HELP. I am having real problems with GP leaving tablets in reach of children AGAIN

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I am getting so mixed up with this one.
recently, I had a problem with my Dad leaving tablets on his bedside table where my 3 yo DD and 1yo DS could access them easily. I posted on here about it.

Then to my releif, I went round, and he had them in this special bag so that he could quickly put them all on top of his wardrobe when we arrived.

My DD is staying there tonight. Was just chatting to Mum and she said that DD ran off hiding something. hey couldnt find it, and were asking her what it was. They asked her if it was tablets and she no. In the end , they concluded it had been a packet of salt out of some crisps. Mum then said her tablet draw was shut. It turns out that in her bedside table, in the top drawer she stores all her medications.

My DD sleeps in her Grandma's bed. So I said to Mum, "Does that mean that she is now in your room, alone (admittedly asleep) with tablets in a drawer next to her?"

Mum got really cross, and said that it was their house and there was no where else to put them. DD didn't touch tablets anyway.

I don't know what to do now.

I am worried, because 1 yo DS is now toddling and I have another one on the way.

I don't think its safe, but Mum is getting really narked now, she blames it on my anxiety.

Also, when I was a toddler I had to have my stomach pumped out because I swallowed some of her tablets.

I bought my folks a lockable vanity case - very easy to move, can fit tons of drugs in it safely. AND they now know where all their pills are.

MiL dropped some pills down the side of our sofa last time she visited and just left them there because she couldn't reach them. I found them luckily when I was cleaning.

how the fresh hell are lollies "dangerous"?what a disproportionate alarmist fuss about the lolly

I agree lechat I have 3 young boys, and have never needed a corner protector, or socket cover or any of that crap. I went to a friends house a while back, they have locks on every cupboard, soft edges added to everything, even the toilet has a child lock, ffs, I needed to get someone to help me before I could use it.

I don't understand the need to remove every single slight or vague possible danger.

"ease up on toxic parent psycho-babble"

I did say that OP should not be put off by the title of the book which I recommended.

Yes it is called "toxic parents" but it is perfectly possible to read it even if you get on mainly pretty well with your parents and get a lot out of it (clarity over relationships with parents/easing of guilt/strategies for dealing with parents).

TBH part of the reason I recommended it was I remember another thread OP posted along a similar vein. There was more info there about how OP's parents were basically trivialising/teasing her about her anxieties.

Personally, I think that OP's parents behaviour - refusing to store meds according to basic safety standards - bearing in mind that their own DD had her stomach pumped as a child FFS are demostrating behaviour which could be said to be "toxic".

I think that parents can take "more risks" with their DCs as they are in their own home, know where the risks are, know they have their eye on the DCs.

GPs are older and dont have children in the house all the time.

Please can anyone posting on this thread say honestly that they would be happy for their DC to sleep in a bed in a room on their own for several hours knowing that there are tablets on the bedside table.

I believe that OP means not ice lollies but the lollies which are a round sticky ball on the end of a thin cardboard stick.

These are not recommended for DCs under 3 years old.

It is common sense to ensure you monitor your DC whilst they are eating when they are at least 3 and under. The problem with lollies are that they take ages and ages to eat and it would be pretty difficult to ensure a DC stays still whilst eating them.

It does not sound IMO that OP's parents would be vigilant enough to ensure safety around lollies.

Given that OP has admitted she has anxieties why make her feel bad for not permitting something which even the packaging discourages.

doh.im not assuming ice lollie at all.given they melt and all that

there is potential danger in everything. if one choses to see risk many things are risky.

"I asked her not to give her lollipops yesterday because I read on here they could be dangerous" is a very alarmist pov

So what if OP didn't want lollies given for dental reasons - would that be acceptable?

It doesn't matter who thinks/doesn't think it is reasonable etc.

Those in loco parentis need to follow the rules and wishes of the parents.

She's 3, she can understand about not touching.

is more sensible than lolly danger and choking obstruction

GP's and family are in fact adults you deem safe but they will watch,feed,engage as suits their preferences,abilities etc.any parent who genuinely believes in their absence the gp is adhering to a defined protocol and regime is kidding themselves on.big time

granny giving kids sweeties is text book,they all do it.

OP has a 1 year old DS also.

OMG is he in lolly danger too.bet granny gives him sweeties too

campaign to ensure supervision and immobilisation when eating lolly.cant have weans randomly moving about

as you say "

I haven't read the whole thread but I can sympathise with the OP a little bit.

We visit my MIL a lot and she loves looking after DS (9 months). She has 4 kids and 4 GC's so lots of experience with children. I, on the other hand, have a PFB.

BUT my DS is a little livewire and can cover lots of ground very quickly, and is obsessed by anything he shouldn't get his hands on (wires etc). I know when she's alone with him there are going to be times when she has to leave him on his own (toilet break, dealing with FIL, normal life). At home I block him in but it's not practical at her house. So lst week I suggested we buy her a playpen she can use, and she wouldn't hear of it!!! This was despite him destroying her printer the week before when she went to the loo. Last week I turned round whilst sat at her table and found him with his hands in a box of pin badges......! The PP could have been a travel cot that we could keep put of the way in her loft when we weren't there but she was adamant that he is NEVER left on his own. This is of course impossible but she remained adamant...

This in turn makes me nervous of leaving him with him which is horrid.

It's not really fair to say "their house their rules" as if they agree to babysit for you (which is wonderful and for which we should be very thankful) then all necessary safety methods should be used. And if the mum is particularly anxious about something (and it's not riduculous, meds are not ridiculous) and it's very easily solved then why not do it???

lets campaign for immobile lolly eating weans.as has been noted lolly "take ages and ages to eat and it would be pretty difficult to ensure a DC stays still whilst eating them"

god yes cant have them eating and walking for example

ROSPA info on choking for OP and her parents.

"Never let children run with objects in their mouths or while they are eating."

ROSPA info on poisoning:

Poisoning

Most poisoning accidents involve medicines, household products and cosmetics. Some poisoning agents can cause breathing difficulties - seek medical attention immediately.

Over 28,000 children receive treatment for poisoning, or suspected poisoning accidents every year.

Prevention

Keep medicines and chemicals out of sight and reach of children, preferably in a locked cupboard.

Wherever possible, buy products in child resistant containers.

Always store chemicals in their original containers.

Dispose of unwanted medicines and chemicals safely.

Avoid buying plants with poisonous leaves or berries or those that can irritate the skin.

SM you make me

OP you are being a tad over the top and if you are really worried about your DC, you would not leave them with your parents, whether it would cause an upset or not.

You cannot legislate for other people's behaviour.

or to paraphrase SM get.a.grip

so you did a big cut&paste.well done.in rl children eat lollies and walk too.in rl grannies give sweeties

if we are playing the danger game i could link you reasons for admission to A&E inc tripping over slippers.shall we ban slippers.

wow SM, you are cross tonight!

bemused about lolly danger.walking and eating.hell triage will be overwhelmed with obstruction and soft tissue injuries if that kind of malarky continues

aye SM, choose a thread, any thread. I could get into an argument every night on the BF/FF debate. Or any other debate involving stoopid parents.

what are you on about

who, me?

nah the lollipop wummin who escorts weans.omg a lollypop woman how v reckless carrying a lolly near children