Am in shock at MIL actions! Am I too sensitive?

[inkyminky]

We visited my MIL & FIL this w/end. They live a long way away and this is only the second time they have seen DS since he was born, now 4 months old. They encouraged us to go for a walk and relax after the 4 hour drive, I stressed my concerns as DS has has colic and is generally a very sensitive baby but worried they thought I didnt trust them so off we went...returned 1 hour later with DS screaming his little heart out, lying in his cot with poor FIL not knowing what to do, the MIL didnt like the crying so she had taken the dog out for a walk!!!! DP thinks the sun shines out of her bottom and said I have to appreciate she is quite old (in her 60's). hhhmmmm.

inkyminky, I sympathise. My MIL had forgotten what it was like to have a new baby, I am convinced. When we went to stay there I was breastfeeding and was always starving - no food between meals, no early meals ; later, no concessions whatsoever to what food the children liked. It was a nightmare for my SIL and myself when they were small, but it does get easier as they get older and more independent. Also I think you get less sensitive and more hardened to what your MIL is like. She sonds somewhat selfish and insensitive - like mine. You just learn to cope, I guess, and it does get better, honest. Dh I find is caught between us - if your MIL is a bit of a despot, there won't be much he can do !! That's what it was like for me, anyway. I used to try and get out of seeing her as much as poss !