Raising a daughter,how wonderful is it?

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a few months ago,i saw a thread which talked about the joys of raising boys over girls,my DD was only a few weeks old,i didn't know anything. i was wondering if there are any mothers willing to share their own joys of raising girls,

For me,DD is devine,i can be in a group with other mothers,DD always gets the attention,i can be walking with a friend who is carrying her son,DD gets greeted,touched,complimented,you name it,i look at my little girl and wonder how on earth i carried such a beautiful human being,

please do share,what can i look forward to in future,what do you enjoy doing with your DD that you do not do with your DS?

I'm amazed someone would say that about boys being the 'second prize' as I've always had the feeling the general sentiment was the opposite, people always seem so proud to have boys. Maybe that's because in my immediate family on both sides there have been way more girls than boys, so when I was pregnant, and both my SILs it really felt like the whole family was waiting for at least one of us to have a boy.

Plus DD2 is only 3 months old and I've already been asked several times 'aaahh... are you going to try again for a boy?' Makes me mad, my 2nd daughter is just as precious as my first!

I think tbh so many people think the optimum is to have one of easch, so people with two the same always get comments.

Fair enough icontrol .

puthekettleon, I think you're right re: "the optimum is to have one of each". I have seen that one here too ("I'm so lucky because I have one of each" or in RL, "we have the perfect family, one of each"!).

"As long as the celebration of one is not the derision of the other" - exactly .

I'm amazed that boys are considered as second pize. I was a bit worried when I heard I was expecting a dd as I remember what I was like as a teen. I think that young women have more to worry about in today's society. More social pressures for sure re appearance, wieght, boys etc.

However, I love dd and I'm glad to have her. Each gender has their own merits. We are lucky we don't live in a society where girls are considered inferior to boys.

I have 2 DD and whilst I was desperate for a son the first time round (no idea why, just a deep down feeling) I am, of course, totally in love with my DDs.

For me, I'm looking forward to doing all the things with my DDs that I didn't get to do with my mum. I love the idea of going wedding dress shopping with them, watching them have pregnancies/babies, supporting them bfeeding (if they bfeed, no pressure!!) and the other things that are mum-daughter things.

I have one of each. Both bring their own joys!

I'll tell you what I love about my daughter...

I love that we sit on her bed in the evening and talk (DS only wants to play action man and is a man of few words!)

DD and I rub lotion on each others feet and paint our toe nails while she tells me about her day (just started secondary).

I dry her hair, she straightens mine. We put make up on each other.

We lay in bed and cuddle and talk about stuff.

She laughs at my dance routines (yes, I have many) and she hates the fact know the words to her music (tis only for young people you know).

She hugs me every day.

She rolls her eyes at me and huffs off upstairs.

She hides my high heels under her bed (we are the same shoe size god dammit)! and I can never find a little black bag when I'm going out for the night.

I have swooshed glittery blusher 11 shades too dark across my cheeks with MY blusher brush just before leaving for work because she has been experimenting with make up!

There are million things that are wonderful about her and I love watching her grow up and share stuff with me and wonder about the stuff she hides from me.

Thank you everyone for your posts,just a little bit of information,i come from a culture which looks down upon girls,and i grew up having to take all sorts of crap from my big brother and male cousins because they were men-

my grandmother and my dad's family asked him to divorce my mom when i was born because i was his 3rd daughter,it didn't happen and my dad gave me a beautiful name that means cherish,meaning he was gonna keep my mum,come hail come 10 girls,

girls were seen as so much less than boys,thank God for wonderful dad,he didn't see it that way,he wanted me educated and sent me to school,something which made the family think he was having an unhealthy relationship with me,

i got as much education as i could,left my home country for another,2007 i moved to Europe and my eyes were opened.i live in a scandinavian country,they celebrate women and children,did my mentality suddenly change because i had moved?no,as with everything these things take time,

i got married,we TTC,it happened the second month(may i say this had nothing to do with me,God was just merciful and graceful by allowing me to carry a child)a lot of people try for years,we were thrilled,i instantly 'felt' that it was a boy,during the pregnancy i would browse boy sections for clothing,nothing pink,i hated pink,
my DH was all for a girl,i thought i wanted a boy because thats what my mind was telling me,we decided not to find out the gender

the day of the birth,the doctor pulled her out and announced,its a girl',those were the most beautiful words i had ever heard,not because he said them,but because i was so happy that i had carried a baby,a real baby,my very own baby,full term,finally the baby was here,not once did i feel sad,

