Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Flip

1 2 3

Original poster

whats harder going from no dcs to 1dc or 1dc to 2dcs?

68 replies

familyofthree · 19/01/2011 20:21

hi all,

dont go on this much so please bear with me, i have 1 dd shes 17months and me and my dp are planing our 2nd, just wondered if its harder than going from no children to 1??

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

washngo · 19/01/2011 22:01

0-1 I found so so hard, and 1-2 was easy in comparison. Despite the fact the ds (dc1) was a far better sleeper than dd is. Ihave a 20 month gap (which I agree with whoever said is a crazy lady's game - what in the world wa I thinking??) and friends with a gap of 2 1/2 years or more seem to have a much easier ride. Still debating what sort of gap to leave before trying for dc3 so v interested in all comments on that front...

Firawla · 19/01/2011 22:07

0-1 is the bigger change i think, 1-2 was much easier than i thought. tbh didn't find either too hard really, hopefully 2-3 will be as easy as the other two
as for age gaps my first two are 17 months and i found it easy, in some ways smaller gaps could be easier, both still having nap, in a similar routine etc. mostly depends on the nature of the babies i think, if you have non sleepers, bad colic etc then that's gonna be what makes it hard otherwise it is fine

madamefreckle · 19/01/2011 22:21

Oh lord, since having DC2 I've been saying that 2 is definitely enough...but this thread has made me rethink. Perhaps I do need to throw a third one into the mix.

0-1 was harder I think - I was very miffed about the loss of my previous life.
1-2 is much more exhausting but by this stage you are quite used to exhaustion so it just doesn't bother you so much.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

Families General parenting

maryz · 19/01/2011 22:56

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

melodyangel · 19/01/2011 23:03

by the time we had DS2 it was almost like going from 0 to 1 again...but I would say from 1 to 2 was harder as suddenly you have two that need attention not just a PFB that you can lavish all your time on.

weaselbudge · 19/01/2011 23:18

I've got a 15 month gap and to be completely honest i don't know how on earth i would have coped in the first few months if dh hadn't been on garden leave during that time. Admittedly it almost ruined our marriage as he thought he should be able to use this time for hobbies

Dancergirl · 20/01/2011 12:54

Sorry to disagree with the majority but I found 0-1 easy-peasy. She was a dream baby though.

1-2 I found v v hard for about a year. Small gap though - 21 months. Was worth it now as they're good friends.

GooseyLoosey · 20/01/2011 12:59

0-1 for me was terrible. 1-2 was not so bad. 0-1 rocked my world - nothing prepared me for the utterly unrelenting nature of having a baby. I felt for a while that it had destroyed my life. I guess whn no. 2 came along, there was nothing left to lose. I think it depends on what your expierience of no.1 was like.

Tootingbec · 22/01/2011 14:45

0-1 hard "I've ruined my life, why in the name of God did I want a baby etc etc"

1-2 much easier - no hovering around PFB, dabbing their delicate bottom with mineral water etc. 18 month age gap and DS had to fit in around his big sister from the word go. Not to say we haven't had a few moments of "what were we thinking in having another baby?" but generally not half as bad as I thought it would be....

pipoca · 22/01/2011 14:58

reading with interst as due in May when DS (dc1) will be 3.2. At the moment (suffering HG) I think it has to be easier than being pg and at least DS is at nursery in the mornings. Found 0-1 Haard work.

Sopster · 22/01/2011 15:07

Found 0 -1 really easy and a lovely time in my life, just chilling with my little boy. 1 - 2 I found SO MUCH harder....Always feeling guilty that no 1 gets no attention anymore and no 2 doesn't get as much attention and no 1 got when he was her age...and I am comstantly exhausted and frazzled!! I have an almost 3 yr age gap. Hope you fare better!!

blametheparents · 22/01/2011 15:09

Definitely 0 - 1
1 - 2 was easy peasy by comparison

I've never tried 2 - 3. Thought we'd quit while we were ahead!

DanJARMouse · 22/01/2011 15:16

I actually found 0-1 quite easy, but I had a lot of experience with babies from friends of mine.

1-2 (15mnth gap) was actually not bad either, I treated them like twins a lot of the time. DD2 was also a sleeper so she just slotted in!

2-3 (2yrs 1mnth after DD2) was BAD! Although DS is wonderful, was a fab baby, I have days where I think to myself WHY did I have 3 kids?!

Now the youngest is 3, oldest is 6, it is still bloody hard work, but easing.

whysolate · 22/01/2011 15:25

Even with 9 months between DC2 and 3, I can honestly say going from 0-1 was the most difficult for me.

MistleToad · 22/01/2011 15:37

Reading with interest as I'm currently newly PG with DC2. DS will be 4 when baby arrives, infact baby is due the day DS is due to start school!

WoTmania · 22/01/2011 15:49

I found 0-1 most difficult, 1-2 easier and 2-3 was a piece of piss. This is my main argument re: having another 1 with DH

Mishy1234 · 22/01/2011 17:05

1-2 without a doubt. Just trying to keep a toddler entertained when you're bf a baby was a nightmare. You're stuck on the sofa/bed feeding and they're tearing the house apart around you! Various strategies help and it does depend on the age gap too.

juuule · 22/01/2011 17:13

0-1 for us.

Flip

1 2 3