Am I the only mum of 3 & 5 yr olds NOT to feed them a constant stream of cakes/ biscuits/ crisps between school and evening meal?

[FGM]

I offer a drink and a snack: one (kiddie) gingerbread man, some fruit or a couple of breadsticks once we get home from school. The journey home is literally 3 minutes walk. Then it's play etc for about an hour and a half until evening meal.

My friends dole out multiple sugary biscuits (custard cream anyone?) then moan that their kids don't eat their veg.

Left to their own devices my kids would love to eat loads of sugary snacks but it's my choice to say "no" and that "one is enough" knowing that dinner is on the way. And I cook lovely fresh food for their meals.

I've even had one mum try to give me a packet of choccy biscuits "in case my child felt left out" If I'd had my wits about me I might have offered to cook her kids a decent lasagne (from a treasured family recipe) to compensate for all the quorn crap that she tries to feed her anaemic looking kids!

I honestly feel judged by this woman as a bad mum for not providing endless munchies.

FWIW my kids are above average height and weight and full of beans. They also love eating out and trying new foods. it is a pleasure to cook for them and to take them out to eat. My philosophy wrt food is to enjoy good quality food and to respect the source of your food as well as respecting one's body and health.

Am I really so alone?
Anyone else say "no" to the sugar monsters for the sake of good health of their kids?

Speechless!! Have you read 'How To Make FRiends and Influence People?'

I used to be you OP. now my children are biggest sugar-obsessives in their classes.

Needless to say, this gives my friends an unending source of pleasure.

ho hum!

I've taken to cooking their tea asap after getting in to stem the tide of biscuit requests. Mine are 3 and 6. Also they have a cooked school dinner (DD2 does 2 days a week at nursery) so tea can just be something light anyway.

I try to be relaxed around food with them. I'm sure they eat a better and more varied diet than I did at their age.

I feed my kid biscuits and sugary snacks. He rarely eats his whole lunch, won't eat veg whatever I do, so any food is better than no food because he needs calories.

I am not a size 16+ incidentally and he is very underweight.

Anything else?

Op I'm sure you do have a good and worthy point somewhere in your post but it seems to have got accidently lost in the generally smug and self-congratulationary tone of your message. But you apologised so you are excused.

fuckmybackiskillingme you on the other hand do not come across well. I'd rather be fat than unpleasant any day. It's always possible to improve one's figure... (I'm sure you get my point)

Hey why don't some of you back off. OP is sorry she offended and is hurt by some of the responses

There is a certain amount of projection going on here. OP has admitted she is not perfect but has maybe got it right with food. Don't snipe because of your own insecurities, she wasn't personally attacking anyone.

I too feel that pressure of the other kids getting unlimited crisps, biscuits etc before tea. I am not judging I just want my kids to eat a healthy tea before treats . Maybe this could springboard a discussion about good ways to deal with post school hunger? If it isn't something you want to discuss or affects you well I am sure it wouldn't kill you to jog on without being nasty

DD and DS have their dinner at 6:00, generally at 3:00 i will give DD and DS a drink of fruit juice and a plate with some fuit and one malted milk biscuit on it. We don't do crisps as such, but my kids do have those goodies corn crisp things when they have sandwiches. They are allowed chocolate, but we only allow it on saturdays, when they are allowed one of those toddler bags of chocolate buttons as a special treat. Would never dream of giving DS crisps/chocolate after nursery as he would become hyperactive, bouncing off the walls.

Forgot to say fuckmybackiskillingme I'm a size 10...

Actually I don't get what this whole worthy food thing is all about. Most kids have a very healthy breakfast, milk and fruit at snack time, a healthy lunch and a healthy* dinner.

• Fruit, veg, no crap.

Is it really such a terrible, terrible thing to give your child a biscuit when they get home from school? Really?

Do none of you come home from work and have a cup of tea and a biscuit? Or are you all munching on carrot sticks? [h,,]

That should have been obviously

A biscuit is not crack cocaine

I truly do get more and more shocked by the nasty, bitchy comments that people come out with on here.

I am pretty certain that the vast majority who have made bitchy comments wouldn't say these sorts of things to peoples faces, but are quite happy to hide behind a screen to do it.

FGM - good for you for wanting to feed your children decent food and healthy snacks. You should be proud that you make the right choices for your children and take no notice of any nasty or negative comments for the Gestapo on here.

Lucy - the Gestapo?

You do know what the Gestapo did, don't you?

Hardly comparable to what other posters are saying on this thread.

OP. Good for you. Let everyone else feed their kids what they want.

Lucy ""in case my child felt left out" If I'd had my wits about me I might have offered to cook her kids a decent lasagne (from a treasured family recipe) to compensate for all the quorn crap that she tries to feed her anaemic looking kids!"

Yes - must protect OP from all the nasty and negative comments

Ooh look, Godwin's Law! And in fewer than 100 posts too, surely a new MN record?

Why post this? You're clearly pleased with your decision and how other parents feed their kids is not your concern.

I'm with you janemare, what is wrong with quorn??

And I don't know anyone who gives their kids tons of biscuits in the afternoon, I certainly don't and my kids still won't eat their veg : /

"treasured family recipe" arf

We don't generally do snacks in our household either but I don't judge other parents on whether they do or not. And DD still has sweets, chocs, biscuits, pre-prepared food occasionally. I don't want to make food an issue for her.

I'm another one who has started cooking for my DDs as soon as they get home from school to stem the flow of never ending snacks that they want. After they've eaten their meal I'm a lot more relaxed about what snacks they eat for the rest of the evening.

We are quite a snacky family generally and like most parents I provide my DDs with a mix of healthy snacks and not so healthy snacks (my favourite type) . The DDs are all stick thin and I'm a size 10 :)

I give DS sugary snacks, he is anaemic looking, as in very pale skinned, incredibly skinny, and short for his age. He will eat fruit and veg until it is coming out his ears. I personally think he could do with a few more calories, if that makes me a bad parent so be it!

Just a suspicion but I think OP might have left the room...

You didn't piss me off OP per se. I merely found your parenting 'concern' a little tenuous, when it seemed the majority of the post was bigging up the Michelin starred household you run.

You may have found more solidarity had you just left your post as a mild rant about friends who fed their children crap after school and then complained they didn't eat all their tea.

Surely, OP, it depends on what time you have that evening meal? We have never had ours earlier than 6.30 because as you know [passive aggressive] it is so important that the whole family should eat together and we simply cannot understand families who do not do this every single evening of the year....

loving your work cory