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New to the site and shocked

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Kailumsmum · 18/02/2012 17:06

Im new to this site. I have joined others and noticed there seems to be a hate campaign against certain things such as Greggs, McDonalds, Fruit Shoots, piercing babys ears and shopping at Iceland or using frozen foods. I just wondered what was the problem with any of these?

Also why the labeling of people as 'chavs' is common? Some things on these support sites are quite shocking how people like to belittle others and try compete with parenting techniques.

Im 21 single mum with a 2 year old son and don't feel I could get much support from these sites even though thats what they are here for.

Any one else feel the same?

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Sparklingbrook · 19/02/2012 09:21

Vicky.

Dustinthewind · 19/02/2012 09:29

One day he'll be living on kebabs and beer, and the fruitshoots will be a fond memory. My DS is 17.

Octaviapink · 19/02/2012 09:36

Some people hate bad spelling as well.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

Families General parenting

Iggly · 19/02/2012 09:42

Hate campaign, what hate campaign?!

Yes there's a bit of joking and judging but only reeled out occasionally.

MN is fab. I've been here for over two years and have had some great support.

piratecat · 19/02/2012 09:46

welcome op, don't mind anyone, and get stuck in. I like your wading right in style.
Not great to put your childs name as a user name the if you want to be sure of anonymity.

Magneto · 19/02/2012 09:54

Sorry but I can forgive and ignore most grammar and spelling mistakes but this makes me twitch, you say "it doesn't make me feel any better" not "it don't make me feel any better"

What's with the sudden influx of "soandso'smummy" names? Are we being invaded? Where's my tin hat?

Original poster

Kailumsmum · 19/02/2012 12:37

My name is what it is due to lack of imagination. I just typed the first name that came to mind. I can't think of any other names so til then it will stay as it is.

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Sparklingbrook · 19/02/2012 12:38

So how are you feeling about it all now Kailumsmum?

Original poster

Kailumsmum · 19/02/2012 12:49

I'm feeling better thanks. I have had a nosey round and it seems good.

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Sparklingbrook · 19/02/2012 13:15

I will look out for you. Have fun.

niamh29 · 20/02/2012 12:58

I agree with the other posts, everyone has an opinion (some have very strong opinions indeed)
For instance: I hate McDonalds with a passion and would blame it for all the wrong in the world but will give my DD's fruit shoots and fish fingers on occasion (ducks for cover from "fruit shoot haters")
: D

matana · 20/02/2012 13:08

Welcome. I've had some excellent advice since joining, and lots of sympathy, though of course there are some people (as there are in life) who do not excel in pulling their punches to avoid hurt feelings. And why should they i suppose? I'm all for free speech.

Have to admit though, i've missed the Fruit Shoots/ McDonalds/ Greggs hate campaigns. They sound like they could have been fun!

tralalala · 20/02/2012 13:10

Welcome Kailumsmum

chav is used by some but often challenged for being the snobby nasty word it is.

Longtallsally · 20/02/2012 13:12

Kmum - when I first found MN, I was so at the first thread I read that I ran for the hills. It took me 2 years to come back!

When I eventually did, I was able to ease my way in and eventually came to regret all of the common sense advice, and support, and humour, that I had missed out on over those two years.

MN can be a bit of a culture shock at first, but there are some wonderful threads, some v amusing posters and some great advice to be had here if you can hang on in there.

ChaosTrulyReigns · 20/02/2012 13:24

Hello and welcome OP.

I like you already - you've made me titter.

Shocked that we diss the devil's own drink, but obviously the fucks and cunts flying around go straight over your head.

bytheMoonlight · 20/02/2012 13:30

Op, please stay. This is the place to be if you need parenting advice, or any sort of advice really!

I've been here in different forms for ages and MN has had such a big impact on my life esp on the way I parent.

There's a few knobs but there's more than enough lovely MN'ers to make up for them

CrashLanded · 20/02/2012 13:59

Welcome,

I have been on mumsnet for nearly seven years.

Yes, there have been unpleasant times. I have been called a few names a couple of times when I had no intention of offending anyone, but I clearly did. It happens. Others can be quite abrupt, but I think they mean well. Some clearly don't - and unfortunately, I have had to report a couple of threads, which were removed.

