Is it right im not aalowed to see my Daughter

[mike6491]

Hey all I am just trying to get a wider prospective of views. I have a 3 yeard old daughter who lives with her mum only a few miles away, but despite me asking I'm never allowed to see her and when on the very few occasions I have been allowed last time being sept 2009 there are a lot of conditions. I have parental responsibility and there is no court order preventing me from seeing my daughter, I don't want to bad mouth her mum but just want to hear some views from other parents.

2 children with 2 different mothers in a couple of years realistically.

You're honestly saying it would be fine to make comments like that to a woman? Nah, don't buy it.

And no, I'm not a man

err dodie - how about reading the post i already wrote explaining that and apologising for not wording it in the way that i meant it.

you can do that kind of selective quoting to make any point you like. but it is a misrepresentation.

I can only speak for myself - I don't think it is a particularly great idea, man or women to have different children by different partners in a short space of time. It does complicate things especially if you don't have a good relationship with your exes.

But that isn't a 'moral' judgment - its a question of practicality. Just as I would hope good parents would think carefully about whether they could offer a child their unconditional emotional and financial support for the rest of that child's life BEFORE bringing the child into the world.

But I know that life doesn't always work out smoothly or as we planned. Once the child is here, you've got to get on with it. I agree that op's ex should not be withholding contact because she doesn't like the op. But also the op has got to pull his finger out and establish a relationship with his daughter. Not for his benefit, for HERS.

and my point was, when i said it, that i think that would have been 'd at if it was a woman saying she'd had a baby with one man and the baby lived with him and then she'd gone and had another baby with another man in a short space of time and hadn't seen the first baby for 18months.

she'd have had a lot of, 'how can you have one baby you don't see and just go and make another?', 'you're bouncing from one relationship to the next you need counselling' etc.

and i'm guessing the man who'd kept and looked after the first baby would be lauded as a saint who had been left holding the baby whilst she went off and started another relationship and had another baby.

It doesn't matter whether it's right or wrong, it's done.

The important thing is this man is not seeing his daughter and she is not seeing her dad.

Op, you really need to step up and start making your voice heard. Make some appointments with solicitors and don't take no for an answer, please.

My dp's mum left him with his dad when he was little and he didn't see her between the ages of three and fourteen (when he went looking for her)- her excuse? His dad made it too difficult for her to get access. His opinion? My mum couldn't be bothered to fight for me.

Make it right with your daughter before it gets too late and your ex fills her head with all sorts of poison about you (possibly)