any other mums completely exhausted and what is the remedy?

[mommie]

i have felt pretty much under the weather physically since dd was born. just when i think i can see the wood for the trees, i come down with something else. is this common? she is 14 months old and my doc is good but getting to the surgery is a real hassle, so it's just out with the nurofen again...

Mug I am on a mixture of remdies and he didn't tell me what all of them were. But one of them is silica whicj i think helps with the sniffing and also the tiredeness and irritabilty that I get as well.

Another patient I know has been given |Gelsemium for her runny nose and sneezing.

Antidote to moondog's link here.

See low thyroid was mentioned, hypothyroid also has similar effect as it causes burnout,had 1st hand experience of it. Only general cure for all of us is more sleep and less housework.

sorry, meant hyper thyroid ...am just sooo tired

Went to Doc cos I was feeling so bad in DS's forst year. AHe took blood tests to rule out the usual and then told me that it was probably due to lack of sleep. Well I never.

Anyway get yourself a good multivitamin (I think Solgar are meant to be the best) try and catch sleep whenever you can. Sometimes the more you do the more you can do ifykwim. I usually feel better if I exercise as opposed to staying at home all day. It's like s if the tiredness takes hold if I slow down.

Could you be a bit depressed? Trouble is when you are always tired you will get depressed.

My remedy for a better nights sleep would be

1 persaude our young neighbours to come home more quietly at night
2 persaude our family of mice in the loft to either live somewhere else or die expensive £25 mouse traps
3 teach both myself and husband to sleep without snoring

and

4 persaude ds aged 4 not to wake up at 5.45am each morning................

Sorry that isnt helpful - am feeling very cynical today

try and persuade someone to looka after children and go for a drive - pref someone else driving you so you can just relax in the passenger seat and watch everything fly by.
I have 2 boys and have a little over 2wks untill my 3rd baby is here.. youngest 15months old.so i am extreamly tired and i would just go and sit in a parked car just to get out of the house with no children- sounds nasty but im in most of the days and dp works alot.so after a while kinda hate being in the house,and kids start to get under your feet when all they want is mummy!

Thank god someone else knows what it is like to be exhausted all the time. Starting to feel a bit isolated here.

I can't offer any advice, but I can offer heartfelt commiserations. To all those who aren't feeling like this: The words "You should try to get more sleep" are like saying "You should really eat something" to a starving person. We know! We know!

In danger of sounding like Tom Cruise I reckon multi vits with iron help me - I often forget to take them but when I am on a mission taking them I really notice the difference - better skin, less tired etc

i eat a good diet but I think that new mums need even more than usual, especially when fighting off germs etc

better go and take one now myself!

Got to share this one! Was exhausted with C2. C2 terrible sleeper and on the go all day plus had C1. DH worked extremely long hours and no family nearby to help. Became extremely exhausted and ill. Made appt to see GP to see if she could give me anything to boost my energy levels. While sobbiing (me! not the GP) she looked at me and said "What you need is to have a nice long holiday with no children". HA HA HA

Great advice from the GP, did she offer to look after the offspring and pay for the break?
I'm and advocate for Floradix...completely herbal iron and vitamin liquid stuff, if you're knackered cos your iron's low it's fanbloody tastic, doesn't make your poo black/ constipate you, gets absorbed really easily. I should take my own advice, got a dose of the flu and keeping the worst of it at bay with "cold and flu " tablets and keeping everything crossed that Dd doesn't get it.
I was really anaemic after giving birth both times, and the Floridix really seemed to help. If you can't remember the name, think " Florid Dicks". Pretty much any hippie health shop should have some. God, to feel well rested again...I know it will happen one day.

