/2012 11:49

nope,can't do the smiley thing! help!

SoupDragon · 04/07/2012 11:59

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PineappleBed · 04/07/2012 12:02

V annoying if they are just bragging and its all they ever do.

I have complained about dd being mobile so young...now worried people think I was bragplaining or stealth boasting! Whoops!

ReportMeNow · 04/07/2012 12:05

You can't win it seems.

AKMD · 04/07/2012 12:28

YY SoupDragon

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Alabama100 · 04/07/2012 13:22

I think the difference is pretty clear if you've admitted you're a competitive person and tiger mom, and try to disguise a brag with a complaint and if you've hot 2 kids say and are exhausted and make a comment about a kid being too mobile.

I think only an idiot wouldn't see the difference in the two sinarios.

I alo think the people like to disagree for the sake of it on this site. I really couldn't have made myself any clearer. People that fake complain to boast are annoying. As are people that pick arguements on forums for no damn reasons come to think of it.

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SoupDragon · 04/07/2012 14:30

I find people who can't spell scenarios correctly annoying but [shrug]

SoupDragon · 04/07/2012 14:32

"people that pick arguements on forums for no damn reasons come to think of it."

I rather think you can include yourself in that group don't you?

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