Hair Dye and school

[herballady]

My 13 year old daughter dyed her hair from dark blond to read in the last week of the holidays it looks great but when she went into School on Friday she was told she has to dye it brown by Monday or she will be sent home. She was also told along with another girl with read hair that she was ?a waste of time?

I can?t understand why they are doing this surely it?s a personal decision what colour your hair is and as she is young it should be between me, her father and her. I made sure she thought long and hard before she decided to go-ahead and it dose look lovely.
I would like to add that she has a perfect record when it comes to behaviour all her teachers say she is a pleasure to have in there class. She has recently been on the receiving end of some pretty nasty bullying which knocked her confidence a great deal so this is the last thing she needs.
I grow up with a mother that was very strict and as a result when I was older I went completely off the rails. I want to give my own children the space to express themselves that I never had and that?s what she is doing. Is this wrong?
Also none of the girls with very bleached blond hair where pulled aside and told to change it why was that?

I would be grateful for any advice as to how to handle this with her school.

She wasn?t given anything to sign and if she was I would of read it and refused to let her sign it.

YOU would have refused to let her sign it - thought this was about HER brattish desire to express herself - not your desire for your child to flout the rules. Good example your setting there.....

Sorry - 'you're'

It works both ways though - as a teacher I am careful about how I dress and would not dye my hair an unnatural colour, my school has guidelines for teachers' dress code. I think a natural red is fine, most schools would not allow scarlet or otherwise obviously dyed hair.

If you accept a place at a school, you are accepting their rules. You don't have to like them, or to think they are sensible, but you need to recognise that the school have the right to decide on a set of rules and enforce them.

By all means try to get the rule changed, or look at other schools, or even consider home education if you honestly believe that your child's right to self-expression should never be stifled by anyone else's rules.

You don't think there should be "one rule for children and another for adults", but the reality is that if an adult is in a job where they cannot dye their hair an unnatural colour, then they can "assert their rights" by leaving the job, but they can't get the rules removed or ignored just because it's what they want. Equally your daughter can assert her rights to have hair any colour of the rainbow (or you can on her behalf), but that doesn't mean she has the right to dictate to the school what their rules must be.