Owners of 12 year old boys ( y8)

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do you recognise these symptoms?

1. increased number of school sanctions
2. utter inability to organise self beyond basics ( or rather erratic - sometimes is quite good)
3. thoughtlessness " do shcool let you use pencil? have they ever?" him " no" me " well why the hell are you using it now")
4. the inability to remember lesosns learned , WHY WOULD YOU THEN use pencil again?

aargh he is driving me MENTAL
jsut read rs homework and its utter gibberish - like a foreign language student.
did you check this? etce tc

have we had the reading through chat? yes

have sacntioned. have head tilted. have withdrawn stuff.
is is me?

me "put a reminder on your phone to pick up xyz at lunchtime

dont use up all the battery"

what does he do?
you got it

just got his pencil case
he has 7 pencils

and one pen

are there none around?

slumps on desk

I havea theory that all boys are mind melded with aliens at the age of 11 and it is the alien who is doing all th weird stuff. Hence them being unable to speak properly, remember anything, pay attention for more than a millisecond etc.

I am just not sure when the aliens feck off.

Am hearing you!!!DS1 "Can you help with this homework?"Me "Yeah what have you to do?"...DS1..."I'm not sure...,we learnt about this in school today...but cant remember!!"gggrrrrr
And is FOREVER borrowing pencils,pens,sharpeners,prit-stick etc from his 7yr old...much more organised sister!!

Are you doing so much thinking for him that he doesn't feel the need? Maybe he needs to feel the repercussions from school if you don't chase him up?

I am not looking forward to this.

Sounds like mine. Fun isn't it?

Unfortunately I don't think you can make them be organised and think ahead, I think that's something they're going to pick up over the next couple of years. You can point them in the right direction, and make it unpleasant when they mess up, but they have to do for themselves really.

Our particular bugbear is homework - like you say, never reads it through so it looks crap and rushed and sometimes makes no bleeding sense at all!

i own one of these and he is now 13..... according to my friends who have 8 boys between the 3 of them, it doesn't get any better (sob) DS has ended up with soooo many detentions because he forgets stuff. i know that the homework is done because we go through his diary and i check his work (illegible writing must be the theme of the year). but he STILL manages to forget it! esp if he's had to work on the PC. always find the work sitting on the printer, waiting to be emailed....(not that i can say anything on that score since i have a habit of doing the same )

i've resorted to putting him up for sale he's a great kid, but this new behaviour is driving me nuts!

so, i've been a great help...

Oh we've had repurcussiond

Oh thank god you all agree.

I'm reassured.

Roar at melty blazer

I was like this minus the detentions.....sweet talker, skin of my teeth person. My mother made me pack my bag the night before, but poor woman as it took lots of nagging.....

Well it's always blamed on my genes but I met an old mate yesterday who said o was really organised at school

Mine has the vague defence that he is Dyspraxic but even taking that into account he is currently taking the piss on a regular basis.

He spent this morning doing some online French thing - verb endings. I said "How is Mr S going to know you've done it - don't you need to print it?". Apparently not. Then he works out via FB this evening that he should have printed it - which means doing the whole online thing again. And you'd have thought some of those verb endings would have stuck first time round, but apparently not. It was like he had never seen French written down before.

And he has his very first spot. It's a good specimen.

But DS1 was worse I think. I cried real tears in a Parents' Evening once - the Biology teacher told me that he'd written a short story about wind turbines in response to a question about respiration. It tipped me over the edge and she fished in her handbag for tissues.

The point of this is that he's a vaguely together adult now with a flat and a job and a degree and stuff. So there's hope.

At my son's school they have games for a full afternoon a week, PE once and swimming twice - I think they just give up and try to run them around for a year then start again in year 9.

There are missing books, missing homework, missed lunches, he mumbles which drives me nuts, there's chocolate melted into his jeans pocket, and on and on and on and on.

my brother went through this
at first it was terribly sweet and then thoughtless, useless and almost exhibitionist

he was moved to a boys school (just before expulsion) and they seemed much better able to deal with it
my mother felt at her wits end at times

lol at these. loving the melted blazer!

DS manages to swwet talk the female teachers, all the detentions are from male teachers. i've been informed that i have to take his report card to the parent teacher meeting so that his (female) design teacher can chage his grade he got a fail because he kept on forgetting to take the project with him. he finally handed it in 3wks after deadline and only got a slap on the wrist......

i'm telling her not to bother. sure it will affect his overall grade but he needs to understand that there are consequences, one of which was me giving permission for him to stay behind every thursday to attend a group session run by the teachers for kids like him. the school tell me that it's a common problem in years 8-10 because that's when most kids are leaning to be more organised. makes sense when i look at his multiple homeworks, all due on different days but doesn't make it any less frustrating

sweet even...

its SO annoying though

and they rememebr the crap - like to buy haribo

oh, and mine does random interpretations of instructions.

eg: this morning i asked him to get me 1 large tin of dog food, he comes back with 2 3 pack tins of dog food at 3 times the price. this was after i had said i only wanted 1 tin because i was heading to the supermarket later....

tidy up your room and put out your laundry= sit on my arse and play xbox

ok you're in charge of keeping your room tidy and i'm not doing your washing unless it's in the basket= wait till down to last pair of boxers and socks, phone granny and get her to do it (put a stop to this asap although MIL thinks i'm cruel)

favourite phrase: in a minute

and the selective hearing (rocks in corner)

This thread makes me feel better. Ds is hopeless, I alternate between thinking let him take the consequences and kicking his bum into gear and making him do the work, but I get sick of he sound of my own voice. I bought him a whole pencil case full of things but he just uses what he can fit in his blazer!

roar at "in a minute"