what time does your 6 yrs old goes to bed at WEEKENDS

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as SD lives with her mum and she comes to ours every fortnite. she upstairs in bed by 9pm on fri and sat and sits up till 10pm - ive told Dp thats too late but he said thats what time she goes to bed at home! (i believe she stays up till 10pm)

i remember when i was 13 and i was in bed at 9pm!!

I may be old fashioned, or completely and totally in the wrong, but I don't care when it is or where they are (except on holiday when it is 9pm) but my two who are 4 and 7 go to bed at 7pm.

My 6yo goes to bed at 6pm, lights off at 7pm - weekdays and weekends.

Ds1 is 5.5yrs old and is allowed to stay up until 9pm at the weekends but generally doesn't need much sleep. Even as a newborn he needed very little sleep.
I think it would depend on the child's individual needs tbh. If she's overtired, grumpy etc the next day then 9pm or 10pm is obviously much too late. In any case I would say "Your house. Your rules." It shouldn't matter what her mother allows. It's what you feel is right that is the important issue.

well since from last nite, SD went to bed at 8pm and lights out at 9pm which she is more happier today as she is usually is tearful by 7pm

i remember when i was 13, whether it was summer term or weekends, i was in bed at the same time every nite

BUT shes not my Daughter though! as dp is going by the times that his DD goes to bed at home

If you are looking after your sd, then I personally don't see any problem with her going to bed an hour earlier, after all, if she went to bed late it would be you who would have to put up with a tearful 13yr old all day.

My dd isn't quite 6 yet but she goes to bed at about 8 at the weekends and I aim for 7:30 during the week, but it is sometimes 8.

7pm at that age regardless of weekend.

i remember from age 2 till she was 5 - she was in bed by 8.30pm but was sooo tearful the next day..
so it was still too late anyway and i know on the telly, there are adults stuff around about 8pm and ive told DP, she is too young to be watching that.

Mine are 5 1/2 and 8 1/2 and nearly 8 months. All are in bed by 7 pm weekdays and weekends. The eldest is allowed to read or play quietly in bed until 8 pm and the middle one til 7.30 pm. I am a person who needs my 'me' time so I have a no children downstairs rule after 7 pm. Call me selfish but I need my evenings with no kids! I have done this right from the start so they know no different. But I know people with 6 year olds who are still up at 9 pm.

dd1 is 7.5yrs and we generally let her go to bed at 9pm, but usually she is tired and as such will go and watch a dvd in her room until she falls a sleep which is never later than 9.30 anyway.

8:30-9pm on weekends. 7:45-8:30 weekdays.
MIL was actually losing sleep over this recently about this being "too late". It was the night before the clocks went back, and the kids were up at 6pm (new time) the next morning. So according to MIL I should have put them to bed at 7pm & had them up at 4am the next day. Wouldn't be so bad if MIL was the one offering to be up with them...

Moral of the story: children are individuals, maybe 9pm is ok for your SD, but it wouldn't be for another child; depends what she's like the next day.

Week-night bedtimes are 7ish for lights out at 8ish - no later. Week-ends can be later, depending on what we're doing. Both of mine will sleep on in the morning if they've been up a bit later the night before. Now they are 8 and 6, we're really enjoying having family evenings at the weekends.

I would say how much sleep she needs depends on the individual child altho+ugh+ I agree that after 8pm (The Bill, some Eastenders episodes etc can be unsuitable imo for a 6 year old).

My ds2 is 9 and has a strict 8pm bedtime ex+cept on football training nights when it is nearly 9pm by the time he gets to bed. But, he is a child who has always needed a good 12 hours sleep to be on form the next day. What's your sdd like?

she is quite grumpy by midday and needs a lie down for a nap

My almost 9 year old is in bed at some time between 7.30 and 8.00 and lights out at 8.00. Same time all the time, unless we are on holiday camping, in which case it is more like 10.00

If she's grumpy and needs a nap by midday, and she's tearful by 7pm, I'd say she isn't getting enough sleep at night and needs to be in bed earlier.

Ah... if she's lying down for a nap in the day then she's not getting enough sleep at night. In the Mediterranean culture this would be normal, but it's probably a pain in England. What does she do on schooldays?

well me and DP have decided that SD is to go to bed at 8pm and lights out at 8.30pm from now on as before when she was in bed, i be on my way up to bed early (say after 10pm) and she is still WIDE awake! - eek!!

zebra - not sure what you mean "what does she does on schooldays"??

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My son will be 6 in march.In the week he's in bed 7:30-lights outs 7:45(though he's usually well away after full days at school,as soon as his head hits th pillow.
At weekends,he can either go to bed as normal 7:30,and have light on for 15 mins longer(so its on until 8) or he can go to bed at 8 but with lights straight out.
It sounds mean as it isn't much variation from the week,but as he gets up 7-7:15am regardless of what time he goes to bed I feel he needs a decent nights sleep.Plus I find if I let him stay up too much longer at weekends,I have a huge fight on sunday nights to get him ack to normal time.
He thinks he has a good deal though,as he gets the choice between the two choices,and his sisters(19mths and 31/2) go to bed at normal time no matter what.So he feels like a big kid ho gets the choice(we have only been doing this since sept) He is usually knackered by 7:30 anyway and chooses to go to bed then