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Daughter wearing trousers to a wedding

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Julia3000 · 22/12/2010 19:18

My 8 year old daughter wants to wear trousers to my sisters wedding. She turned down being a bridesmaid as she didn't want to wear a bridesmaid's dress and my sister was adamanent that the bridesmaids would match. She does wear skirts sometimes but they tend not to be "girly", like short denim skirts for example. I really think she should wear a skirt or dress- it doesn't have to be that feminine. What do you think?

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AngelsfromtherealmsofgloryDog · 22/12/2010 20:01

When I got married I asked one of my friends if she wanted to be a bridesmaid but she's definitely not a girly girl. She turned it down as she didn't want to wear a bridesmaid dress. So she was an usher in coat & tails instead. Grin And she looked fantastic.

funkingcart · 22/12/2010 20:04

Ohh Angels - a wee girl in coat and tails.

How FAB would she not look??!!

fluffles · 22/12/2010 20:06

WTF!!! is this thread SERIOUS Shock

I would wear nice trousers to a wedding, or a skirt, or a dress, and i wouldn't think TWICE about a child of either gender wearing smart trousers to a wedding.

Sad what is the world coming to? Sad

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llareggub · 22/12/2010 20:09

I don't think I'd even register whether a young girl was wearing a dress, skirt or trousers. She'd just be in clothes.

I really, really don't understand this thread.

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Julia3000 · 22/12/2010 20:09

"Ohh Angels - a wee girl in coat and tails.
How FAB would she not look??!!"

I agree- but with her brother in a kilt- I think it'd be a bit odd- especially as she's teasing him about wearing a "skirt" already!

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funkingcart · 22/12/2010 20:11

Where I am a wee girl in trousers would be noticed. it was when it was DD1 in a skirt and leggings (not on the wedding or anything)

Julia - the two of them would look like individuals who have their own minds and aren't sheep.

I honestly think they will both look fab whatever they wear.

As an aside, what age is your DS?

TurkeyMartini · 22/12/2010 20:11

So the people that are scandalized -- what is it that's upsetting them? Do they ever say?

I mean is it that they think girls in trousers is ... rude? I assume it is, but why would they think this? Is it that secretly they think trousers on a girl are sort of wrong generally, but they have had to accept they are ok as playwear in this fast modern world, but THAT IS ALL AND ANYTHING MORE IS IMPROPER? Xmas Hmm

It just seems so odd and so very blatantly sexist and like something from many years ago.

I can see the prob if the trousers were scruffy, but equally if a girl was in a scruffy wee pinny-type dress. But if the trousers, or the dress, are smart and suitable, then I would genuinely LOVE to know what the actual grounds are for somebody objecting.

Those of you who know these weirdos, please ask them and then tell me Xmas Grin

LadyBiscuit · 22/12/2010 20:11

I've worn trousers to a couple of weddings. Very glam, not at all everyday trousers, but trousers all the same. WTF is wrong with that?

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Julia3000 · 22/12/2010 20:12

She's 8.

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funkingcart · 22/12/2010 20:14

Women don't wear trousers TM

They wear long skirts down to their calves.

And no make up

And they have no opinion that isn't the same as their husbands

And women shouldn't have the vote but since they do they should vote how their husbands tell them

And the female orgasm is unneccessary.

And you wonder why he's the EX? Hmm

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Julia3000 · 22/12/2010 20:18

I think I should have mentioned her brother in the original post- this seems have developed into an arguement about girls wearing trousers in general- not what I intended at all. People don't seem to read all the posts- Oh well- you live and learn!

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PutOnThePan · 22/12/2010 20:19

Could she wear tartan trousers or kilt and be a page girl? That would be lovely!

I'll probably be flamed but trousers on girls can sometimes look awful - wrong length, falling down and getting wet and worn through when they walk on them in their cheap and inappropriate ballet pumps..... Or is that just the teenagers at my local comprehensive?!

funkingcart · 22/12/2010 20:19

Welcome to MN!!

Seriously though, I think she should wear whatever she likes and will be comfortable in.

LadyBiscuit · 22/12/2010 20:22

Well if her brother is happy to wear a kilt and she didn't want to be a bridesmaid, then she can wear trousers or a skirt can't she? If you think she's doing it to make a point, the very worst thing you could do is make a big deal of it I think. Ignore, go along with it and the sting will be taken out of her rebellion.

Tootlesmummy · 22/12/2010 20:23

I wouldn't make a big deal out of it for either your daughter or your son.

If your son isn't happy to wear a kilt then don't make him if he is then he'll be fine.

Take your daughter to get a decent pair of trousers and a nice top, don't think she won't look nice she will.

Haribojoe · 22/12/2010 20:52

As long as they are smart, she looks nice and is comfortable I think trousers are perfectly acceptable.

fluffles · 22/12/2010 21:02

surely there'll be men wearing kilts too so your DS won't really be the only male in a 'skirt'.
and there'll be adult women in trousers so your DD won't be the only female in trousers.

i just don't get the problem???

unless your DS really doesn't want to wear the kilt (and the adult men are not wearing them) in which case this is about the DS and not about your DD and what she's wearing at all.

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Julia3000 · 22/12/2010 21:37

"Could she wear tartan trousers or kilt and be a page girl? That would be lovely!"
I think it would be odd with him in a kilt and her in tartan trousers. I'd rather she just worn smart trousers than that. I might mention to her going as a pageboy as well though- she might go for it! (I doubt it though!)

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Julia3000 · 23/12/2010 10:02

I'll never understand them!
She's decided she does want to dress like her brother. I must admit, I never thought she'd go for it!
It looks as if my kids will both be "pageboys" then- with matching kilts and everything!

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perfectstorm · 23/12/2010 10:45

There are lovely smart trousers out there - if it's what she'd be happy in, why not? It's not like she'll be centre stage at a wedding anyway, and awful for her to feel silly wearing a dress when she'd be happy in trousers. There'll be adult women in trousers looking fab so why not a little girl?

perfectstorm · 23/12/2010 10:46

Oops just seen the resolution - excellent. :)

coldtits · 23/12/2010 10:51

Kilts are lovelt on boys and girls....

And, can I point out, that "boy's" clothes are warmer and more comfortable.

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Julia3000 · 23/12/2010 12:32

I guess its ironic then that they have now both opted to wear a skirt (oops, kilt!)

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Julia3000 · 23/12/2010 12:37

They look quite similar - apart from my daughter is a bit shorter and has longer hair. I'm hoping I can get outfits that exactly match. If I can persuade my daughter to tie her hair back, maybe in an elaborate plait they'll look fantastic!

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MyNameIsWendy · 23/12/2010 12:40

You should tie her hair back with black ribbon, if she'll let you.
You're right- they'll look stunning together!