Do you have "me" time, and what do you do with it?

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DS1 & DS2 are 3.5 and 1 years old, and Dh & I both work full time, so whatever time we have in the evenings and weekends we tend to devote to the kids. However just recently I've realised I simply have no "me" time, since at weekends we are either together with the kids, or have one each, and in evenings after they're in bed and we've eaten we just 'blob' in front of the TV, or finish chores etc.
At weekends if DH suddenly announces "I'm going to paint the garage/ wash the car/ etc this morning" I get really grumpy 'cos it means I have to look after the kids, and yet I suppose I could equally say "I'm going to make some curtains/ do some DIY etc" but he always seem to beat me to it!

What do other people do? Do you give each other 'time off' to pursue hobbies etc, and if so what?
I used to go to the gym a lot and I really need to get back into something like that.

My DH does exactly the same. If he's looking after DD while I'm busy getting on with some chore or other the first thing I hear is him asking her "shall we watch the cricket?". Argh, drives me nuts.

It gets easier as they get bigger. While I'm sat here DS2 & 3 are playing beyblades noisily at the bottom of the garden, DS1 has retreated to his room & DD is at boyfs house yet again.

I have a ballet class once a week; have a 1 or 2 hour bath once a week; and once a year DH try to go off on holiday for a week on our own. This year we took the mob but then had a weekend away for my birthday instead. I don't find it at all difficult now (but it was a different story altogether when they were 6, 5, 3 & 1 & I didn't think I'd ever be shot of them! or go to the loo in peace.. I remember it well!)

ds2 (3) now asks dh if there is any cricket on!

make jam
so does soupdragon

codswallop doesn't though - she is crap at jam-making

Sorry my son is 9 soon To show how little time I have he needed something while I typed and put in wrong age.That has to be the worst when you have to do something and they constantly nag.I sometimes think they nag worse than my mum.Hope you got that massage EmmaTMG.

Sorry my son is 9 soon To show how little time I have he needed something while I typed and put in wrong age.That has to be the worst when you have to do something and they constantly nag.I sometimes think they nag worse than my mum.Hope you got that massage EmmaTMG.

sorry comp messed up

I have said this before on here but it is so true. As a mother 'me time' is never offered - you have to demand it. Sad but true.

I don't get alot of time alone either, my dh is a chef and works 5 nights a week so on his days off he plays golf, football etc. He doesn't ask he just tells me and if I complain I get accused of nagging. However if I want to go out I have to tell him well in advance, and I feel I need to 'ask' him to look after ds. Also because of his long hours and late nights I have to ask for a lie in aswell - and he usually says no!

Beacuse I hardly ever go out, if I do get the opportunity I now feel it is too much effort nad would rather stay at home with ds. Sad or what? But when I do go out I always really enjoy myself and wonder why I don't do it more often!

Princess pea head makes fluid jam that never sets.

Can I mix it with mine then as mine sets like toffee......

At the moment I don't make jam, I simply stone thousands of plums instead.

Why?

Do you do it to the death or just quite gently

Let she who is without sin cast the first stone.....

Because my jam recipe told me to!!

I work 4 days a week and Dh is a manager in a restaurant and works nights, so that one of us always has DD. I guess my "me" time is on a Saturday night when dd stays at my granny's house. I'm free to do whatever I want and usually if dh is working I'll go and meet him from work and have a drink or if he's off we'll maybe got out for a meal or just go out for a drink.
I suppose I also get lots of me time when dd is in bed and dh is working, which is almost every night of the week and I spend that time very well reading mumsnet and catching up on e-mails.

I have recently started organising 'Me' time and once every 4-6 weeks or so I try to get a day or 2 away and I offer to look after DD so that my wife can do the same if she chooses.

Usually I try to go away and stay with my g/f or she comes to me when the wife has her days away.

Usually it is just time to relax as I have found most of my hobbies are on hold since DD arrived.

I do sometimes get granny to look after DD on a Sunday morning so I can see a movie though.

Does G/F mean girlfriend!!!
Some friends I know have "date nite" on the same night every other week when they go out together, even if its only to do the shopping, but more likely dinner or film. Personally I prefer more spontaneity (in reality sometimes means not being able to oranise help to be able to get out when you want to though...)

Davros

Yes g/f = girlfriend

I try once a week or a fortnight to have me( dh does shifts) time i go for a facial shopping sauna seat and eat chocolate and know that i dont have to share. Once a month i meet friends for dinner