Talk to me about 2 under 2 please.

[pissedrightoff]

Had a positive pregnancy test today, DD is just 13 months old.
Thought we would start trying last month as took us a while to get pregnant with DD after an ectopic pregnancy. And lo and behold...BFP.

We are very happy but did think it would take a LOT longer than this, so DD will only be around 22/23 months old when new baby arrives (all being well)

My Mother did not even say congratulations when I spoke to her earlier, just started going on about how I'd NEVER cope with 2 under 2 etc etc.(lovely,supportive Mother I have)

So can any other parents who have a similar age gap between their children give me any hints/tips/reassurance/cheering up.

I have the same age gap. Its do-able but I lowered my standards to rock bottom and my family helped out a lot. I had a c-section too so made sure I didn't do anything for a while.

IIRC cbeebies was on all day (for DS so I could bf DD) and we ate lots of M&S ready meals for a few weeks. Double buggys are essential IME, I have no desire to make a grizzly toddler walk in bad weather when I just want to get home.

You will be fine .

congrats - until friday last I had 3 under 3. dd1 turned 3 last fri, dd2 2 on monday and dd3 is 7 weeks.

It's sometimes overwhelmingly tiring but often easier than having only one who needs constant entertaining or a big age gap where they want to do different things.

number 4 next yr or one after!

There are 21mths between my 2 girls.

We were exactly the same.. Started trying thinking it would take a while and fell first time!

There were times in the first few months that were pretty hairy but generally id say its been ok.
Oh course some days are worse than others but you get through them and sigh a big sigh when they are both in bed! :)

They are now 4mth and 2.2yrs and are starting to interact well with each other. DD1 will pass toys to DD2 and is very loving towards her. Its very sweet to see.

Routine wise, DD2 has found her own routine which fits around DD1's really.In the early stages its just whatever goes I think.
Definately agree with getting them to help out. If I change DD2's nappy, DD1 is there like a shot desperate to get nappies ect for me.

We have no family nearby and no nursery so its just me and the girls but we manage pretty well, so its definately doable!

Ingore your mums comments. The day before we found out my MIL was going on about how we didnt want to have any more children yet etc. DH and I were cringing knowing that there was a chance I could already by pregnant (and was!) She was fine once she got used to the idea. My mum was rather indifferent when I told her (but thats a whole different thread!)

Congratulations and you will be fine! :)

i have 12 months between dc2 and 3, who are now 20months and 8 months. i also have a 4 year old!

it is hard work but my youngest two have a lovely bond and i found that as dc2 was still so young he did not get jealous when dc3 was born, he just accepted her.

totally agree with the others when they say try to get into a routine so they nap together. my two are asleep now and if they didnt have this nap i dont think we would ever leave the house!

congrats and good luck :)

my son was 20 months when his sister arrived,it was hardish going,i also worked part time and had an older child,but you soon get into a rountine.

Once the newborn is fed and changed they usually sleep,so you can then deal with the toddler.I had a huge silver cross pram,as i walked a lot and had a little seat on the top for my son,i also had a small buggy,if hubby took the toddler out..

good luck and congratulations you will love it,and while small they do play together,until teenage years, and they hate each other lol ...