Top 3HARDEST Parts of having 3CHILDREN?

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Firsly how old are they?

Then the 3.

Ill start...

Mine are 4.5, 2.5 and 10mth.

1 - the guilt of feeling im never giving each child enough individual Mummy time.

2 - Combating homework with my eldest

3 - Struggling to run the house in combination with caring for the children..always feel like im a step behind

oh no i neeeed a 4th...

DS is 3 and we are ttc DC2

1. Finding time to cook healthy meals and not just grab ready meals or preroasted chickens from tesco

1. Feeling that I am never quite doing enough with my ds and feeling guilty for even 10 minutes of the day when I don't interact with him and he's watching TV even though I spend hours doing play dough, painting, moonsand etc.

1. Leaving DS when I go to work.

Sorry don't have 3 children!

I have 3 ds aged 12,10 and 4.
It is a bit hard sometimes because of the age gap and the youngest sometimes not being able to join it. Otherwise not really much different for me than having 2 was.

dds aged 11,9 and 6
All at different schools so remembering what is going on at what school and sending back the millions of bits of paper!
Dropping off and picking up from after school activities with correct bits of kit - at least once a week I drive to the swimming pool instead of the dance school/gym/Brownies or wherever I actuallly am supposed to be going!

can see how bigger age gap could be hard in that way..i am lucky that my first 2dcs play well (most of the time)&and also included my ds too, im hoping it stays that way!

My dd1 has just started school and has homework which is hard to do at 4pm along with babies dinner and our dinner and them all ready for bed at 630..think this will get easier when dd2 is also at school too as she is fairly advanced and wants to be doing my dd1s homework!

Washing..omg, dont even go there..it is never done!

3diff school that would be soo hard i get confused with dates and form with one at school.

Clubs - ive stopped them bar swimming lesson as my fourth is getting in and out of the car..all 3still in car seats!

dd1 6
dts 2

1. having 3 of them trying to sit on my lap at once. Yes, my lap is generous but not that generous

2. housework or the distinct lack of time to do it. Bollocking washing

3. Not being able to afford to work and therefore having to watch every penny.

5, 3 and 20 weeks

1. getting no sleep
2. feeling guilty DC1&2 are so tolerant of me moaning, shouting and generally being a dreadful mum coz DC3 is being rather 'challenging'.
3. doing absolutely no housework or housekeeping and trying to believe that this is normal and isn't important (I mean, it's fine people saying that doing the cleaning and shopping isn't important and 'to sleep when the baby sleeps' ha ha ha ha, but with a husband who works more than full time how is this sustainable?) I'm 100 steps behind, seriously!!

RANT over Adore having 3 BUT definitely no way we are having a 4th - you are mad .

I have 3

11,
10,
8.

The eldest was 3 and 6 weeks when the 3rd was born.

The hardest part?

Only having 2 knees for them to sit on!

Actually the REALLY hardest part is that dc3 is severely disabled. Everything else pales into insignificance after that.

meltedmarsbars you're right, a threadkiller! Now I feel humbled. Right, now i'll get my arse off the sofa, off Mumsnet and go and start the housework!

stickchildren3 - im so with you on the housework front!

meltedmarsbars - def put our moans into perspective, but also i need to know sometimes that people find aprts hard too...so a can kick my arse into gear

Oops, sorry, I'll get back to the SN board where I belong!

meltedmarsbars don't go!! your 3 look roughly the same age gap as mine (only older obviously). Any general tips that stand out from their early years as to preserve sanity?!

ds1 9
ds2 3
dd nearly 2

Laundry
Getting out in the morning
Mess

Stickchildren: - I'm not that sensitive any more!

1. Never mind the mess - clear the floor when they go to bed
2. Ignore what they don't eat, they will not starve themselves.
3. Get everyone out of the door once a day, even if only for a 10 minute walk.

Any most of all, ENJOY them! Mine are bigger now and not cute toddlers anymore

Only having two hands...

Washing
Trying to cook homemade
Clubs

Mine are 21mnths, 6 and 9

Oh and school run phhhh

DS 4.2
DD1 2.5
DD2 0.8

1. Getting them suited and booted and in the car when it's just me and I'm in a hurry

1. Mealtimes when it's just me (lots of 'mummy, I need more water', 'mummy I want...', 'mummy, I need heeeeelp'

1. Can't go swimming with them even with DH there

1. (sorry!) Most rides, public seating etc. are aimed/designed for families of 4. Not a major issue with DD2 still a baby but I can see it will be

DC 9, 6 and 4
The CONSTANT talking and never being able to converse with DH when children in the same room.

MINNIEMUMMY Yours are very similar ages to mine, i can avoid going out just at the thought of getting into the car!..Which makes my ultimately can maje my day more trying as im fine once we are on the move!..just hard to motivate to that point sometimes..esp as ds (10mth) doesnt sleep through.

And meals time...i joke with dh sometimes that i get a 5pm headache lol! When everyone is talking at me at once and everytime you sit you can get another, can i have a drink etc.

I try now to have every poss thing covered and on the table before i tell them its ready..still lots of talking or 'mummy, mummy, mummy' esp dd2 2.5yr she constantly asks questions and repeats herself constantly too until she gets an answer..its fine most of the time bless her but for some reason hard at mealtimes

omg...'which means ultimately my day can be more trying' ...lack of sleep

meltedmarsbars, bless you! You don't know how good it is to read advice like that because it is just all to easy to forget their gorgeousness (!) and wallow in the stuff that, I guess, really isn't that important. What do you reckon normaltofeelthisway ? I do remember worrying, a lot, about DD1 and her faddy eating, but she's now a very healthy, robust 5 year old and I am absolutely not going to loose sleep about the same inevitable problems with her baby sister!

DSs aged 7.10, 6.10, 2.10 and 10 months

1. Not enough mummy to go around
2. Not enough hours in the day to allow me to sometimes just Be Me
3. Not enough Solomonic wisdom to be able to referee fairly between DS1 and DS2, grrrr why can't they just fecking get on??

'Tis hard, but would I be without them?? Well sometimes yes Never!