I need help please

[TheOriginalFAB]

I have also posted in mental health as I have MH issues.

Two of my children are out of control and I need help. Where do I go to ask for it please as I am that close to walking away tbh.

Glad you had a good end to the problem time Fab!

I saw someone recommending a punchbag for a 13yo boy on another thread yesterday and thought that I might have to think of getting one soon for my 6yo . On occasions I get screamed at 'I HATE YOU' by ds. Normally within 5 mins he's curled up on my lap sobbing when we've worked out what's wrong - however, I'm sure that will change as he gets older. I would love to be one of those perfect parents that always says the right thing and never raises their voice. However I appear to be able to turn from that parent into a harridan in the bat of an eyelid as ds knows exactly which buttons to press and sometimes will do it deliberately. I try not to do it, but it does happen sometimes so don't feel that you're alone in sometimes losing it when provoked.

It must be working as at this moment in time DS1 and DD have only lost 10 minutes! Yesterday they were up to 50 by bed time!

I bought DS1 a punchbag about 3 years ago but he never took to it and didn't use it when upset or angry.

DD annoyed me today as we got to school and she had left her school bag at home so I had to go and get it. I have also picked up DS1's school trousers and put a note on his laptop to say if they are not put in the basket then I will not be able to wash them and will not pick them up again. He is 10. The 6 year old manages to put his washing in the basket so the ten year old certainly should be able too!

mistlethrush - sounds like you are doing fine!!

Thanks Fab - I try my best, but can be pushed over the edge.

washing - agreed. Ds is getting there. Slowly, but going in the right direction at least.

Ds loves doing karate at the moment which allows him to get some good kicking and punching in twice a week (although he's doing a non-contact form so they don't throw each other around violently, just learn the moves to use so that they can - and punch and kick pads).