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What should I do???

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 20:34

It was my dd's first day back to school today - starting year R.

She was very excited about going. It came to brekfast and she started moaning that she didn't want to eat it. I told her she had to eat something before school - got cross with her messing about and forced her to eat some. 2 mins later she was sick.

Anyway, she seemed OK - no temp or anything, so I took her into school and explained the situation to her teacher and said to call me if she was unwell.

She stayed at school all day - ate her lunch and came out with a beaming smile and lots of news about her first day back.

She had a snack after school and a small sleep.

At tea time she maoned and said she felt sick and didn't want her tea. I told her she had to go to bed if she was unwell and if she doesn't eat her breakfast she can't go to school.

I'm in two minds about what to do. I don't want her to get the message she can easily get a day off school but I'm not sure why she wouldn't eat her tea. She's not the best eater and I'm worried this may be the start of something. When she is sick it takes her a while to get the courage to eat anything again.

Any ideas?? Is it just a ploy to avoid her dinner??????

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 20:34

whoops - I meant starting year 1

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 20:45

anyone???

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starlover · 05/09/2005 20:45

My brother did this on his first day of secondary shool! i remember it well
it was just nerves

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 20:46

But she had a fantastic time at school - what if she won't eat tomorrow - do I send her to school having not had any dinner or breakfast?!?!?!?!?

I'm really worried I'm going to send out the wrong signals on this one!!!

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WideWebWitch · 05/09/2005 20:48

I wouldn't go the 'don't eat your breakfast you can't go to school' route personally, the 2 shouldn't have anything to do with each other and she does have to go. I would be low key about it and if she doesn't want dinner let her go hungry, don't react. Are you sure she's making it up? See how she is tomorrow but I'd play it down if I were you.

WideWebWitch · 05/09/2005 20:48

If she's hungry she'll eat lunch and then supper tomorrow won't she?

sansouci · 05/09/2005 20:49

Sounds like nerves. School is scary, esp. 1st day. I wouldn't force her to eat & experience says (my dd is a "small" eater, too) encourage her to eat but do NOT give her any treats until she eats regular meals.

sansouci · 05/09/2005 20:51

hate to say this on MN but dd often goes to school without b'fast. i send her off with some dried apricots or raisins. Some people just can't eat as soon as they wake up.

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 20:52

She hasn't got a temperature. She played on her bike when she got in from school, bounced about all over her dad and moaned when I said if she was ill and couldn't eat her tea she had to go to bed so I don't think she really is ill.

I don't know why she'd put it on though....???

Trouble is because she's a bad eater we normally have to force dinner down her. But because she was sick when I did that this morning I gave in at tea time and said "fine, just go up to bed then".
Now I wonder if she's playing on this sick thing to get out of eating - which I definatly don't want!!!!!

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 20:52

She hasn't got a temperature. She played on her bike when she got in from school, bounced about all over her dad and moaned when I said if she was ill and couldn't eat her tea she had to go to bed so I don't think she really is ill.

I don't know why she'd put it on though....???

Trouble is because she's a bad eater we normally have to force dinner down her. But because she was sick when I did that this morning I gave in at tea time and said "fine, just go up to bed then".
Now I wonder if she's playing on this sick thing to get out of eating - which I definatly don't want!!!!!

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 20:52

She hasn't got a temperature. She played on her bike when she got in from school, bounced about all over her dad and moaned when I said if she was ill and couldn't eat her tea she had to go to bed so I don't think she really is ill.

I don't know why she'd put it on though....???

Trouble is because she's a bad eater we normally have to force dinner down her. But because she was sick when I did that this morning I gave in at tea time and said "fine, just go up to bed then".
Now I wonder if she's playing on this sick thing to get out of eating - which I definatly don't want!!!!!

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 20:52

She hasn't got a temperature. She played on her bike when she got in from school, bounced about all over her dad and moaned when I said if she was ill and couldn't eat her tea she had to go to bed so I don't think she really is ill.

I don't know why she'd put it on though....???

Trouble is because she's a bad eater we normally have to force dinner down her. But because she was sick when I did that this morning I gave in at tea time and said "fine, just go up to bed then".
Now I wonder if she's playing on this sick thing to get out of eating - which I definatly don't want!!!!!

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 20:52

She hasn't got a temperature. She played on her bike when she got in from school, bounced about all over her dad and moaned when I said if she was ill and couldn't eat her tea she had to go to bed so I don't think she really is ill.

I don't know why she'd put it on though....???

Trouble is because she's a bad eater we normally have to force dinner down her. But because she was sick when I did that this morning I gave in at tea time and said "fine, just go up to bed then".
Now I wonder if she's playing on this sick thing to get out of eating - which I definatly don't want!!!!!

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 20:53

Whoops - sorry!!!!!!!

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starlover · 05/09/2005 20:54

but my brother really like dhis day at school too!

he was sick because he was really nervous about going, even though he enjoyed it while he was there.
6 weeks off is a long time at that age and things can seem quite scary when you have to go back again

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 20:57

dh has just been up to her and said does she want something to eat and a bath. He said if she still felt sick she'd have to stay in bed until she feels better (knowing full well she's bored sitting up there) and loves her bath times.

She said she would stay in bed!!!

I really really don't know if she's putting it on or not!?!?!?!

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 20:58

I can understand the excitement and nerves this morning - but why at dinner time???

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starlover · 05/09/2005 20:58

well wait and see tomorrow

starlover · 05/09/2005 20:59

maybe she is worried now because she was sick when she had her breakfast... perhaps she is scared she'll be sick again

debutante · 05/09/2005 20:59

You could try offering a star or sticker on school uniform to show new teacher for being fantastic at eating a little bit of breakfast. If you haven't got any stickers to hand then draw a tiny smiley face on index finger so that she can show to friends and teacher.

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 21:04

I just find it odd that she ate her lunch OK at school - and had a snack when she got home!!!!

I'll have to try the sticker thing. Thanks for the idea deb!!

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sansouci · 05/09/2005 21:06

i wouldn't worry. she's unlikely to starve to death, is she?!

sansouci · 05/09/2005 21:06

is she not?

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 21:08

She won't starve no - I just don't want her to develop a phobia about eating!

A friend of mine has a little boy who developed this after some sickness. They had to go to the Dr's and have lots of tests done - it turned out to be 100% psycological

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sweetheart · 05/09/2005 21:09

trouble is that how do you explain to a 5 year old that it's not the food making them sick - it's their brain.

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