When does it get easier with 2? I cant cope anymore.

[KellyKettle]

I have a DD1 who will be 3 in January and a 6 week old DD2.

I am bf both of them and cosleep. I have been nightweaning DD1 for the last two weeks with some success. She's gone from asking to feed 5-7 times a night (more than newborn) to waking once at about 4am. I still refuse to feed her at 4am but she screams, kicks, hits me.

At the moment DH is working away so I am staying with my parents for help with the evenings. DD2 cries all bloody night. Last night she didn't settle until 2:30am and then DD1 started screaming for milk at 5am.

I just can't do it anymore. When we're here my mum helps with me DD2 at night, taking turns to rock her but I am alone in the day with the DDs and I am going insane.

The alternative is to go home to my house, see friends in the day but deal with the DDs alone in the night/evenings.

I tried to have a nap with DD2 yesterday and put some cartoons on for DD1. She kicked me in the back and tried to hit DD2.

I haven't stopped crying since I got up this morning.

I haven?t read the whole thread (sorry!) but I have 2 boys, 3.8yo and 13 months. It was relatively easy until DS2 was 6 months, he was sleeping a lot at the time and the only food was milk (formula). The trouble started when I started weaning him with solids - I found myself constantly preparing separate meals (3 times per day) for DS1 and DS2. Then DS2 started to discover the world, put everything into his mouth, and in addition his nightsleep became a disaster with over 10 wake ups per night.

Since DS2 is 12 months, I prepare the same meals for them, which is already much better. Also for the last week his slept through most of the nights and I am feeling like I was born again! No problem seems too big when you get enough rest. So I would say focus on your rest and sleep as much as possible. I still get my both DC to have a nap on weekends 2pm-3:30pm and use my chance to nap as well. Having some rest is the key.