Havibg you ever really RELISHED telling someone how BRIGHT and BRILLIANT your offspring is

[Eaney]

I have!!! When I went back to work after having DS some people actually said to me that my DS would be disadvantaged or others more subtly said that so and so's child was terribly disadvanaged cos their parents both worked.

Well DS was slow to crawl and walk and there they had there ammunition and I would get pointed questions about his walking/crawling. Somehow they missed the fact that he said his first words at about 8mths old.

I knew he was bright and knew I just had to wait patiently and eventually his light would shine. I now love telling certain people about his prowess. God I am sad I know but I do get satisfaction.

ANyine else have a story?

These are areas of extreme deprivation (can't remember the figures but it was something hideous like bottom 5 in Europe- and these are children who aren't really G and T- they've just got a chance of doing something if someone puts in some effort- you could think of then as socially having SN) - and I suppose it is rescuing a group iyswim. It comes from a separate pot than SN provision. I guess what I mean is I think it is worthwhile to do that- and better to focus efforts there financially then do it across the board for all G and T.

I agree that as far as the need for funding in general it needs to be given to children with SN as so many are not receiving the help and support they need. And within a school there will always be children with SN who are suffering far more from lack of provision than the children with G and T are being affected. Satementing for G and T is daft really and not necessary.

I suspect statementing a child with G and T would actually cost more than it would to provide them with something stretching. Isn;t it a couple of grand to statement a child? Money that could be better spent in provision to meet needs rather than actual assessment.

Right, I did misunderstand then. I thought 'deprived' meant 'working class', and to me all NT children seem G+T IYKWIM. I had visions of DS's school throwing cash at early readers while I'm fighting for them to use symbol cards so DS can access anything at all.

I think its more an extension of sure start and to tackle social issues rather than academic.

Know what you mean about all nt kids seeming g and t!

I'm absurdly proud of both my ds's, but try to wait until someone else points out something they've done that's wonderful/amazing before I agree wildly and tell them 3 more wonderful/amazing examples... Sod it - they're my kids and they're fantastic! But in their own ways, which are entirely different from each other, and sometimes not what you'd immediately think is wonderful/amazing.

Weird thing is, even though I tell them all the time how clever and gorgeous they are, ds2 refuses to believe it about himself - will tell me ds1 is clever, but that he isn't - and I couldn't tell him more or be more positive with him. Makes me a bit sad.