Kissing teenagers goodnight

[PrettyCandles]

As the dc get older do you continue going into their bedrooms to kiss them goodnight when you, yourselves, go to bed? Does there come a point when you wouldn't go into your teenager's room while they sleep?

My dc are 2 and 6 and I don't go into their bedrooms when they're asleep. I would definately not be doing it with teenagers

I'm more interested in whether DD will stop coming into my bedroom when I'm asleep when she reaches teenage!

I still check on ds3 who is 4 just before I go to bed. Other 2 are 8 and 11. They sleep with doors open so I can see the light is off and all is quiet so don't actually go in anymore.

Ha ha! You need to read "I'll Love you Forever" as the mummy goes on the bus across town and climbs in her son's window when he's an adult!!

Erm, I suppose it would depend on the kind of relationship you have with the child as to kissing them goodnight.

I see nothing wrong with a peck on the cheek goodnight however old the child may be, so long as they are comfortable with it.

However I do believe that when they reach their teenage years they are old enough that they do not need (and most likely not want) checking on in the night.

I hope I won't be that sort of mummy, BigTeuch!

Of course we'll follow the dcs' lead on this, I just want a sneak preview!

Our eldest is 10, he still collects kisses goodnight, and we still go in to him when we go to bed.

I never went in to kiss DS once he was asleep, even when he was tiny. He was a light sleeper and would wake if you tried! I restricted myself to standing quietly at the doorway listening to him breath (and grunt and fart, he was a noisy baby). But even that stopped when I stopped thinking he might not be 100% ok overnight on his own.

I don't go into his room without knocking now, and wouldn't go in when he's asleep unless I needed to wake him up.

Well, I do kiss my children goodnight, and hug too. However, as they are 16 and 19, they are often in bed after me, so it takes a bit of timetabling. Sometimes I give them a kiss when they're in bed, but not asleep.
I kiss my boy in the morning as I perform my human alarm clock duties. DD has zen hugs as she's currently about 200 miles away.
What can I say? We are a tactile and affectionate bunch.

thank goodness for the Goblins, was getting a bit worried there.

My Mum still kisses me goodnight when I am staying at their house and I am 31. I sincerely hope to continue doing so with my children when they are teenagers (4 and 1 at the mo)

i kiss and hug mine all the tinme

saw my eldest son (21, is his birthday today) and gave him a sloppy one right in the middle of morrisons today.

but dont do bedtime kisses

My boys have high sleepers, so I couldn't kiss them even if I wanted to . However both of them come and give me a kiss and a hug all the time and they always kiss both me and DH before going to bed. They are 13 and 11 btw.

Grimma my thoughts exactly!!

OP my 2 are 1 & 4 & I cautiously check from the doorway that they are tucked in their covers - there is noway I could get into their bedroom & out again without waking 1 & probably both of them

For these with light sleepers: my dc3 was a terribly bad sleeper - the least noise or chink of light in his room woke him, not to mention the sound of my voice! Just mine, anyone else speaking quietly didn't wake him. We certainly could not creep into his room as we could with the others. But in the past year he has improved enormously, I can put his clean laundry away in hisroom, lift him for a wee or change his pyjamas if his nappy leaks, without disturbing his sleep. He's 4 now. So there's hope!

No

My teens kiss me goodnight and head out the door just as I'm going to bed

My boys are still quite young, 3 and 4, but I definately kiss them before we go to bed and plan to do it for as long as they're happy with, as Goblin and Lancaster said my family is a very kissy huggy family and although once they're teenagers I may not go into their bedrooms at night I shall forever expect a hug before they leave the house, whether they're embarrassed cos their mates are there or not!!!

x

On a different note my sister's little boy (5) said to her a couple of weeks ago that he thought my husband didn't love him because he didn't kiss him goodbye when we left.

My dh was really upset, he hadn't purposely not kissed him goodbye, just been busy getting our 2 out of the house etc. Since then he keeps making a point of going over the top and grabbing him for huge hugs and big kisses, my nephew thinks this is hilarious. Think our kissy family has already rubbed off on the kids and we shall be kissing and hugging forever more!

Dd (14) wants me to look in on her when I go up to bed- ds (10) otoh shuts the door and does not want any intruders after he's said goodnight. I just go with the flow. But I do read them both a bedtime story , though not necessarily after they've been to bed.

Mine are 13, 10 and 8. I go in when they are all in bed and give them a kiss. The 13 year old insists on lots of hugs too. I don't check on them after their lights are out, but I ususally have to keep an eye on DD1 and DD3 and make sure they stop reading at a sensible time.

Mine are 14 and 11 and I kiss them in bed every night at 8.30.
Ds comes in bed every morning for a cuddle at 6.45.

DS is 13, and still wants to be "tucked in" and given a kiss/cuddle before he goes to sleep every night-about 10 pm.

We have quite a tempestuous relationship on the whole, being just the two of us most of the time, so I appreciate the fact that even though he is often really vile towards me he is not embarressed to kiss/hug me in public, and tell me how much he loves me on a regular basis-especially just before he goes to sleep

Long may it last

mine are 3.5 and 18 months, go in and check them once they have fell asleep and once before I go to bed. No kissing once asleep though, get plenty in during the day

Oh I do.

I did have cause to ask ds1 (14) recently if he still wanted me to, only because I went in one night as usual to kiss him goodnight (and switch off his lamp) and saw rather more than I really needed to .

But he said he was fine with it and actually liked it, so I merely mentioned that he might like to ensure that he always wears pants/pjs in bed.

Well DD is 2 and I've never really gone in to kiss her goodnight once she's asleep. Too worried about disturbing her. I only ever do it if I wasn't there at bedtime for some reason. But I do hope that the kiss at bedtime will still be around for a long long time to come, even if it's just a peck on the cheek.

Shodan
Happens to us all at one time or another.
Even if you knock, they sometimes forget.