Private nurseries???

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My son is 4 and been in various nursery since 2 months old, between him being of for having a sniffle or alleged virus and being off to being moaned about because of his behaviour for trivial nonsense that i can't do anything about as im not there. I have decided to remove him and have my mum look after him I'm lucky my mother is a retired head teacher. I'm a single parent and without my mum being there at the drop of a hat I would have to give up work, how do others manage? Surely employers must get sick of phone calls about children not well, as an employer myself I would be put off employing anyone with young children unless they were like me.

OK then

Sick children do not belong in nurseries because the staff get sick and so do the rest of the children. Not to mention that it's cruel for a child to be in a nursery when they should be at home with a parent if they are not well.

Nurseries are there to care for your child when they are fit and well, not to parent them- that's your job.

I can't comment on your child and his behaviour but do you not want to be kept informed about his progressa and any instances of bad behaviour? The nursery have a duty to discuss these things with you- it's called working in partnership with parents.

Insancerre take it you don't work then! I think a child is fine to be at nursery with a cold and really it is not interesting hearing the ate macaroni and got over excited, my eyes glaze over. There job is to take over the role of parent in my absence, what I pay them to do.

THEIR job is not to take over as a parent, they are paid to look after a nursery full of children.

Sick children do not belong in nursery, as they infect everyone else, and btw all 3 of mine were at nursery, I work full time and was very happy that sick children were sent home and the staff made sure the children behave appropriately.

Are you planning on sending your child to school at some point?
Because they are sent home for being sick there too as well.

And chances are, if your child misbehaves they will probably want to discuss it with you.

I am a childminder and it is not my job to take over the role of parent in the parent's absence. It is my job to make sure the child is happy, safe, stimulated, fed, and provide reassurance and care for the child. My job is to work together with the parents to make sure the child is well looked after in my care. If a child is ill, then he/she is better looked after by own parents. I can't look after a sick child if I have another 2 or 3 children to look after. First, they will all get ill, then my children will get ill, then I will get ill. WHat's the point in that? I'm sorry but I think that your view of what a nursery should provide is a bit strange. I have never been asked by a parent to be a replacement parent to their child...

I get 5 family days a year. I can use them at short notice.

My inlaws have helped out before and dh sometimes rearranges work to allow me to work then when I get in from work he goes out.

Kids still get sick at school too, not just nursery. My son was poorly with his childminder a couple of times too.

Nurseries have strict rules re illnesses and rightly so

And feedback re behaviour is a GOOD thing

How do others manage? Well it takes a lot of juggling and apologising to employers on occasion

Give an example of trivial nonsense that the nursery have mentioned ....

Oh and as a nursery nurse, I am there as an early years educator not as a stand in parent... And only myself my my children's dad do the parenting of them. They are educated at school and they have fun at various activities we do. I am their mother no one else.

So, you want to send your sick child to nursery.

You don't want feedback about their day or behaviour.

You wouldn't employ women with children.

Ok

I'm not talking about a child vomiting, just like a cold, and yes I would send my son to school with a cold. Also behaviour such as getting over excited. Look I understand what is acceptable behaviour my mother was a head teacher for thirty years and she says he's fine it's just young inexperienced staff, that don't know what to say so they say he didn't listen well today or he and another boy were loud today. Zzzz Go ahead slag me off, you obviously as doing such a wonderful job and are happy for your children to be off and missing out on their education with trivial illnesses, if the child is genuinely unwell e.g temperature or something fine, but colds no get to school! I have had my son off all week, yet he has been to his swimming classes, athletics and soft play and been fine, but nursery think he had a runny nose so he has been off. I went to my Gp who agreed piece of nonsense and should be in so ofcourse the nursery has no choice, which they don't like.

nursery is not for everyone, and aren't you lucky you have the option of your mum to help you out

if he just had a cold, why has he been off for a week?

I personally would not be bothered, and have not been bothered if my child missed a few days of nursery, it's not education per se IMO

my daughter didn't go to nursery at all.

They are both at school and there is no difference between my son who went to nursery and my daughter who didn't.

I think you will find that when your child is at school, they will also be sent home when unwell and no-one will thank you for sending a sick child in

you don't seem to have much empathy or insight and that is not a good thing

How do others manage? with great difficulty sometimes

I imagine if you weren't interested in the feedback from nursery and thing the staff are inexperienced and you don't care for what they say, nor do you agree with their illness policy and are as closed minded to nursery as you are coming across on here, i should think they are glad you are taking your son out

I've never heard of a nursery sending a child home for a runny nose.

I think you've been very unfortunate in your choice of nurseries. The one we use would never send a child home with a cold, only things like high temp or vomiting. They would tell us things like DD being overexcited, but just as information, not as any kind of criticism.

Yeah there probably glad I'm taking my son out, only the £750 a month they will miss, not me, may be I'll buy a new bag! After all got school fees after the summer, so will enjoy it all while I can.

Never thought I was closed minded before. I'm quite laid back actually just not keen on inexperience untrained staff making a medical diagnosis on my child . I suspect .they just want to cut their numbers as they have a inspector visit or something!

And yes I know I'm very fortunate but I would of had to of given up work it I did not have my mum. I honestly feel for any career women without support, it must be difficult.

All my friends are like me, have careers and find being told about eating macaroni or the likes dull. What I want to know where is he at reading, writing, mathematics that's all I'm interested in, couldn't care less about the rest!

Shock horror gasp to you all!

So you want to send your sick child to nursery?

And

You don't give a shit what your child has done with their day? Okayeeeee

Each to their own, but I have a professional full-time career, and yet I still care about what my 2yo DD has eaten, how long she has slept for, and what she did during the day. I even care about whether she's had a poo or not. It comes as second nature to me, as her mum. If I don't care, who does?
Enjoy your new bag.

If you think the important things to know about a nursery child are how they are doing in reading, writing and maths, you clearly know very little about child development.

What stress said - I am very interested in want my children do all day and I work FT, the two things aren't mutually exclusive

Assume you won't be asking your mum what your son does when he is with her all day either

Sent child to nursery at 2 months? And he been there for about 4 years before you sent him to your DM a few months before he'd be starting school.

Are you in UK? The timings seem a little odd.

No my son tells me whats he's been up to, he has good language! As for my mother she might tell me they went to a museum or something! I suppose the mothers the that fuss about organic food.would be more interested in what they eaten, some people enjoy hearing about that. I know about child development as I said my mother was a head teacher for over 30 years and she feels the same as me. Everyone's different. What is worth remembering is nurseries can be places where children are neglected. It does and has happened, not questioning things such as in behaviour management what statergies are the nurseries using? Where are there educational goals? Leaving them to run wild all day indoors or in a garden is simply not good quality care, while they stand around chatting. I'm sorry if I have offended some people by suggesting I'm more interested in these things than weather they had jelly that day. Everyone is different. I will try and look interested when they are telling me they had pasta, wouldn't want to come across as I heartless mother!

Not all nursery staff are young and experienced. But some parents don't realise we're not thick or stupid and we had to work hard for our qualification and then continue to do further training and Keep up to date with changes. I think there is more to this than you are letting on.
Enjoy your bag. I hope it gives you lot of satisfaction.