cleanliness of the home and children

[BITCAT]

do u think there is such a thing as over cleaning and is it damaging to a child that has a mother that cleans too much and keeps the children clean and pristine all the time. Thus stopping the children going out incase they get dirty and the childrens imune system not being able to cope with bugs, that other childrens bodies could handle.

Honestly? Based on what you have said on here and nothing else?

I will tell you what is going to happen. Your sister might get a visit. One visit from the first response team and then a letter saying they are taking no further action.

I then predict a spike in her cleaning and hosptial attendences.

Based on your posts, SS will do nothing. There is no case.

'the fact they are so ill so much signals there is a problem' No it doesnt and I suspect the friend of a friend was just being polite rather than telling you to stop over reacting. Are you seriously saying you think these children are going to be killed?

See, I would not hesitate to contact SS if I thought a child was in danger. But I would actually look at the situation properly and take advice.

She cleans a lot
The kids dont go out much
They get stomach bugs and colds.

I am flabberghasted TBH.

The cleaning is probably got a lot to do with anxiety related to her children getting sick a lot. They get sick and she takes them to hospital, a waste of resourses but shows concern for her children's health.
They dont go out a lot? Them and millions of other children for a whole host of reasons.

Re reading your last post - this sounds like vindictivness rather than real concern.

MrsDeVere said it so much better than I did. But it all comes across as very, very spiteful of you.

as i say out of my hands..i havent reported her my other sister has..but i have it on good authority that a child that is covered in bruises from a sibling is seen as pretty serious these days..and the fact that there is a small baby in the house..what happens if she starts attacking her. A child was killed by his own brother not so long ago, so its being tken seriously. There is concern of a condition that is causing her to make up illnesses..i fail to see how 3 different children and herself can be so ill all the time..not a day goes by when something isnt wrong. Whats going to happen when the children have to go to school..welfare will get involved then anyway because her attendance will be poor. They tried say my other sister had ocd and were going to send her to the funny doctors and said children should be able to play. so based on that action will be taken.

I was slightly disturbed that you think the reason your children dont get sick is because you breastfed yours. . . so I'm assuming she didn't breastfeed and you dissaprove?

It does sound as though there may be a problem here but you also sound judgemental.

Some kids do just get sick more then others (I have one that does and the other one did for a while but is better now) and people who have very healthy kids don't understand or have any idea what it is like.

"funny doctors"!
Are you for real??

Also if this woman does need your help I think your attitude means it's extremely unlikely that you will be the person she comes to for help. I just hope that she has others around her who she feels comfortable with.

she isnt a woman for 1..shes a naive little girl and tbh..never should have had 3 young children so quickly..this is why she is not coping...she cannot take the pill and he refuses to use anything else. Ive tried so hard to help her, and offered her a way out..because he doesnt support her and she is afraid of him..i know he hit her and ive offered help and advice and have tried not to be judgemental but when it is thrown bak in your face just because you have a happy life and have supportive partners it all gets a bit much. And my children do get sick, colds, coughs, now and again, they just arent sick everyday of the week, an yes i do believe some of the reasons why they dont get sick very often is because theyve reaped the benefits of breast feeding. That does not mean to say others should do it, everyone has the right to decide how to feed there children, each to there own.