How long do you think it is reasonable to leave a 2 year old to their own devices in their bedroom when they wake up in the morning?

[ceebeegeebies]

If your DC is wakes up, say, at 6.30, do you think it is reasonable to leave them to play by themselves until at least 9?

Are you serious???

Chance would be a fine thing, my toddler would be dragging the duvet off me and demanding breakfast long before 9...

No- dd bit older but maximum she would be left/ i would leave her is half an hour . Usually less than that as would want a drink/nappy Change or potty. We would be hungry by 8/8.30 so til 9 too long

Do they cry? Are they hungry?

Half an hour is most for us until he gets bored and whines.

No later than 7:30.

Hahahahahahahahahhahaha.

TBH I didn't leave ds on his own while awake for more than a few minutes until he was 3.5 / 4. Two and a half hours would be pushing it now tbh, and he's 7.

That sounds like I had much of a choice.... I didn't! He would shout, scream, come and find me after about 30 seconds.

Thats too long
Are they still in a cot or have a stair Gate on their door?
And if they go to bed at 7pm the nappy needs changing long before 9 am

It depends what they're doing, if they're playing happily and safely and you'd hear them if they got upset, I'd leave them in there till about 8

I think 9 is too long, assuming they go to bed at 7ish I'ld imagine they're quite hungry and thirsty by then.

I leave mine till 7 ish if awake, if he's sleeping I'll leave him till 8ish

I didn't really want to reveal information by stealth but wanted to get a feel for whether my thought that doing this with your 2 year old wasn't quite right.

My sister and her bf do this with their 2 year old and I always feel a bit sorry for her. She is in a bed now (although even when she was in a cot they would ignore her when she woke up) and there was a time when she would come in their bedroom but, again, they literally ignored her until she got the message and left - now I don't think she bothers even going in there in the mornings. Having said that, they do say that she generally goes back to sleep again (probably out of boredom tbh) but it still seems mean to me.

I just think it is too long - we have breakfast at 8 so the thought of her being left until 9 when I assume she must be starving seems a bit

I wish! Since mine have been out of cots I get 6am visitors.

Now they're 5 & 3 they will play for an hour but I drift in and out of sleep. It's still toddler-proofed so I let them get on with it.

Oh that's so sad.

I have a DD of 2.6 and I wouldn't dream of leaving her to play alone for that long. Poor little girl.

I have a friend who was sick, she over slept until early afternoon without realising one day, her dds 4 and 3 and ds 18mnths managed to go downstairs, turn the tv on, feed themselves jam sandwiches and wheetabix, and just generally get on with it.

Maybe it is different as the oldest one was able to open stairgate and feed the rest, and they had each other for company?

However not everyone is hungry before 9, my kids don't eat before then and I have to force them to have breakfast. So I wouldn't assume she was hungry or upset.
Also what time does she go to sleep? If she goes to sleep at 8 or 9 it is not unreasonable to want her to stay asleep for 12 hours imo.

She goes to bed around 7ish. You are right, she may not be hungry but it still seems a little

They also seem to enjoy telling me and DH every time we see them about how long they get to lie in in the mornings knowing that we are usually awake by 6.45

Nailak that story horrifies me too.

I agree it depends what time is bedtime. But my initial instinct is to feel sorry for the little girl.

DD wakes up and plays with her toys but usually after about fifteen minutes starts shouting 'mama' at me so I go in to her. I imagine that if I ignored her shouting she would cry so I don't think I'd get away with ignoring her for 2.5 hours. Don't think I'd want to ignore her for that long either. I quite like my morning cuddles!

ceebeegeebies, that would make me a bit :( Now that we get the bed to ourselves at night I quite like the early morning visitors, we usually get a kiss and a chat from DD(3) and DS(5) is still snuggly. DH and I take turns getting up early at weekends so the other can have a lie-in.

If the 2 year old is content enough to play away and is not crying then I dont see the problem. If she was calling out to be fed, or because her nappy was wet etc and they ignored her it would be a different story.

You sound jealous & judgemental to me. None of your business & im sure she's fine. As long as they're not abusing her, she'll be fine.

Rhinestone that is exactly what me and DH think - whilst we grumble every morning about the 6.45 wake-up, having them in bed with us is lovely although it usually ends up with them climbing all over us/sitting on our heads etc. Whilst DS1 loves a snuggle, DS2 absolutely hates it and just sits there pestering us to either put the telly on or go downstairs so he can have the telly on there

I leave DD (21 months oh my god my baby is nearly 2) until she moans, she has a cot full of toys, and I lie in bed quetly until she lets me know she wants out.

Actually I am not jealous in the slightest as I am usually at the gym by 9am at weekends anyway so couldn't lie in even if we could.

Don't think it is judgemental either - I personally wouldn't leave a child for that long by themselves but I realise everyone is different.

Well I think YABU and maybe not in the real world either, but you should go to them when they wake up

I leave my bedroom door open,so when my DS (2) wakes up i lie in bed listening to him signing/talking to himself. He's so cute,i could cry! He has just gone on to his toddler bed. Each to their own i suppose.