Surely everyone does stuff like that? Don't they?

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Please, please confirm that I am not alone in doing the most utterly ridiculous things to please my ds's.
Just one example from a list of many - letting my ds1(10) eat my Special K with red berries for breakfast, but picking out all the red berries for him because 'they go soggy in the milk'.
You might ask why don't I just buy regular special K without the berries, but that's no good because 'it's just not as nice'...rods and own backs spring to mind and I need reassurance!

I pick out all the pecans from my Oats n More cereal for my dc. No, you are not alone....

I pick out all the raisins in the muesli for me!

weeellll - I'm not sure it's quite the same, but whenever we cook things that contain chopped mushrooms, I usually pick the chopped mushrooms out of DS's dinner otherwise he has a Refusal To Eat it - or will eat it until he spots a piece of mushroom and then wail (he's 2.10) and have a Refusal at that point. So it works in my favour to take them out of his dinner but we still get the benefit in ours.

I think that's possibly the sort of thing you do in desperation for a toddler that won't eat, but yes, to do that for a 10 year old is I think really quite odd. Not so much letting him pick out the berries, but doing it for him. If you don't mind, then why on earth don't you have him do it for himself?

having got a 10yr old myself, and knowing how LONG he would take to do something like that........

I think I'd probably take them out for him as well - and I'm a mean mummy that makes them (10 and 6) get their own breakfasts in the morning and a whole host of other mean mummy things

like getting them to make coffees for you, you mean, MaMo?

Buy regular Special K, take the cereal in the plastic bag out and put it in a Red Berries box. Exclaim out loud how clever Mummy managed to pour a whole bowl of Red Berries Cereal without a single rec berry in it/feign picking out berries.

Bet he can't tell the difference

In a week, tell him what you've been doing and only buy normal Special K from then on and save yourself the hassle. :)

The only thing I do for DS (3) is to butter his toast as soon as it comes out of the toaster to ensure all the butter melts. He won't eat it if any is un-melted

I don't do things like this!
I will selectively not serve chunks of onion, pepper or courgette to ds, but that's as far as I will go.
How do you find the time to pick bits out of cereal?!?!?!?

You make the time .

My ds1 is 17 and I still remove the onions from spag bol/chilli/curry etc and cook his peppers for fajitas seperately.

I thought it was only me daft enough to do stuff like that.

Sorry but there's no way on this good green earth I will tolerate that sort of behaviour from my two boys! Ridculous pandering imo. I'm very happy for them not to eat something but we've told them from day one to simply move it to the side of their plate and not to play with it. And yes, I've had two extremely fussy eaters (one still is).

My kids eat the food I provide for them or go hungry. I'm not running a sodding restaurant, let alone an a la carte menu.

I'm not at all keen on people picking bits out of food, but I will turn a blind eye if they do it VERY discreetly.

It'll be a cold day in hell before I pick the bits out for them.

You are out of your mind.

Blatherskite, I like your thinking re cereal box subterfuge.

My DD doesn't like the raspberries in those but she likes the rest of the fruit. Removal of Unwanted Drupes is down to her.

Dorset Cereal's meuslis are the best. But christ on a bike WHY? must they persist with sticking bloody raisins in them. :(

Can the lady who picks out the pecans please forward them to me?

All dried fruit is the work of the devil. Horrible, shrivelly, elderly fruit. Yuck.

What you're doing is madness OP but you know that. I am 100% sure I do something equally mad for DD. As long as you're not doing it when he's 16 .

My only cereal rule will be that Weetabix must be eaten in pairs. Uneven numbers are disallowed and will be punished by withdrawal of privileges.

for goodness sake.
i think you all need to pull yourselves together.

that's exactly what I mean Thumb

feel it's only fair to do something for once a day you know

I'm zure I do some utterly ridiculous things for my DS's - having only just woken up again I can't think of any.

I bet you ALL do something for your children that other parents would think you were a little bit mad for doing (note the OP doesn't ask if we all do daft things with food - just in general)

Sorry, my 10yo makes his own breakfast.

if ds wanted to pick bits out of expensive cereal, I would tell him he knows where the shops are and he will have to buy his own in that case

poor op - everyone is zoning in on the fussy/faddy food thing - without admitting what things they do for their children that is just plain daft and pandering.

I'm still half asleep - but DS3 has just reminded me of one of his.

I always ask DS3 what colour straw he wants, and if he's going through a particular colour phase and is requesting one colour more often ad we're runnning out I've been known to go to the 99p shop to buy another box of straws even though we've still got about 1/2 of the other box there.

If DS1 and 2 make him a drink they just give him any colour straw - and he actually odesn't care

It's not the fussy eating, MaMo; it's the thought of sitting down and dealing with a 10yos bowl of food as if they were a toddler. We are talking of a child who will be going to secondary school next year, a child who within a few years will need to start thinking about career options and who will soon start thinking about girls.

To me, this has similar ring to if the OP had confessed doing the same for her dh.

I am with cory on this one.

Even my 5 year old picks out the raisins from his muesli, he has negotated a deal with his 8 year old brother, who loves raisins, so he gets them added to his muesli.

you've missed my point I think. Yes in this instance it's a bowl of food that's being pandered to. But across the whole spectrum of our parenting I'm sure (as I think most of us on here are fairly decent parents) that we all do something or other that is really rather silly and pointless and unnecessary - just to keep our child happy and that other parents would go "but WHY do you do that".

thankfully I tend not to think too much of what other parents would think of my parenting so I'm actually struggling without my DS's being here and monitoring what tings I do for them to think of what I do other than the straws thing.

But I know my BF gives her DD breakfast in bed - because her DD likes breakfast in bed and is more likely to get up and ready for school properly that way. I personally thinks she's bonkers - you get up, get downstairs, get your own breakfast (and she knows I think she's nuts) - not have me coming up and giving it to you while you're still in bed