Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Thanks to a woman I will never know for making a decision that changed my life

37 replies

michmumm · 12/12/2011 21:22

today is my DS 2nd birthday - but our first birthday with him. He came into our lives in June when we flew to Russia to collect him from a children's home where he had been left at birth. It took 3.5 years to adopt him but every moment of stress and pain was worth it. Today his birth mother is on my mind. I can only imagine that it must be a sad day for her knowing her DS isn't with her and not knowing where or how he is. She was unable to give him the basics he needed - a home and a family so she made the decision to give him away in the hopes he would have a chance in life. Having only been his mother for 6 months I can't imagine a day without him let alone a lifetime. I wish I could thank her for making such a hard decision - for setting into motion the events that brought him to us. I wish she could know how amazing and funny and loving her little boy is and that he will always know that the reason she gave him up was because she loved him. And I wish she could know that because of her I am a mummy. She will never know how amazing I think she is and she will never know how amazing her son is but I hope by posting this that maybe the happiness we feel at having our DS son in our lives will spread a little and maybe some of it will reach her. Sorry to wax philosophical but I needed to share this feeling with other mums who will understand.

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
oldenglishspangles · 12/12/2011 21:28

thats really lovely.

sunshineandshowers13 · 12/12/2011 21:28

what a beautiful thing to say MM.

Couldn't just read and run.
and i bet she does know somehow Smile

bankholiday · 12/12/2011 21:31

Happy birthday to your DS michmumm, what a lovely post. It has brought tears to my eyes.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

MudAndGlitter · 12/12/2011 21:32

That's lovely. Happy birthday to your DS!

roisin · 12/12/2011 21:37

That's lovely Grin and made me cry.
I gave up a baby boy for adoption 22 years ago, when I was very young. I hope he has had such wonderful parents as you.

budgieshell · 12/12/2011 21:42

I hope you and your wonderful new family have a very merry christmas and continued happiness in the new year.
Thank you for sharing your joy.

CaptainMartinCrieff · 12/12/2011 21:45

What a lovely thing to say. Happy birthday to your DS, you sound like a lovely mother to him.

tiredfeet · 12/12/2011 21:51

What a lovely thing to write, your ds is very lucky and I hope you all enjoy celebrating his birthday

tiredfeet · 12/12/2011 21:51

What a lovely thing to write, your ds is very lucky and I hope you all enjoy celebrating his birthday

minceorotherwise · 12/12/2011 21:54

And he sounds like lucky little boy too, to have found such a lovely mummy

MyBaby1day · 13/12/2011 03:53

Aaaawww such a lovely post. I was touched so much i've messaged you!!. Happy Birthday to your Son!! Smile

Christmascack · 13/12/2011 07:24

beautiful

crapistan · 13/12/2011 08:32

What a lovely thing to write.

I have always thought that giving up a child for adoption is a much harder and braver decision than having a termination.

I worked for 2 years in an orphanage in an ex-Soviet country and I know what an tortuous process international adoption is. So happy for you and your DS!

Marionlam · 13/12/2011 13:50

I know it doesn't take much for us mum to shed a few tears, but this has had me in bits! I think the credit you are giving her and that you obviously intent to share with your little boy is the best way to thank her - well done for not forgetting her sacrifice and enjoy his birthday and many more to come x

farmazon · 13/12/2011 14:05

Beautiful and thoughtful post. Your son is truly blesses to have a mum like you.

InmaculadaConcepcion · 13/12/2011 15:25

What an absolutely lovely thing to post here. Thank you so much for sharing it and a very happy birthday to your DS.

If you haven't already, I suggest you write a version of your post to your DS on the occasion of his birthday. It will be a lovely thing for him to have when he's older Xmas Smile

MoonFaceMamaaaaargh · 13/12/2011 18:17

how moving. Best wishes to you all.cXmas Smile

Timeoutofmind · 13/12/2011 19:03

Aw this brought a tear to my eye. Happy birthday to your ds :-)

PoppadumPreach · 13/12/2011 19:14

Heartwarming post! Happy birthday!

OrwellianNightmare · 13/12/2011 20:19

What a beautiful message. It sent tears streaming down my cheeks. Happy Birthday to your little boy, and congratulations to you. I really believe in the 'share the happiness' sentiment, and am sure it will filter back to your DS's birth mother. Hope you had a wonderful and special day.

Lcy · 13/12/2011 20:28

Happy birthday to your DS. What a lucky boy to have you as his mum.

madmomma · 13/12/2011 22:14

lovely mummy & lovely boy. Best post I've read in ages. x

Mmmcoffee · 13/12/2011 22:36

That is truly lovely. I was adopted as a baby; my birth mother was 14 at the time. Every year on my birthday I think of her; she may not have had a choice (it was the '60's) but thanks to her I have been blessed with a fabulous family who love me to bits.

Your DS is a lucky, lucky lad. And you are a wonderful person.

michmumm · 14/12/2011 00:58

I can't begin to tell you how much all your messages mean to me. It must be one of the ultimate form of validation to receive such kindness and praise from people I have never met. Than you for taking the time to reply and for letting me know my tale made you smile or cry or just feel enough emotion for a stranger that you wrote something. Sometimes I worry I am not a good enough parent yet but after reading your responces I don't feel like I am doing such a bad job. Have a very merry Xmas and thank you for helping spread the happiness.

OP posts:
Creakyhips · 14/12/2011 10:31

Your message has moved me to post on here for the first time in over a year.

I also have tears in my eyes. That really is very special. Thank goodness the world has people like you in it!

You are doing a fantastic job.

Happy Christmas!

Swipe left for the next trending thread