This morning dd2 asked me for the stapler, we had a quick look and eventually found it under a plie of crap in the cupboard, and it was all broken.
I asked Dd1 if she knew anything about it and she said no. I asked her again and she said well yeah it just fell apart. After I asked her a 3rd time she admitted she had taken it all apart. It was unfixable because she's pulled the spring out and lost it. I told her I was really annoyed, not that it was broken but that she'd lied again ( recently had a big lying problem with her).
I told her she would have to pay for a new one out of her birthday money (not realising that she doesn't know you can get one for £1).
She stormed off upstairs screaming and shouting. When it was time to go to school, I called her down and she refused to move , saying she wasn't going to school. I told her she was and again asked her to go and get her coat on. She continued to scream and shout and tell me she hated me, so I told her if she carried on I would remove her tv.
Anyway, I eventually had to drag her downstairs and she then ran straight for dd2 and said she was going to beat her up and stamp on her . She didn't get to her cos the boy I was taking to school with us, grabbed her and my neighbour had dd2.
I eventually got her to walk to school without screaming and shouting, but all the while she kept saying she was moving out and going to live with my mom. I made matters worse by saying I didn't care.
She then kept saying that I said I didn't like her which is certainly not true at all, I never said any such thing.
When we got to school she was still crying saying she didn't want me to take her tv. I felt I had to stick to what I said so said that it was still being removed but I hadn't decided how long for.
When the bell rang and I gave her a kiss she disolved ijnto tears again, and so I gave her a hug, told her I loved her and said we'd discuss it later. She went in still crying.
I then had to walk up to the office and 2 parents accosted me asking what was wrong with her cos she was still crying. I gave a very brief explanation and they looked at me like I was the worst mother ever.
I went and looked through dd1's classroom window and she was sitting with her friends but still crying. I went round to go in and ask if I could speak to her but the doors were locked by then, so I went back to the window, waved and blew her a kiss. She just looked and then got up to do something.
I feel awful now. I am annoyed with her for lying, but I had no intention of her getting so upset, but she blew it all up out of proportion by refusing to come out of her room. I realise I should have explained about paying for a new stapler as she probably thought it would cost all of the money she has.
Feel really bad now that she is sitting at school all upset
How do I make it up to her and do I still remove the tv ??