What age would you advise your daughter to have children?

[Mog]

There has been so much in the press recently about women leaving it too late and there's a thead on here about young mums getting agro. We can't change our own situations but I wondered what age mners would advise their daughter (fictional or otherwise) to have children?

I'm with Hester - 17 would give me a good run at being a grandma! For her sake, I'd say late twenties on.

I would leave it down to her, when she feels ready.
If I could do it differently I do think I was too young (18), and I would like my daughter to live her life more at the age I was a mum, I obviously would like her to go to uni and live a little, become her own person, and be secure and settled before having children.
So I would prefer it if she is at least mid twenties, but we'll have to wait and see what paths she takes in life, and I will be happy whatever she chooses to do.

i've already told my daughter not to bother she will be skint for the rest of her life.

told my sons the same thing too - bought the oldest one condoms but i reckon i will be a granny in the next 5 years sadly.

but i've told them - i won't do babysitting - i'll be down the pub getting pissed.

When she feels ready. But not leave it until late 30's. (Like I did!)

Whenever she feels ready here too...

Since it took me years and years of trying and I ended up with DD at 43, I think she'd laugh her socks off if I tried to give her advice on this one...:-0

30

and when I say I dont mind, I mean as long its not 4 by the time she's 20

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25-30 as well!

23 or 24 i was 24 and i think (for me) that was the perfect age

My ds is 30 and married but has no plans for a family for at least 4yrs. Ds2 is 26 and I can't see him becoming a dad before the age of 30.

Dd1 is 18 and I would be as horrified as she, if she became pg now! With modern day life, I think around 30 is a good time to start a family but trying to get a decent job and affording somewhere to live isn't easy so even 30 can be too optimistic.

when they're ready

If she wants children then as soon as she finds a lovely man who is ready to commit fully to having and raising a family. Hopefully that will be around her late 20s so she will have had some fun and I'll still be young enough to spoil my grandchildren senseless.

Perfectly said Wilbur!

wilbur - I had my first at 21 and I tell you what - from 16-20 (when I got married) I had more fun than I think was healthy for me - the stuff I got up to shocks me now

over 28.

But that's how it should be HRH - we should all look back with a degree of embarrassment, then we know we went as far as we needed to. Anyway, I'm planning to start having fun all over again in my forties - although dh probably won't let me snog as many boys. Definitely going to go on some wild girls' hols with my other battered mummy chums.

lol wlbur at snogging the boys - I've slept with 5 people (including DH - him being the last...........obviously LOL) - all within the space of about 6 months and all Zimbabwean

Started smoking Mbanje (weed) about 8 months before I started smoking cigarettes, and I think the best was a daily diet of a bottle of cheap plonk and a large pizza for diiner every night for about 6 months

It's amazing what we were able to survive on in our yoof - bet you'd feel pants if you lived on that now. I used to calorie count everything like a nutter at Uni and ate ridiculous meals that I thought would make me THIN (and therefore attractive, successful, rich etc). That's another thing I will be hoping dd manages to avoid.

Sliiiightly off topic (esp since you seem to have gone onto shagging and sexual partners and smoking weed since.. QofQ I am SHOCKED!! ).. but 6 y/old DD said to me the other day...

"Mummy, you know I don't want to have a baby? Well I have decided I will now because otherwise you might not be a nanny.. but would it be ok if the baby comes out of my tummy and not my tooty as I think this would be better?'

Cute re the grandma bit.. she had thought this over on her own as she had overheard DS1 (age 13) and I chatting about his probable infertility (he has CF and has known about the infertility aspect for years) and she thought that DS2 probably wouldn't be a daddy because of his disabilities. Altho with DS2 you never know.. he just keeps on surprising us!!!

SJ x

I had mine at 33 and 34, wish I had started slightly earlier, I have been with dh since I was 25, and he was 29...maybe shoud of stated at 30, I might of had an extra one if that had been the case! trouble was, we were having too much fun (still do, but it entails adventure parks and family friendly holidays instead ofpartying and exotic holidays)

id tell her never to have the buggers.