Private nurseries???

[eternalscot]

My son is 4 and been in various nursery since 2 months old, between him being of for having a sniffle or alleged virus and being off to being moaned about because of his behaviour for trivial nonsense that i can't do anything about as im not there. I have decided to remove him and have my mum look after him I'm lucky my mother is a retired head teacher. I'm a single parent and without my mum being there at the drop of a hat I would have to give up work, how do others manage? Surely employers must get sick of phone calls about children not well, as an employer myself I would be put off employing anyone with young children unless they were like me.

Schools start in Scotland at age 5 independent and your public, the same, boarding prep is 6 I believe. They have a teacher from age 3 at most good private nurseries full time from 7.30am-6pm ( and I tend to drop him off at 10am and get my mother to pick him up at 5pm) before I receive yet more abusive for sending him in all day. You all must be perfect, I aspire to be like you!

Grovee I'm glad you worked so hard for your nvq, and yes I will enjoy my bag! I worked hard for that money too!

Eternalscot - I agree that it is frustrating to keep getting called away from work to collect your sick child. Annoying thing for me was, that when I got there she was fine. No temp, not upset, no sniffles, just running around and playing happily. Took her home and she was fine for the rest of the day.

I dont doubt she was displaying signs of being ill in order for them to call me, they are very professional. It happened quite a lot. I love the nursery and staff though so wouldn't have wanted to take her out of the nursery, but my employers were beginning to get frustrated so in the end I stopped work and am now a SAHM. She still goes to nursery for a couple of mornings a week as she loves it, and I am not stressed about always waiting for 'the call'. But you don't have that option.

The previous nursery was much worse - they didn't notice that she had been bitten by another child, never knew how she had sustained scratches down her face, bumps on her head - the list went on. Very glad to get her out of there!

Hope your mum enjoys her new role!

Have you actually read back your op and replies op? Prehaps you should get some chips off your shoulder for your bag? Non?

Why did you send him to such a rubbish nursery for 4 years?

Westwinger this is EXACTLY what I'm talking about and yes at a previous nurseries my ds was only three months old and was literally covered in painful bite mark from other children and they do not bother mention it, just he loved his baby food! Only when you give them a bath you wonder if they set a pack of animals on him!

Again that was what I was wondering mother's must have to give up work as it must be so difficult as childcare is not really reliable enough. Again I understand not having a child vomiting, temperature or something. But runny noses or regurutating their food because they gave eaten too much no, that is just daft. If their running about and full of beans chances are their fine.

You will probably find it is better for your Dc being a SAHM, respect to you as it is much harder for woman who have had good careers etc to lose part of their identity and independence.

Rubirosa he's at a new one last one closed due to recession.

I don't think I have got a chip on shoulder, I'm fine thanks. This is a forum and I'm allowed to reply

As both an early years practitioner and a parent to a young daughter.. I believe nursery is a place for children to go to learn, make friends and have fun and is not a place for ill children. The only place for an ill child is with their parents. My daughter attends nursery twice a week and last month was off 2 weeks out of the month, however I am glad she wasnt at nursery as as her mother I want to be the one there caring for her as she is my child, children who attend nursery ill just spread their illness to other children and nursery staff. Call me boring but I do want to know what my child has eaten, when and how much theyve eaten, when they had naps etc. After all as a mother I believe this information is important, especially with youngsters who are in a routine.

Oh thats ok that. Hmm chips.

Grovee I'm glad you worked so hard for your nvq, and yes I will enjoy my bag! I worked hard for that money too

Would you like a saucer of milk to go with that?

It is people like you that make my job as an early years practitioner really hard at times. You obviously have zero respect for the people who are caring for your child.
I expect the nursery are more than pleased that you have taken him out. I expect they are having a party.

So your 3 month old was repeatedly bitten, the staff were all young and inexperienced, and they sent children home for (you believe) being over their numbers - and yet you don't remove your child for years continuing to send him until the nursery closes? What were you thinking?

How do working mums cope? Well, we just DO.
Not all nurseries are terrible, the one I used was lovely.

Personally, even though my DCs also had good language(?), I was happy to hear what they had eaten, when they slept, what they did.
Would you prefer they said nothing, and just handed over your child at the end of the day?

And just remember, when you are making comments about "young, inexperienced staff, that these are the same people you trust to look after your child everyday.

As a retired head teacher with 30 years experience, I really hope your mother is not reading this
There job is to take over the role of parent in my absence, what I pay them to do
And yes I know I'm very fortunate but I would of had to of given up work it I did not have my mum
This is my favourite line though
I know about child development as I said my mother was a head teacher for over 30 years
My dad was a lorry driver for over 30 years, does that make me an expert too. DH has worked on million pound jet aircraft for about that time too, wonder if he can get me a job- I must be an expert by now.

Teachers training today don't cover much child development for children 0-5, never mind teachers who trained 30 years ago.

Oh brilliant, that must mean I have 30 years "experience" as a plumber, I will save my self a fortune :)

And op if you think that nursery staff are paid to be parents in your absence, I feel quite sad for You.

HNC actually we don't do Nvq's in Scotland

OP what will you do if your son is v v sick and your mum can't /won't have him? What if your mum is v v sick? how will you mange then?

eternalscot actually, yes I do work. In a private day nursery actually. I have had to leave work at short notice to take care of my children when they have become ill and I have had to have time off work to care for them. Most employers I've had have been very understanding, just as well really as we have no family support and DH has also worked abroad at times.
You are not the only one juggling, you know.