Do you like being at home with the kids BUT HATE THE HOUSEWORK??

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Sorry I want a moan.

I love my kids and I'm glad I'm here at home for them.

ButI'm sick of the washing/ironing/cooking/hoovering/dishes/tidying up etc etc. we live in a tiny house so I need to keep it tidy otherwise I can't move.

How the hell do you manage if you work full time, when does it get done?

My laundry mountain is the bane of my life. I can handle washing/drying it but just seem to stall at the folding and putting away stage. I know it annoys the hell out of DH but I just keep reminding him that there are more interesting things to do in life

I was going to ask people on here to look at my weeks 'routine' and tell me where to fit in cleaning!

I work full time, but as I'm a childminder dh decided all the housework is all my job (because I'm not here to teach or play obviously! and as apparently three under 3s will LET me clean lol!) which generally means I spend my evenings doing it (not atm for other reasons but generally) while dh sits on his bum at the computer doing his dissertation.

Two months till it's due in... he won't believe how much his list of chores expands the day it's handed in....

I know lahdeedah(love the name!)

He never lets it slip when he's had a quiet day,I went into see him the other day and one of the staff was talking about how the afternoons have been really quiet.Well he'll respond with saying he's been doing finance/wages/web stuff in the office so he's always got an answer.

He just doesn't see that playing with a three yr old,and all the other things I do,such as take him swimming as work.He thinks that would be great if he could do that all day.Well I'd sometomes like to go out to work,atleast there's an end to the day...and some money for your effort.

after years of letting the ironing truly depress me I no lolnger do any.I fold when it comes out the drier.If its still warm then great they don't need ironing,ir not tough.DD is 14 and old enough to iron something if she wants.Dh doesn't wear a suit anymore so polo shirts and fleeces don't need ironing.It has helped a lot.Still find the folding and putting away amazingly easy to avoid.

I hate it with a passion it just never ends! but I also get really stressed by mes and feel I don't know where to start it does get on top of me and feel like tis too much.
i live in a small flat with no storage space. so it constantly looks messy, also at the moment i just have splintered floorboards, have bought laminate flooring but i am hopeless with diy and have no-one to help and no money at the mo too get someone to do it. therefore the floor is horrible dd will be crawling soon so will have to try to get some money from somewhere. agghhh so annoying.

It was the laundry for me that was becoming the bain of my life. I work full time so I really needed to get this under control as I found I was coming home tired from work, cokking tidying up and then having to tackle the laundry. I have a cleaner come in once a week (she irons DS's clothes too) and a laundry company come and pick up my and DH's washing once a week. It comes back nicely pressed too. I still do DS's washing as it isn't as much as ours.

This leaves just general tidying tasks day to day. I had to do this to be able to minimise time and energy spent on housework as my time with DS is limited and I want to spend my evenings with him.

I love being home with the kids and hate the housework so do as little as possible - i.e. washing up, laundry, hoovering etc but do get depressed at the state of my house TBH. It is difficult at the stage they are at now because DS2 has just started walking, climbing etc and can get to everything and in DS1's opinion he is also now old enough to fight with! I just wish I cared about the house a wee bit more but am really lazy when it comes to cleeaning.

If only we could all be domestic goddesses like Anthea Turner...sigh

I hate housework especially when 5mins after doing it, it looks a mess again. Most days I hoover 3 times and it still looks messy. We only have a small flat and you only have to have a couple of toys out and it looks like a bomb site. Luckily we have a front and back garden so in the summer we spend most of the time out there and I dont have so much housework to do. But i hate it when you spend all day tidying up and dh walks in and asks if you've been sat on your arse all day

And I absolutely HATE ironing, it is so boring

another lover of housework here

I could quite easily start a thread entitled

"do you love staying at home to do the housework but hate the kids"

joke

I hate it so so much. I am naturally pretty tidy to so find it difficult living with blackcurrant stain on the walls, sticky kitchen floor, etc etc.

We usually just go out tbh. but winter is hard.

Ggirl, make him take a day's leave, then go out and leave him on his own with the kids. Let's see how easy he thinks it is then. Seriously. Or go out all day on a Saturday and leave him a list of all the non-child related stuff that has to be done - housework and household admin.

does anyonhe like housework?!

"You can touch the dust but please don't write in it" is my fridge magnet. I love being at home, in fact would give up my 2 days at work right now if I could, but I hate housework with a passion. I hate the monotony of it all, how it's never finished.

Oh, my dh does around 60% of housework, btw. He recognises that I cannot get much done with 2 kids under 3 in the house. Also, he does kitchen every night in exchange for me being the one to get up with the kids (which is every hr or so atm).

dh wrote 'clean me' on the pc screen in the spare room
in nov!!
it's still there waiting to be cleaned

Nomdeplome - please tell me how you get away with not ironing. I have to iron most things, including vests. Otherwise they resemble crisp packets!

BH - Most of my stuff is jersey type fabric, I dry clothes on hangers in the (thankfully huge) airing cupboard. If i get them straight out of the washing machine as soon as they cycle finishes I find the creases just fall out whilst they are drying. Any small wrinkles in the fabric are usually ironed out by body heat after about 20 mins on (sounds odd, but hopefully YKWIM). Same with DD.

DS1 loves (horrible, imo) nylon-y sportswear which requires no ironing anyway (it'd prob melt)

DS2 wears jeans (which I straighten out and hang upside down) and normal jersey type t-shirts.

I think using fabric conditioner helps too.

Don't have a tumble drier, used to find that laundry came out of our old one all scrunched up and pathetic looking, took ages to iron back to life. Glad to see the back of the bloody thing.

Ndp - surely you must iron jeans though?

I just hate ironing and would love to not have to do it!

yes edam,he's been at home for the day before.Trouble is he adores cooking so he always spends the day preparing the meal /baking with ds.I have a dd who's 14 and doesn't need much so he's only got ds 3yrs to entertain.No he doesn't get anything else done.He's getting ds ready for bed at the moment ....does he deserve a medal???

BH, nope, must be in the way I hang them

I've never really understood the need to change children's clothes when they get stuff on themselves during the day. Sure, when occasionally a nappy leaks (sometimes it's up the back, yuck), or if they have got so wet from water play or drinks that they will actually get cold, but who cares if they have smears of paint/food on themselves? To my mind, clothes are to keep them warm and protected, and the multicoloured additions only add to the effect.

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I don't like housework - in fact I paid domwone to come in and clean the oven today
My SIL works fulltime, has two pre school children and is shocked when I tell her that I don't do housework (by that I mean cleaning!)I do laundry and cooking and stuff but can't really be aresed with the whole hoovering and dusting thing