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Attachment parenting - if you don't do it...?

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hunkermunker · 23/09/2005 21:42

Why do people describe themselves as practising attachment parenting? Are people who don't follow all of the basic premises of it detached parents? Or can you pick and choose?

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hunkermunker · 23/09/2005 22:22

Only till January, DIT...well, January 2007 anyway

Am likely to be huge again, I think.

Oops, DS sometimes wakes up genuinely terrified in the night - clings on and whimpers. Am sure he has bad dreams. But according to some parenting methods, he's manipulating me. Well, I consider myself well and truly manipulated then

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emkana · 23/09/2005 22:22

To bed I will go.

Good night all!

expatinscotland · 23/09/2005 22:24

Isn't that where you co-sleep and walk round w/baby in sling and such?

No, can't say I practiced attachment parenting. PND and attachment parenting didn't seem a good mix.

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WestCountryLass · 23/09/2005 22:24

Emkana and Dropinthe, how old ar eyour babies?

You are both EN I take it? DD is 15 months and loves the boob as much as the day she was born which is a lot. I have no idea how to wena her off, DS weaned himself, any hints?

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hunkermunker · 23/09/2005 22:26

WCL, DS was like that. He self-weaned at nearly 17mo. But I think that me being pg helped - I guess that's a bit of a drastic step, isn't it?!

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MrsSpoon · 23/09/2005 22:26

I'm semi-detatched and practice passive parenting.

oops · 23/09/2005 22:27

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expatinscotland · 23/09/2005 22:27

I don't think I could afford attachment parenting. I cannot afford to be a SAHM, so this baby will need to be weaned by the time I go back to work after 4 months of maternity leave.

Don't have any facilities for expressing milk, storing it, etc.

expatinscotland · 23/09/2005 22:27

I don't think I could afford attachment parenting. I cannot afford to be a SAHM, so this baby will need to be weaned by the time I go back to work after 4 months of maternity leave.

Don't have any facilities for expressing milk, storing it, etc.

dropinthe · 23/09/2005 22:27

EN? Enlighten me?

emkana · 23/09/2005 22:28

All right, just sneaked another look.

hunkermunker, you do realize that you're just making a rod for your own back.

WCL, my dd2 is 25 months old. Tbh I think at 15 months they are often very passionate about the boob. If you wait a few months and go with the flow it will become easier to distract her/lay down some rules. My dd1 self-weaned at just over two, and I could probably get dd2 to stop now if I put enough effort into it, but I don't want to yet!

dropinthe · 23/09/2005 22:29

Hunker-your M&S advert is on-"This is just not food its the best bloody food in the whole wide bloody world and you are a sad loser if you don't buy it"!

Barf!!

Good night all!

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hunkermunker · 23/09/2005 22:29

EPIS, you can work and bottlefeed and still practise AP, apparently.

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dropinthe · 23/09/2005 22:30

Sorry-my "babies" are nearly 4 and 2!

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hunkermunker · 23/09/2005 22:30

Yes, am HunkerRodMaker

DIT - what's specifically getting to me re that ad atm is the way she says "raspberry".

Has anyone seen my life? PMSL!

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expatinscotland · 23/09/2005 22:30

Yeah, HM? But the sleep thing. That'd be a tough one. I have two jobs and am starting a degree course as well. Don't know that I could cope w/sleeping with baby in same room past 6 months.

emkana · 23/09/2005 22:31

EPIS, I agree with hunkermunker there. The essentials of AP can be followed even if you have to work. How do you feel about co-sleeping?

MrsSpoon · 23/09/2005 22:31

Made a firm decision not to use a sling (although did borrow a couple of different types from friends to make sure I had made the right choice) I was convinced I would trip, fall flat on my face and flatten baby. As it was I did drop DS1 whilst carrying him when he was 7 months old, I tripped and fell so certainly in my case was right with this fear.

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hunkermunker · 23/09/2005 22:32

You don't have to co-sleep either, I don't think.

Hmm...not sure I know anything at all, really!

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emkana · 23/09/2005 22:32

Crossed posts. I found that sharing a bed with dd2 actually made for far more restful sleep than I ever got with dd1, who was in a cot in the beginning.

Gobbledigook · 23/09/2005 22:34

Hunker, what is your question?

I didn't really breastfeed, never mind 'on demand', I didn't use a sling, I didn't co-sleep and I did do 'controlled crying' with ds1.

I did give up my career to be a SAHP though - the boys are perfectly cuddly, loving, secure and 'attached'!

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hunkermunker · 23/09/2005 22:35

Don't really know what my question was, GDG - just rambling re parenting styles, really!

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Gobbledigook · 23/09/2005 22:36

Ahhhh.

WestCountryLass · 23/09/2005 22:36

Sorry, EN = extended nursing.

I wouldn't mind another but not yet, maybe when she is nearer two but i've no hope as I haven't had a period yet because she is on the boob constantly!

Nearly everyone I know says 'bitty' when I need to feed her these days

dropinthe · 23/09/2005 22:37

Everyone is different-we all have different parenting styles-we all think we are right and we all love our kids-end of!