I'm being overly precious mother aren't I?

[GeorginaA]

ARGH!

Ds1 has just gone to school in uniform ... on a non-uniform day. Why? Because there was a printing error and we only got half a newsletter. He's gutted and I feel really shit.

Worse, last night he came out with something that implies (not sure yet, but I'm keeping an eye on it) that he's getting nasty teasing from a group of three children (one of whom used to be a very close friend from nursery before going to school) so he's feeling pretty insecure anyway. All I can see in my mind's eye is these three taking the mickey out of him all day for being in his uniform

It's okay - dh took him to school and realised, so he did the full brusque "it's fine, you'll be fine, don't be silly" routine, so ds1 won't have picked up on how upset I'm feeling.

I'm being daft aren't I?

ARGH - hate school - like all the learning fun stuff, but hate all the political crap and the myriad of mountainous molehills...

Only 12 more years to go...

Nope, I'd probably be feeling crap too (especially as at te start of term the parents got a lecture on how we would be letting our children down if they went into school minus book/PE kit/whatever). But its not your fault - you didn't get the letter.

Sorry to hear that ds is feling picked on though - hope that this is just a one day event.

I don't think you're being daft. I was picked on in school and if your ds is, then wearing school uniform today will do nothing to help that. Not what you want to hear, but as people say, kids CAN be cruel

Well I phoned the school and asked (after dh had come back) and apparently ds1 was playing happily now (I know his teacher did a big thing about "look, I'm not in my silly outfit either") so they said not to.

So I shall just feel like a completely crap mother all day instead.

He's looking forward to his grandparents coming this afternoon - he's expecting them to meet him at school. They're going to be late now - I just know it, just to make it a really bad day.

Is there ever a point when any slight rejection of your treasured offspring DOESN'T send a knife through your heart?!

I was picked on in school too - which is why I worry that I'm being slightly oversensitive

Oh G

xxxx

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I'm sure he'll be ok. It sounds like he's only about 4 or 5 so can't imagine he will get picked on that badly. That seemed to start in big school if i remember rightly. I didn't mean to make you feel worse. Sorry

Yeah he's only 4.

I'm overreacting.

Got coffee and a danish waiting for me. Will pull myself together.

Thank god for mumsnet so I can vent safely!

"Is there ever a point when any slight rejection of your treasured offspring DOESN'T send a knife through your heart?! "

Nope! you're a normal mum with normal feelings. Most other kids are acceptable UNTIL they spurn your children then they are little shits! all of them!

Has he got some new friends now?

Why not turn his g/parents situation into a good thing by pretending you asked them to come late so you and he can arrange a surprise tea party for them with cakes and other crap - then he can be "in" on the surprise.

Yeah, he's got a couple of good new friends there now - one of which lives really close (and always knocks on our door on the way to school, bless him!). I think he'll be fine if his nutter of a mother would just let him get on with it wan smile.

why not go out and get pissed then Georgina? Then none of it will matter any more

Yes, overly precious and cr*p to boot

Dare I say, get used to it? You've got a lonnnnnnng way to go til he's off your hands!

Thanks Soupy, you old bat

Did someone mention a bat?

Hey georgina, sorry about the picking on your ds - that is really hard to deal with as a mother. Just wanted you to know, I forgot non-uniform day too so my three children have all gone to school in uniform and will stick out all day. I have a feeling I will get it something rotten when they come home. Sigh!

I forgot once too

My dd has never let me forget again But today is NOT non uniform day, next Friday is 'BLUE' day to finish a week of anti-bullying work.

poor you Georgina! Get him something delicious for when he comes out of school - it will probably make you and him feel much better!

I don't think it gets any easier through school - I nearly found myself crying at dd's birthday assembly at school and had to pinch myself really hard to try and pull myself together. Those damn hormones never go away!

I've phoned his grandparents (my inlaws) and they're leaving an hour early to guarantee that they're there for picking up time - aren't they lovely Ds1 is going to be so excited!

Then dh and I are buggering off for the weekend leaving the grandparents to the mercy of my sons ... bwahahahahaha!

Sad mother that I am I had spare clothes in car today (boys ) in case anyone forgot in Ds class that it was muffti day .

Oh god, the weeping - when DD1 was in nursery at Christmas, NINETEEN YEARS AGO , they took turns on different days at the different parts in the nativity play so we went to watch with no idea what she would be, and she came through the doors in Mary's blue robe and I sobbed audibly, oh the shame

And then tonight the same DD1 is working in a local pub in a St Trinian's outfit for CiN, and DS2 had to pop down there with his school blazer for her to borrow (he is 12, she is 23!) and a drunken friend of hers, who fancies her, made some jocular comment about him being just as ugly as his sister - only she wasn't listening and DS2 came home devastated that this total stranger thought he was ugly

All sorted now but when I saw his crestfallen little face I wanted to sob again!

Awww... to both those stories, janh. Tell ds2 that a total stranger from London thinks he's gorgeous. (I just have a feeling he's superhandsome.)