Have you ever drastically altered your parenting techniques as a direct result from something you've read here???

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Just occured to me on the smacking thread as we're all "fighting" our own little corner, with 0% chance of anyone shifting as to whether you've ever read something on here and as a result of that have changed the way you've done things as a parent??

I don't mean where you'd been wondering how you could do things differently, and someone on here helped. But rather you're quite set in your ways, with no intention of changing, then you read a thread and as the debate continues you've changed your mind???

tes u have.
i reaslised i should never go out and leave me baby in the hosue

i meant yes i have

you have realised that i am a fantastic parent and you should do everything i do!

Yes - i did it the other day!

im never too big to admit that there might be a better way than mine

Lockets and SL are executing mass takeover of MN tonight

OP MSL

i eed to go to bed. even though linus is up still

sooooooooon my pretties... sooooon!

no because you're all such whippersnappers

Yes, I often think about things way in advance, and do listen to other people's advice. Not wanting to start another debate, but we were not convinced that private school would be the route that we'd take as we were not sure we'd 'fit in' as it were. However, listening to the debate made me realise that private schools are full of ordinary kids and I think it is something we will pursue when older... (she's only 2 at the mo!!) But my mind had not yet been made up... If my decision had been made, then not a hope in hell!!!

it very often makes me think about things in a different way or examine my reasons
like today on the smacking debate, I have been thinking long and hard about what discipline actually means
and yes I am very very interested in other people's pov, esp if it is a mnetter whose opinion I value

yes - I truly did not have a clue what was going on in DS's head (he's 14mo) until someone recommended 'The Social Toddler'. I'm much more tuned in to why DS sometimes whinges, needs carried etc etc etc. It's been a Godsend, as was being pressured into just dumping him onthe floor and letting him scream.

I've tried things I've heard other on here. Some worked and some not. However about 3 years ago, for work I attended a behaviour management course and this drastically changed my whole view of parenting and the parent child relationship. It also changed what my expectations were and how to achieving my expectations. Further this year we moved to Italy. Parenting here is very different to the UK norms and I have again HAD to adapt and develop new expectations, management skills and change my view of how the parent child relationship works.

I things that perhaps you can't be too fixed on things and be sure of your priorities and ensure they are achieved. All esle is alterable.

i don't think i have actually changed anything massively, but i have certainly seen stuff that has made me alter my techniques in discipline especially
i think that one of the best things i have learned here was to pick my battles with my toddler, and to stick to my guns..

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Yes, in particular my view of children playing at fighting and using pretend weapons. I was totally against any use of pretend guns, etc until a discussion on MN and a recommendation of a book called We Don't Play with Guns Here. Explained to me why children, especially boys, want to play such games and how they should be allowed to in a healthy way. Very much changed my views.

That'll be an interesting thread. Do you know where I can find it?

I ask because in my experience. Boys, in particular seem instictively built to want to play war and guns. To the point where they make guns out of things that don;t even romotely resemble a gun, you've got to admire their creativity!!!

I personally don't like them but have come to a point where my attitude is Okay I know you want to play this but not with me or around me.

Yes, I have. When dd was small I used to have the TV on constantly in the background, reasoning that as it was always tuned to CNN or News 24 it wasn't harmful. Aloha directed me to some research that showed that it's wallpaper TV, whether that be worthy documentaries or constant crappy adverts, that actually impeeds speech development. Since then my children have still been dumped in front of the TV sometimes, but it's only when they are actively watching.

And it's not a parenting thing, but I have found Mumsnet helps to drag me back to my bleeding heart liberal roots when being a home-owning, tax paying parent has moved me further into Toryland than I like.

MaryPOp1, that thread is here . It was an interesting one. I can recommend the book too. I found it on amazon.co.uk.

I would say I have subtely reviewed some of my parenting techniques and have a greater awareness of others and a better understanding of people who do things differently.

I agree what an interesting thread. I am now wondering the effect on my children of living somewhere where most mornings this time of year we are woken up to hunter shotting something or other.

We don't have toys guns but do have

Toy swords

Real swords (I fence and had lefty parents; hmm that works with the theory)

Have air pistols (DH mother wouldn't let him play with guns either Hmmmmmm).

What will my children turn out like?????