I can heartily recommened a short nap in the afternoon (even 20 minutes will do it)

I do this whenever I can (if my youngest can also be persaded to have a nap)

I have gotton very good at ignoring the ironing, the rubbish, the breakfast things (including half a pint of no-longer-fresh milk) still on the table at 11am, the festering cat bowl and the stairs draped with tooth brushes, discarded pj's and dead knickers

Even with just 20 minutes sleep, I manage to go off deeply enough to dribble on the pillow!!!!, but always set the alarm clock, incase I don't wake up in time for the school run!

Hmmmmm,yes re your link Pruni.
Letter in the Telegraph today on the same lines.

I've never got into homeopathy (apart from taking Arnica on m/w's advice to help severe with post partum bruising.)

Just trying to be helpful.

Mommie, you could try taking a vitamin b complex pill, one of the big ones and a decent make (Solgar, Biocare, etc). You can get them in decent independant chemists or health food shops (not H&B if you can avoid it). They will be a bit expensive, but they are great for recuperative things, like getting over a terrible bout of flu or endless looking after children...). And I am also pro Floradix. Plus healthy eating and napping if and when possible. Plus if you could go see a homeopath, I'm sure it would be worth it... good luck (and please publish your success so we can all benefit from whatever programme you put yourself on !)

Are you breast feeding? I weaned dd at 14 months and the difference I felt was amazing, I hadn't realised how much it took out of me.

Needless to say I'm still tired pretty much all the time... but nowhere near as rundown as i used to be!

really bourneville? I have been wondering for a year if that would make a difference. DS is one on Saturday so maybe I should try that! Dunno though, he only gets bf in the morning now and it means I get to stay in bed longer feeding him and having a nice cuddle/semi-lie-in.

So are H&B tablets and other cheapies useless then? What's the difference?

B/feeding hmmmm...
Fed one of mine for 30 mths,the other for 11 (hischoice) and must say,the combined cuddle/feed in the morning gave me a much needed extra few minutes lying down.

I don't think they are useless Angela2005, I just think that you get what you pay for in terms of quality and strength. For instance, if you have a look at the potency of some of the H&B cheapy vit C for instance, there is almost nothing in it. Also, I don't know much about vits (honest ), but the reputable more expensive brands haven't got any hidden nasties in the make up, or FEWER anyway. Good for vegans etc as well (if that applies?). Mommie, thought again about feeling exhausted (!), and when I was pg, I didn't sleep and was so chronically tired I could hardly function. Found that taking a Bach's Flower Remedy for chronic sleep deprivation (I think it was oak) did actually help.... might be worth a try....

moondog yes I did really miss the lie downs/naps in the afternoons after I weaned dd. (She never did go down alone during the day). A couple of weeks after weaning I was feeling really miserable and suddenly realised one day all I wanted to do was curl up in bed with dd and go to sleep. I think it was hormones. I was pretty . But, as I said, my energy picked up enormously after I got over that.

Yes, permanently exhausted. My solution is to stop working freelance in every 'spare' moment of my day. Not an option though.

(Well, it is but I don't want to live in a small house and have no clothes or holidays )

Yes, I am completely exhausted too. I get 7 hours of sleep, am a SAHM, I take a good quality daily vit + fish oil, I rarely get colds but I am nonetheless dead tired by late afternoon everyday. I feel guilty complaining. I put it down to my advanced age (43). I go to bed as early as possible every night. Sad, really.

What I hate is that you can never be lazy, like have a lazy day I mean, without feeling guilty about neglecting your kids.
Sunday I was v hungover and trying to doze on the sofa while dd watched dvds, but even though she was being so good, I was just very irritated being interrupted every 10 mins even for the simplest of requests or even just a comment from her.

Other people have no idea how important a free weekend used to be!! I used to rely on my lie ins...

Every night I intend to go to bed early. Every night I'm not in bed before midnight. Always v with myself.

bourneville - ditto. It's because the evening is the only time that is yours and so if you just go to bed afte kids in bed, washed up, made packed lunches, sorted out uniform, done a bit of work - you've just had no break at all.

I do it EVERY night - stay up and watch crap and eat chocolate because I want to feel I've had a break!