full time mums cant cope with their children?

[annbenoli]

Now I know this is a tricky one but after a uni reunion where we were all discussing our situations it became very apparent that tyhose who are working full time really find it hard to cope with more than one child. I dont mean the organisation etc we all find that hard i mean they dont seem to be able to look after more than one chiold without another adult there and even on days off weekends etc rely on grandparents etc. Is it just that if you work full time you dont go through the coping zone and never learn to do it?

Poor OP hasn't managed to start much of a bitchfest has she?

I'm a SAHM and when we went on holiday two weeks ago ds3 spent two hours a day in the creche! Do I win anything?!

I'm working full time hours this week and did so last week. I'm having a whale of a time. DH is not coping and close to a nervous breakdown

I multi task at work. Most people do. Your op makes no sense at all. Are you male, per chance?

I'm a full time SAHM and I can't cope with my kids.

Perhaps I should get a job - sounds like I'd be perfect.

It's not just that it isn't well thought out, it just seems strange. For a start, I guess parents who work f/t see gps at the weekend because, well, they are at work through the week. Also, the time when I felt most in need of outside support was when I was a sahm.

Oh oh, I'm a part time worker and therefore far superior to scummy full-timers.

Thank God random internet sprite is here to validate me.

You went to a reunion and talked about childcare.

Sounds thrilling.

waves back to fox. all is good thanks. my eldest is firmly in double figures now - secondary school in september . all good up north. we're not returning - sold the house down your way and bought one up here about 2 months ago. I do sometimes have a wibble. work-based sometimes. shopping based when I'm feeling shallow. but, on balance, it's the right decision. how are things with you? (can't believe we never got round to meeting up...!)

I'm just wondering how the f/t working parents managed to get away for a Uni reunion

Back to the issue though, if you work f/t you only have w/e to get everything else done and it can be frustrating trying to juggle all that and spend time with the children. Maybe?

Dunno. Right now (school hols) there seems to be a lot of SAHM not coping with having their children at home.

That's me at the moment, bonkers! I'm 8mths pregnant and on mat leave but not going back, with a 7yr old, 5yr old and 3yr old at home all driving me nuts!

I'm guessing this wasn't a reunion on say maths graduates then? i.e. ones that know there are 168hrs in the week and if you are working F/T then you might just have to squeeze some jobs into the weekends leaving less time to be with kids.

excellent, still running i see

pawsnclaws i've just picked DD up from a playscheme, and guess what? i'm a SAHM too! just because it's MY choice to stay at home, i won't force that onto her

Let me pass you a brush for that sweeping generalisation...

• how's it all going?

anniemac - if it's any consolation, DS goes to bed relatively late as well but that's because he always has and it suits me perfectly as he doesn't then wake up until later in the morning (usually after 8am) and since I am a layabout SAHM, that works really well for us. I have him on my own most of the time, he's 3.8 but isn't in day care or preschool or anything like that - sometimes I would like some time away but not much and not often - he's pretty easy, thank goodness! We will have to start changing his sleep pattern whenever he does have to go to preschool or school so that we're not late every single day; but there's a while to go yet. :)

no no thumbwitch, it was you . I just haven't been around much over the last couple of years so you were probably there, and I wasn't.

ooh hat, so you've severed your softie southern ties! Yes, I walk through Bushy Park often and your name pops into my head.

yes, one of mine off to secondary school too in September. I seem to remember they were a similar age.

If it's any consolation, SW trains seem to have become far worse since you left. Don't ask me why. But some of the delays have been truly horrendous and far more regular than they used to be (sadly, there was a spate of suicides at wimbledon in rush hour - at one stage, it was happening weekly). Just breathe that lovely country air in

Hi thumbwitch :) well, it is still going. Had to boycott MN for a while as the threads were either making me feel devastated or murderous, but the HE/blogging threads sucked me back in. Did I see you mention you had a blog?

I did have one but it may have been consigned to the great yellow filing cabinet in the ether - the blogging team are looking for it but it may have gone . I started a new site ready to transfer the content if they find it but may not bother if it's lost forever.

I know what you mean about MN - I have a few sanctuary threads where I hang out still, just for laughs, that keep me hooked in. Other than that, sometimes I'm tempted to just Hide everything! But hang on, I'm forgetting - I'm a bone idle SAHM who sits around all day on the laptop doing nothing else - what would I do without MN? I might actually have to interact with my DS!

Hat has moved up North?
Where have I been?

OP, you are talking crap. Youknow that now, right?

been here 2.5 years. doesn;t stop me commenting on threads about London, still visit, still have friends there, like to keep my toe in