back to my OP,i was just looking at things from my culture's point of view,it made me feel honoured that strangers would even want to touch her at all,a girl,my little girl,not the little boy next to her,for once in my life i was seeing something difference,a change,genuine appreaciation,these people don't know me,yes my dd is just another cute baby,but to me,its totally different,looking back where i am from,it just makes me smile when i look at this little girl and know i gave birth to her,thats what i was feeling when i posted,it came across as corky,and a lot of other things,but bear with me mumsnetters,i am just a mum,who has been placed in a lovely world,where the word equal is even heard,would you hold it against me?i did not mean my post to ssay girls are so much better,just the opposite,i hope this makes sense,and once again to all the mothers i offended,a sincere heartfelt huge apology

and FWIW,I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE A BOY,but since i can not decide what i want and get it,i am only pleased that i have on DD already,and even if i do not have a boy,another girl would lovely too.

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Tooblessed, I understand, although I haven't been there.

I have two dds and ds. So many people assumed we were trying for ds which is why we had a third baby but neither of us were fussed.

Anyway, dds...

Dd1 loves talking about the meaning of life and the universe and will spend hours and hours talking and exploring ideas. Dd2 doesn't communicate in the same way but is as open and loving as a flower. Dd2 in particular loves all the pretty stuff but all three of us have happy evenings painting toenails and having foot rubs.

Best thing is that they both spend hours brushing my hair.

But then so does ds!

Gosh, your story has made me cry (I am pregnant, so that's my excuse!) thank goodness for your dad!
You should be proud of yourself and your lovely DD. The moment I first held my DD was the most amazing and beautiful moment of my life and every day she does something to make my day (I even love her stubborn streak!)

Tooblessed, that was a lovely post. Your dad sounds amazing.

Aw, see, now when you post it like that, it's a whole different and very beautiful story, all about empowerment and the right and proper appreciation of women (and girls). Not a bit like the 'my girl is better than my friend's boy', which is how your first post came across.

I'm very pleased that with your move to Europe you've come to see how women are just as deserving of... well.... everything as men, and I'm very happy your DD will grow up to realise her full potential.

I wish more women from oppressive cultures could have the same realisation.

Tooblessed - no more apologies, my dear. Just enjoy your lovely girl

I've really enjoyed reading all of these posts about everyone's lovely, funny and interesting daughters, so thank you for starting this thread.

My 8wk DD has just started smiling lots and admiring lights and mirrors today (was in a lot of pain with reflux and wind til now so spent more time crying than smiling over the past few weeks ), I'm just so smitten with her and really excited about watching her grow.

spiritmum - oooh, i hope my two like brushing hair

I have 3 DD's - I can honestly say they are great til they hit 13 - then, BEWARE! you will wish you had a boy. However I'm hanging on for the time when they come out the other side..............

I don't think the op meant anthing awful at all..........

The thread about having all boys was along the lines of IIIRC "eeeek I've just had another boy, when maybe secretly would have wished for a girl so please reassure/talk to me about what's fab about having all boys......"

Probably just saw the thread about having boys that was a few months ago (that didn't result in a slanging match and was quite a nice thread) and thought so, what's good about girl then too let's talk about the too????

Try not to take it to heart op xx

Thank you mrsmc82,i guess i was feeling not so good thats why i took the negative posts to heart,i was so happy and full of love for my DD that i didn't realise that i made it sound like my friend's little boy is so ugly that no one wanted to touch him,

it was plain joy,thats all,and i didn't want to post that long post at the beginning,so i tried to shorten it and well,

my dad is the most amazing man alive,well,there is a competition,DH is,whats the word,its made up,HORRIBLY AMAZING,thats how i describe him,

SIL has a boy and a girl,i noticed that when my SIL was quiet,her DD would go and curl on her lap,play with her hair and touch her face etc,and ask her 'whats wrong mummy?,the boy would get in the house,look at them and say'mum i am hungry,when do we eat?,i thought that was funny,i enjoyed watching how she interructed with them,so different,

Further to my recent post I would like to retract and add that it's mostly true for 3.75 weeks in a month but that crazy .25 of a week a month makes me want to move out.

Hurrah for 2blesseds lovely DD

hugs OrmRenewed

embraces dandylioness warmly.

i know what you mean,my mother was like that as well,she loved my brother more than us,she was not horrible or anything,she was just more caring towards him,which made me run to my dad,who made sure to tell me everyday that he loved me

years later,my 5 brothers and one sister have all moved in with my parents,in the house that i built for my parents,ironic really,so is life,the only thing that makes me feel better is my dad rubs it in by reminding them of their words,ah,i could write a book,lets celebrate these girls,i am so glad that my little girl is going to have a chance,and hopefully never have to feel that she is less that the boys,

your DD is lovely BTW.