However, I have also been given some fantastic and very valuable advice. For example, one thread probably saved my marriage (or at least stopped it from taking a wrong turn) and thanks to another thread, I became friends with one of the most supportive person I have come across. I will forever be grateful to that individual.

My advice to a first-timer-on-mumsnet - or the advice I would give myself if I could turn back the clock would be:
-explore beyond the popular threads. There are people here with a hilarious sense of humour
-avoid AIBU threads, unless you are not easily upset. Do not post on AIBU. If you are desperate, re-word your query and post it in WWYD. The people on WWYD are more gentle and forgiving than the ones on AIBU threads.
-Avoid the BF v Ff, Sahm v wohm, nursery v whatever, to vaccinate v not to vaccinate threads/debates. They can spiral out of control and some people get personal.

Use common sense. I have come across one user who complained that she had received a tough time on mumsnet. I checked on her threads and found out that she had posted an anti day-nursery lecture on the nursery section. What did she expect?

Please don't give up just yet. There's a lot, lot more to mumsnet than the dreaded AIBU, Anti this that and the other threads. Please explore the less popular threads - you won't be disappointed! Most importantly, have fun

InmaculadaConcepcion · 20/02/2012 14:15

Welcome aboard, KMum!

MN is a big ship and it can hold a lot of very different people with a lot of (sometimes very strong) opinions.

I've had a few argies in the two-or-so years I've been on here and one or two comments have made me feel upset. But overwhelmingly, it's been a massive support of useful information, support and fun. I've also made friends in RL with some posters - it's a bit like internet dating

Yes, there are a few in-jokes concerning things like Pom Bears, Greggs sausage rolls, Fruit Shoots, SheWhoMustNotBeNamed (Gina Ford) and other things. You'll pick those up as you go along.

Meantime, check out some of the threads in Mumsnet Classics (in the Mumsnet Stuff section of Talk) - many are hilarious, some are incredibly moving and you will also find a few clues about some of the recurring themes you find in the different threads.

Enjoy!

InmaculadaConcepcion · 20/02/2012 14:17

Ahem...

massive source of useful information.....

Buggerit · 20/02/2012 19:18

What have I missed? What's wrong with pom bears? I get the mcdonalds hating, I mean why eat there when we have got kfc!!

PestoPenguin · 20/02/2012 19:27

If you want to understand the 'in jokes' then go and read through a couple of pages of posts in Mumsnet Classics.

The pom bears were about an awful dinner party. The host's husband broke an icy silence by coming out with a bowl of pombears and asking "Pombear anyone?". In the context of the rest of the thread it was hilarious, but probably doesn't sound it now. Some of the threads are only so funny if you're watching them develop at the time .

MrsDobalina · 20/02/2012 19:35

kallumsmum I thought exactly the same as you when I first joined (it's the fact AIBU was right at the top of the talk list ). I then realised most people didn't really take themselves that seriously even if the thread appears harsh. And I've had some amazing support and wise words in some of my darkest parenting hours. And I properly wept at the kindness of human nature shown on the mumsnet secret Santa.

I still don't know what a Pom bear is though

MrsDobalina · 20/02/2012 19:36

Ooh presto I love you!

gamerwidow · 20/02/2012 19:37

OP don't be put off of staying. Things like Greggs, McDonalds, Fruit Shoots, frozen foods etc. are silly in-jokes and are used in a tongue in cheek way. I would be surprised if anyone ever really judged anyone in real life for using any of these. I certainly am no stranger to any of them.
Pierced ears on babies is one of those issues that polarises opinion and there are always heated debates whenever it pops up but there are supporters of both sides of the issue found here.
I agree it is rude to call people chavs and it is quite often challenged if the term is used.
MN is a big site and you will come across people from all walks of life. AIBU tends to be a bit aggressive but if you keep out of that section you can get some really good advice and support.

TheSinglePringle · 20/02/2012 19:40

It's KM. Was advised to change my name so I did. Prob will need to again after posting this coz not a very private thing now.. just wanted to say thanks to every one.

I've had a look around and seem to like it.

Chaos.. what does titter mean?

I am going to look at the classics and get my self more involved.

Sorry for any spelling or grammar that is incorrect. Been a long day and I'm using my phone. Picked up that these are also important so will apologize in advance.

[Grin]

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